Guys:
Have you ever made an advance appt., and begin to regret/dread it as it approaches?
If so, why ?
Some of my reasons include:
1. An intense sexual escapade 12-36 hrs beforehand with someone else.
2. Pure work fatigue/traffic concerns
3. The lady does not seem as alluring on second look.
4. Mediocre review has appeared.

I do not cancel unless I have a true conflict.
However, these issues have been guiding me toward less advance bookings and more spur of the moment attempts

This hobby is a bit pricey, but you are suppose to have fun.  It's not a dentist appointment for crying out loud.  Don't waste your money.

I can't say that I've ever experienced this exactly for the reasons you state.

As for #1, that only puts me in a more amorous mood.

Sex always conquers #2.

#3  My mind tends to build her up as the session approaches.  (Thanks brain!)

#4.  I haven't experienced this but if she has a lot of good reviews, then I overlook the occasional clinker.

The only thing that could make me have to cancel would be a true family or work emergency.  (I think this has only happened once as far as I can remember.)  Or a serious health issue.  (I can't recall this happening.  I once even saw some gals while I had my arm in a cast.  Sex can be very healing, you know.)

What you need is a positive attiude.  Don't dwell on the negative.  I know, easier said than done but if you go into a session with a bad attitude you will have a self fufilling prophesy, and that will sour you further.

That's why I say don't do it in your present state.

Wait until you are really up for it.

I know you posted this for the guys, but as a provider, I would like to give my two cents.
If a gentleman is dreading or just not up to an appointment, I would prefer that he cancel. If you are having second thoughts then go with your gut, you're spending a lot of $$, be sure you are getting what will make you happy at a time when you are ready for it.

I emailed her about 6 hours before the appointment to let her know it was off.

It was outcall, so there were no lost expenses.

She was very cool about it, thanks Little-bit! A couple of weeks later we rescheduled and hade a great time.

I think if you let the lady know asap most will be ok with it.

NCNS are what everybody hates.

is then missing someone's special.  Another example was a fav actually "touring" near me instead of having to drive much further.  I don't bump current commitments just to see someone else.  And my life schedule also limits my last minute shifting.

Why do some local ladies wait so long to announce something?

1-4 have not applied.  In fact number 1 was the opposite.  My first time with my ATF was awesome.  For some reason I was all horned up again 2 days later (soon hobby-wise for me).  Ended up booking someone who is now also a fav.

Now, as far as regrets based on my feelings, we definitely do not want to go there.

...And we react accordingly, subconsciously.

If you feel that you cannot participate with enthusiasm cancel. Be prepared to draw the ire of the provider and take whatever consequences that may entail BUT better that than meeting with her and making her unnecessarily uncomfortable and self-conscious when its really "just you".

Yes. Been there, done that.
It is best to choose carefully and wisely to avoid this scenario.
I have not canceled appointments over it, but reason # 2 sounds all to familiar to me.

If you must cancel, do so with sufficient notice, and don't make a habit out of it.

I have done it once.  Gave the first lady several days notice and still felt guilty.

Lady #2 rocked me though, LOL

I am going to have to agree with Ally on this one. This is supposed to be fun!!!


If you cannot bring your A game....she will wonder why, and perhaps tone down whatever plans may have been on her agenda. Even if she has never seen you....she will still feel you not being all there.


So please cancel and hopefully this will be well in advance, so she can make other plans....else be prepared to get an ear full!

Yes. It's happened on a number of occasions. But I think I've always gone through with the appointment. Almost every time, I've had a great session and was very happy.

I have had to cancel 1 or 2 appts, but not for any of the reasons you mentioned.  I generally try to set up dates about a week ahead in case something happens.

Your #1 would not cause me to cancel, for me that rarely happens anyway.
I don't work, so #2 is a non-cause also.
#3 is a possibility, but I do lots of research on new girls I want to see, so hopefully I have seen enough pictures of her, so this should not be a factor for me either.
Because of my extensive research, hopefully #4 would not happen, but one never knows.

I agree with the previous comments, especially the ones by the ladies.  If, in your gut, you really don't feel comfortable with the date you have set up, then cancel.  Just be sure you give the lady enough lead time so you can stay in her good graces for a possible futuer encounter.

