I had this experience with a provider last week and was taken back a little at what she asked me. This is how the scene unfolded: As I entered her hotel room she led me to the foot of the bed. She gave me a quick kiss on the lips and started to undress me. When she looked up, she paused then asked me these two questions. "Oh no, you are not married are you?" In response I grinned slightly and said, "No." She continued to look me in the eyes and then asked, "Then why are you doing this? You're a handsome guy." I then stated to her, "I just broke up recently with a girlfriend." Which was the truth. That was the first time a pro (she is a well reviewed provider here) ever asked me that, which got me to thinking. I didn't mind the q&a because I only hobby when I am not in a serious relationship and I am not the marrying type, at least for right now. I understood she was curious because I get asked other types of questions when with providers, based solely on my appearance but this was the first time one has asked this particular question. The interaction just peaked my own curiosity. My question is, what questions have providers or clients asked you personally that either surprised you or made you ponder why the question was asked in the first place and how did it make you feel? Did you ever see the person again within the hobby?
I had the exact same conversation with a provider, not that I'm Brad Pitt. A couple times she said with real interest, "You don't have to pay for girls." I wanted to say, "Then can I have my money back?" It actually made me kind of sad. She seemed legitimately interested in what my story was being there. It kind of ruined it for me.
I never had a provider ask me something like that, although one had an "I know why you're here" attitude (I wrote the review accordingly). However, if a provider asked me that, I would not come back. Sure, it may be a misguided attempt to give the guy a compliment, but "misguided" is the key word here.
but my problem is with most of the ladies I have met - why are they there - most are well educated, intelligent, beautiful and quite capable of doing whatever they wish. I am just grateful that they are there.
There are certainly things that can ruin a session very quickly, such as cellphones and being rushed, but the role of fantasy is overstated, IMO. The only sessions I truly enjoy are those when I am totally focused on the person I'm with, not thinking about some fantasy GFE or unrealistic lover. If I have a scenario going in, including clothes, toys, whatever, it becomes a disappointment -- I like spontaneous interaction and wherever it leads. A good provider who gets into it will sense what's working and take you where you want to go, hopefully getting considerable pleasure out of it herself. I'm not knocking role play -- but for me, I've always found reality more of a turn-on.
if they want to tell me, that is fine. I don't care if they are married, as most of my clients are. Why would I want them to think about a wife, when they are coming to see me! Seems like to me, it would ruin the fantasy!
A question, that I have been asked the most is, what is your real name and I tell them Kelly (which is my real name) and they still don't believe me!
Kelly
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I once had a well-reviewed provider ask me if I saw many other providers.
The response affected whether a BBBJ was on the menu or not. Quite naive on her part I thought.
I once asked another "well reviewed" provider if she liked my well shaved area.
She responded with a flat "NO, I like a real bush on a man."
She should have lied.
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Unless they broach upon a taboo topic [examples of which for me are the parental units, or amy part of my childhood]] I usually just discount provider conversation as well-meaning filler and time-killing. I'll answer everything honestly, except for those which require a little white lie.
For those bothered by specific provider questions, i recommend answering and then asking her the exact same question. She'll get the hint very quickly.
What's the implication on the part of the provider? "Handsome" guys shouldn't be paying for it? Strange attitude given the stated benefits of hobbying that have nothing to do with the client's looks.
The answer is quite 'easy' I think.
Human beings are generally curious.
Especially when you meet someone who you never met before. When you are there to enjoy someone's company its quite normal that you want to find out a bit about them...or maybe its just me?!
In my case If I am not be able get to know the person a little bit, it looses the whole point of me being there. For me being able to talk to someone is part of the turn-on, at the end of the day we are not emotionless people... If we are not having a good time then what is the point of doing it in the first place?!
On the other hand i don't ask too personal questions only if it comes up and the gent asked me the question previously.
That's a good point Nadette. As human beings, a provider can be curious about a guy she's spending time with if she finds him interesting. (It's also possible that she asks questions to make small talk to put a guy at ease or to fill the time.) When I'm with an especially nice lady, I'm often curious about her as a person and want to know more about her, but I hesitate to ask personal questions out of respect for her privacy. So I ask questions that don't pry.
paxx7
Once I become a regular with a lady we talk about anything and everything but comments like "you don't have to pay for it" or "are you married" are among the dumbest things a lady could say during a first session.
Why I was there. Have I visited ladies before. Why I specifically chose to see them. Agency girls often ask who else in their agency I've seen.
Never bothered me. It was always in the context of getting comfortable in those first minutes when you meet someone new.
I find being told by a beautiful woman half my age that I'm attractive and she's surprised that I am paying for an escort very flattering. Especially when its clear she is complementing me and is genuinely curious.
I find it understandable that an escort would like to categorize me in a way that she feels comfortable. From my perspective as long as my personal security is not compromised, whatever info helps her to relax and enjoy our meeting is hers.
-J
For me it is an easy answer...after my wife left fifteen years ago, and after my last long-term girl friend moved five hundred miles away with another job offer, well, I no longer wanted to get involved in any type of long-term relationship that contains the opportunity for me to get emotionally hurt once again in a deep, dark way.
I have discovered that ladies on this board are fun and classy to meet, are for the most part d/d free because they are extraordinarily safety cautious, and there is no emotional baggage to carry around afterwards since I am no longer committed to anyone...and neither are they.
And I don't have to worry about the success rate of picking up some unknown quantity hanging around a bar or concert or artfest who may not be D/D free, and who wants much more of an LT relationship than I am willing to offer right now.
Just my .02
JOS