I partake in p4p to relieve a fuck itch nothing more, nothing less.

1) yes, as someone whose P4p experience goes back over thirty five years, and who spends countless hours on this forum, I often give advice on the subject to women in this business, especially newbies to the trade. I have been offered certain considerations at times for my help, but have never accepted. Accepting money would put in in that pimp category (at least in my own mind) and I wouldn't feel very good about myself, free sessions are only accepted by me if the woman simply likes me and wants to fuck my brains out "off the clock" because she likes me, not because of any sense of obligation.

2)No I have never done any of the activities you have mentioned, and I doubt I ever will. I am not much of a "joiner". As to feeling any "obligation"??? No not for a fucking minute, I do things for people because it makes me feel good, not out of some misguided sense of obligation. I don't give or accept things based on a lie or manipulation.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but I don't feel "obligated" to do a GD thing I don't want to.

As of this posting I am not actually in North America, I am in Colombia, but I am a lifelong US citizen who happens to hobby in many different countries.

which is not too often and that is fine with me.

I have attended one SWOP (Sex Workers Outreach Project) event and enjoyed it very much.  I'd like to attend another some time.

I have not made any large contributions to their cause, but I do what I can.

This question is sort of prompted by an email, and a long endeavor in Europe.  I am pretty familiar with things in Europe (esp. Germany), but I wonder how different things are here in the U.S.  Please answer regardless of where you are, although if you're outside North America, it would be helpful if you noted that.

Ladies:

1) Who/what can you most credit with getting you into escort work (friend, agency ad, etc)?

2) Where did you (mostly) learn how to do your job well (friends, coworkers, agency boss, on-the-job mistakes, etc)?

3) Have you ever used any sort of 'formal' education materials (sex worker advocacy documents, materials like those available on www.becomeanescort.com*, etc)?  If so, which did you use and did you find them helpful?

[*I am not affiliated with this business in any way; it was just high on a Google search I just did, and seemed fairly reputable/reasonable/popular]

4) Do you find it difficult to find professional advice/help specific to sex-work?  Do you wish there was more information available?

5) Escorts: Have you ever done other sex-related work (stripping, porn, online or phone sex chat, brothel work, street prostitution, etc)?

6) Are you active in sex worker advocacy or new sex worker education?


Gentlemen:

1) Do you sometimes give the women you hire professional advice?  If so, how well is it generally received?  Has a prostitute ever given you money/services in exchange for your expertise/advice?

2) Have you ever participated in a sex worker advocacy/rights event?  Have you ever donated significant amounts of money or time to sex worker advocacy or women's rights causes?  Would you be interested in doing so?  Do you think you have an obligation to do so?

Thanks for the opinions/help, everyone.

1) Who/what can you most credit with getting you into escort work (friend, agency ad, etc)? No one. I always found sex work rather "alluring" and I read a few books about Hollywood "madams" and finally took the nerve after many years to jump in!

2) Where did you (mostly) learn how to do your job well (friends, coworkers, agency boss, on-the-job mistakes, etc)?Personal life...I've been sexually active since I was 16. Not to mention "on the job mistakes" helps you as well.

3) Have you ever used any sort of 'formal' education materials (sex worker advocacy documents, materials like those available on www.becomeanescort.com*, etc)?  If so, which did you use and did you find them helpful? nope. I think the escorts selling those "how-to" are a bunch of crap. Why is she not escorting anymore and offering the "course" for $20?

[*I am not affiliated with this business in any way; it was just high on a Google search I just did, and seemed fairly reputable/reasonable/popular]

4) Do you find it difficult to find professional advice/help specific to sex-work?  Do you wish there was more information available? Actually sites like ter.com help you connect with other like-minded people whom you can ask questions to without being judged.

5) Escorts: Have you ever done other sex-related work (stripping, porn, online or phone sex chat, brothel work, street prostitution, etc)? I like to stay discreet and annonymus so I only escort.

6) Are you active in sex worker advocacy or new sex worker education? Not at this time. I want to stay low-key and not draw the radar to me. Possibly when I am older I'd like to be apart of this.

I became an escort a couple months ago and I think it was one of the brightest ideas i have ever had.lol basically i got in the business after having a few sugar daddy relationships, oh and i absolutely love the show secret diary of a call girl,I think the first time i saw that show i was convinced i wanted to become a high end companion so i got on my laptop and started googling oc escorts ect.. I did my research and started off working with an upscale agency and just recently decided to go indy!I think one of my biggest resources in learning how to do my job well was TER.Reading other peoples reviews totally saved me in the begging because i got an idea of how other girls entertained there clients and i learned all the slang terms like gfe ect..