Swim

Some of these feelings your referring to may come too close to the appt. What then? I understand the guy side,what of the ladies side?

I am not experiencing 1, 2, 3, or 4 as noted above, yet I am just mentally drained right now. But, I will not cancel. I will do some jumping jacks, cartwheels, etc. until I am in the mood.

"Some of these feelings your referring to may come too close to the appt. What then? I understand the guy side,what of the ladies side?"

IMHO, I think most ladies probably do whatever it takes not to cancel an appointment and reinforce their good reputation.

Xoxo,
Gia

Is there a special fee to exersize together? The cartwheels started me thinking?

Isn't it better to cancel early than wait till the last minute when she has no hope to fill that time. This way there are no hard feelings.

If a bad review just showed up and she has many good ones that shouldn't be that big of a deal. Every lady has had reviews like that. The reviewer might just score low or lower than the other gentlemen she has seen. Also a fake review might be an issue. Did you check the background of the new reviewer to see where his head is at.

Kisses haley

I asked him myself about this very topic. Had a date a few weeks back lined up, and just wasn't into it. For a variety of reasons. So I cancelled, in a timely manner of course. Hope the lady has no hard feelings, but understand if she did.

If you're anything like me (God forbid!), you won't go into it with a shitty attitude. It's a recipe for a disaster. Besides, the lady doesn't deserve it. You should be just as ready to have a great time as she is!

IMHO....

But more about regrets for making an advance booking.
As I said, I feel it is my obligation to keep the appt, despite having  misgivings/fatigue etc. as I listed.
But my policy now is to opt for more same day [or day before] bookings to ensure that I am 100% into it.

#1 has occured only once; several years ago.  However, I went through with the second date and had a wonderful time; better in fact than with the first date.

As has been said previously but worth repeating, go with your gut feel.  The more notice you can give a lady about a cancelled appointment, the easier it is for her to book someone else.

Cancel the appt if you have second thoughts...it is supposed to be fun..

I don't like to cancel without just cause.

I recently read a post where a ladie suggested if I couldn't bring my 'A' game I should cancel. I am indeed having second thoughts due to some interaction.Maybe tomorrow I'll wake up with greater enthusiasm.

This is not a performance 'test' for the guys.
If she wants only an "A" game, let her pay you!!

But it was for my first booking and I really didn't understand what I had gotten hold of.

But, other than that -- no. I tend to be an advance booker and once I've decided -- I've decided. I don't care if a bad review has come in since or any of that jazz.

Since I book infrequently, most of the other factors don't come into play.

The only buyer's remorse I ever had was absolutely NOT the fault of the provider. It was my first booking and I was expecting something largely similar to civie sex and instead found myself with a dose of the provider version of Cheney/Rumsfeld's "shock and awe." My remorse was not that I had booked the wrong lady -- because I hadn't. But, rather, that I hadn't thought it was important to let her know I was a newbie. LOL

Several days notice like you described is not as big of a deal... but when someone cancels a same day appointment and I discover that they sceduled with one of my friends instead, or vice versa... both of us take notice of the guy's double booking ways!  I've actually chastised regular clients who tried to reach me, sceduled with lady #2, heard back from me, and THEN mentioned that they wanted to cancel on the second lady!  I will not scedule with someone if it comes to my attention that they are canceling on someone else LAST MINUTE.. (That sort of thing would be underhanded on my part... and it could cost the other woman hundreds and hundreds of dollar if she had other people who wanted that same time slot!

Just my 2 cents.

Keep this in the 'good reputation' context.

I was cancelled once for simply being the only appt.within a check-out morning. I have suffered more NCNS's and cancel's for am appt's. than any other. Thoughts?

a trip to the ER is a very very good reason to cancel.  And as far as "expenses", yeah - nothing lost unless you had specific wardrobe request that she had to shop for.  But there may be a loss with shorter notice cancellations to consider in that we have blocked that time for you and quite possibly turned business away or may have trouble getting someone screened in a short notice situation.  So yes, your reason was very valid and understandable.  But to the person canceling cuz they realize they are a tad bit fatigued 2 hrs before the appointment or because they didn't account for standard traffic pattern is kind of stinky.