I have been married a long time and been thinking about straying to a provider for some time now. The typical hurdles like getting in trouble with LE, STD's and the guilt factor are always in my mind.

If any of these things were to happen, I could lose everything I've built in life to an hour of joy.

Maybe watching porn and having fantasies is where I should leave it but the desire to have
a girl do stuff that my wife won't..... oh boy.

Can I hear from more married guys in the same boat and more important, ones who have gone through with it?

How do you feel after, guilty or eagar for more?

you will eventually so stop asking for the "OK"  and go get some ass.  I had reservations but I came to the conclusion that fucking escorts helps my marriage and keeps my family together because if I didn't I would divorce my wife.  Who I adore but does not do what I need in bed.  And is a bitch.  And.... shall I go on?  Men need pussy other than their wife.  So I get a big helping of young nubile ass couple times a week.  Clears the mind.  And is great for your skin too.  

Just to be clear.  If you start you won't be able to stop.  The pussy is that good.  Seriously.  It really is.  Some of these girls are so young and hot.  And they do things that my wife would never do sexually on a regular basis.  CIM, swallowing, anal, doubles...  The list is insane.  It is addicting and so much fun.  I vowed after some personal disasters awhile back that I would not deprive myself of my needs.  And that is my story.

Go get the pussy you already sinned thinking about it. Be smart, choose a lady with class and that offers everything you want. DO YOUR HOMEWORK!

go out to eat.  Being hungry all the time is the worst feeling of all.

situation.  Trying to quell that sexual urge will only result in frustration.  That frustration makes you a worse husband and your marriage will suffer.  My wife is great and I plan on staying married forever.  But she won't do anal or swallow the load.  That's just not her thing.  No problem I still love her however.  The hobby allows me to explore this aspect of sex in a safe and friendly environment.  Because of that our sex life is great.  Well sort of.  It is not easy making love to a woman who is 6 months pregnant.  But that is another post.


The great benefit of the hobby is that there is no long term connection (i.e., romantic affair) so it allows you to have no strings attached sex.  The women in this life are GREAT!!!!!  I mean they get the needs of some men - Sex without strings.  How awesome is that?

As a married man TER is the safe bet in terms of LE.  Never ever take one for the team (visit with a non-reviewed provider).  Only see well reviewed ladies.  And my personal bias as a married man stay clear of agencies.  Last thing you need is your info. in someone's hard drive after a bust.  As far as STD's well play safe and hope for the best.  Nothing is perfect my man but I have never had a problem with that aspect.  Now the guilt factor.  The first time will be fear/pleasure.  You just have to plow thru.  At the end you will be relieved (sexually) but mentally that little voice will be nagging you.  Trust me it will be gone within 24 hours.  Just wait and think about the good time you just had.

But here is the important part of this life.  After I am done playing in this hobby I make it one of my goals in life to be the Best Husband I can be.  How?  Be present mentally and physically.
I work very hard at being a team with my wife.  Maybe that's guilt, I doubt it, on my part but it is working for us.  Happily married for 7 years.

One more thing about agencies and non-reviewed ladies.  Not matter how hot those women are in the photos.  I just will not do it.  I have worked several years to build a profitable business, have a great house and a great future.  No way in hell I will throw that away by taking a chance on getting caught.  Just my little rant.
Hope that helps.


P.S.  While I have never written a review in several years as a member look for my 1st review in about 1 week.  Why?  I have an appt. with the best Provider in the country.  Who?  Just wait.  If you are into ski masks, whip cream, dog collars, golden showers and more then you will not want to miss this!!!!!!!!!!

but to tell the truth, that fear created some excitement as well and I think enhanced the experience.

Now that I'm divorced, it's nice not to have to sneak around, but in truth I miss that old feeling of having gotten away with it again.

If my wife had an appetite for sex I wouldn't see providers.  She is gorgeous and was a great lover.  But the emotional issues she has to deal with (long, long story) are too much for her (worst childhood you can imagine and has PTSS).

So I do without (impossible) which drives resentment, etc.

If you cheat with a civvie?  Now THERE is where the risks are.  They aren't professionals and, frankly, I feared all the things you do PLUS falling in love and being stupid and leave wife / family.  It happens.

With providers - as one poster emphasized - DO YOUR HOMEWORK!  Read reviews, contact the provider, talk / email...do the best you can to see if she is a good match.  You'll be better off starting out this way then just seeing the first woman that says "yes."

Also as a previous comments emphasized:  You do it once...you are fucking hooked!   For me it isn't the young pussy....I stay away from that....it's the lady who is savvy about the sexual experience and provides the real GFE.  I like the older ladys who have that exact sense of what a man wants.   When you get that....you are going to spend $$$.  So consider the budget too.

I have a special ATF that is like a girlfriend who lives out of the area...just now and then we connect and it's incredible.

Think it out but don't be paranoid.

Man you hit the nail on the head! Thanks

Ridgetucky Will you film it and put it on porn tube? LOL Have a blast!

I've only been hobbying a bit over 2 years.  I felt some guilt at first but that when away with more experience.  Most important:  I promised myself I'd not do anything stupid.  As I have learned more & more I realize how lucky I was at first.  Luck is not to be counted on!  

Read that Newbie FAQ manual over several times.  Read these boards.  Read back several pages.  Once you get educated on how this works & what to avoid, you'll feel more confident.
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the lady to leave and never call you again. It's kind of weird in the beginning, but you get used to it. If you screwed around with a civie lady, you know it would be different. Good luck and only see well reviewed TER ladies who screen!

What you said are real risks. LE, STD, guilt and most wives do have strong gut feeling and sixth sense and they will see through you, but if you still want to risk it...
try to find a local student (18-25) in real need and become a regular so that at least you can help her get an education. Don't hop from one girl to another because that will destroy you.

Don't listen to any tom, dick or harry on this board because these are just IDs you don't know who is lurking behind them, use your own judgment and think over it because one moment can ruin a lifetime of happiness and your children will suffer the most.

Good luck.

I saw my first provider and had a great experience even though I was extremely nervous.
I was wondering whether it was worth the risk.

I was "on the fence" about doing it again for the next ten months, until I just made the call and saw another lady.

The second time (and third and fourth, all with different women) were much better, and yes, addictive.  

My biggest decision now is who to call and how much to spend.

I have been doing this for 10 yrs. Have been caught 2 times. But since I started hobbying I have not looked back, I am just more careful now. BTW, yes I am still with my wife.

Are you watching porn together with your wife? If she's into that, she just might be open to an experience with another woman. When you bring up the topic, try to thread lightly. You never know.

As every veteran hobbyist knows, once you cross that line and have great sex with a provider it changes you.  What you don't know is how - in the long term - that change will manifest itself.   Be aware of that.

No fence here.  Once things stopped being steamy at home, I had to find some satisfaction.  I have been hobbying for nearly 6 years after spending about 10 years in strip clubs and rub & tug joints.

Once you get a few dates under your belt, it will seem very natural.

I am just doing my part to help these poor girls provide a living for themselves

Cheers to that!

Ricky, just wondering how you got caught?

It's good to hear you have been doing it so long and never goot caught by the wife...
MY biggest fear.