I haven't participated in any sex worker advocacy/ women rights events because i do not think prostitution should be legal!I think it takes a certain type of girl to work in this biz and if it were legal a lot of young girls would get too caught u in the industry but that's a whole other subject lol
I hope I answered your questions for you!!
                                                               xoxo Lilly Lockhart

                                               

-- Modified on 12/30/2010 2:50:05 PM

Ha, yea, Secret Diary of a Call Girl.  Has this series become the new 'Pretty Woman'?  You know the blog that SDoaCG is based on, right?  http://belledejour-uk.blogspot.com/  Brooke is mostly hawking her books lately, but if you go back in the archives there are some fun reads.

I like the way you've used TER, Lilly.  Smart.  Seems like this site could profit from some expansion, at least in banner ads.  TER could make more money and also help increase professionalism by steering service provider eyes to provider & agency business resources.

1) I have given financial advice when asked, but it was the same sort of advice I would've given a friend, so I wouldn't expect to be compensated.  I don't work in an industry that lends itself to a barter arrangement (doctor, dentist, optometry, legal services), but I don't think it would be professional to accept "services" from a client in exchange for my expertise, and I would expect the same type of payment for my time and services as any client would pay.  

2) it would be professionally and socially disastrous for me to participate in a sex worker advocacy group.  I have donated significant amounts to support charities that are women focused, and I would financially support a sex worker advocacy group and women's rights causes (I suppose you mean with respect to sex workers rights), but the donation would absolutely need to be anonymous.  I don't feel obligated in any way, but I feel we are all in the human experience, and this a particular experience/ condition is one that I participate in, so I have a sense of connection to the topic.

1) Who/what can you most credit with getting you into escort work (friend, agency ad, etc)?
No one; I've wanted to do this since I learned how to play with a man's toy. Got into it when the time was right (i.e. after my kids were grown & flown, and my folks were gone).

2) Where did you (mostly) learn how to do your job well (friends, coworkers, agency boss, on-the-job mistakes, etc)?
Years of retail work (customer service with a smile), years of BDSM play (acceptance in the sexual field for anyone's quirks), a few on-the-job errors in judgment (like not making myself clear in marketing).

3) Have you ever used any sort of 'formal' education materials (sex worker advocacy documents, materials like those available on www.becomeanescort.com*, etc)?  If so, which did you use and did you find them helpful?
I bought books, I studied many many sites, and I peppered questions at the one I knew

[*I am not affiliated with this business in any way; it was just high on a Google search I just did, and seemed fairly reputable/reasonable/popular]

4) Do you find it difficult to find professional advice/help specific to sex-work?  Do you wish there was more information available?
Yes - at least as a newbie. It's STILL damn difficult to find some information (the excuse is, "I'm not giving you my nuts and bolts on how I do that" even though doing so can make it safer for the newbie, or more profitable.  

5) Escorts: Have you ever done other sex-related work (stripping, porn, online or phone sex chat, brothel work, street prostitution, etc)?
Nope. Just freebies over the years before I took the plunge

6) Are you active in sex worker advocacy or new sex worker education?
Aware and taking part in posts on different sites, yes. Marching on the streets, no.

Luv, ya, babe!  Especially that little red angel/devil outfit.  Rock on!

Gentlemen:

1) Do you sometimes give the women you hire professional advice?  If so, how well is it generally received?  Has a prostitute ever given you money/services in exchange for your expertise/advice?

A.) Yes, I do. I have told a few ladies to screen that don't. I have told them about what happened to my wife, how she was raped and didn't feel she new enough about the guy to even go to the police. (She was also afraid the may just arrest her if she did.) I even showed a few how to do so using me.

As to how it was received, most acted interested as I was a paying consumer and how ever I wanted spent the second hour I booked was fine with them, but didn't start to screen. One, my former ATF got busted and learned what kind of SOB LE can be. One I know is now screening her clients, so I feel I have done some good in giving free advice, even if most did't listen.

No, none of the ladies offered any compensation, and I would not take it if she offered any form of compensation. I am not a pimp. The advise was given out of concern for the ladies safety not out of and selfish motive.

2) Have you ever participated in a sex worker advocacy/rights event?  Have you ever donated significant amounts of money or time to sex worker advocacy or women's rights causes?  Would you be interested in doing so?  Do you think you have an obligation to do so?

A.) No, because both me and my wife are involved in the business and I have a son it is best in my opinion if I don't draw to much attention to ourself. We have a kid to protect, and I seen how ruthless LE can be if they want to. I have donated money to SWOP once or twice, anonymously. But at this time it is as far as I will go. I don't feel an obligation to do any more than I have nor did I really feel obligated to do what I did.