In the process of maturing myself into a woman, and now refining my erotic skills as a provider, one of the most profound forms of eroticism I have discovered is anticipation. For many, this hobby is an impulse buy or decision.  I get so many phone calls from gentlemen who want to see me right now.  Most of the time I can not accommodate those requests, but when I can, I find that the experience is much less intense and satisfying for both of us.  

When a gentleman reserves his time with me well in advance, our experience together begins at that moment.  The sparks begin to fly between us as we exchange emails and chat on the phone or computer. The kindling is being tossed into the fire.  By the time I open the door to greet him, there is already so much electricity and heat between us that we are both roaring with passion.  This makes the experience of our time together that much more intense and fulfilling.

In addition, the anticipation that is built through sophisticated seduction and foreplay is what I have found make the difference between an okay experience and an experience that rocks his world (and mine too).  Taking time to build on the chemistry that is already present and make it steamy hot before we even get to those most pleasurable physical acts makes the intensity of the pleasure of those physical acts profound.

The gentlemen that I have spoken with have been agreement with me about this, yet I still find that I get so many that want instant gratification or the "impluse buy".  Why do you think that is?

Hey torrid nice to see you again and the best way  to answer this  is with your answer..
impulse buy". I imagine men get a look at you the whole package and think Man I want that now.. Lol
And then there is the guy that only has right now… Although he wants all day, If he can have a bit of bliss with you right now then may be (he hopes) that will last him all day.
Or at least until he can take the time to book you all day. Stick around GF I like how you think and GB needs more women thinkers.(not that we don’t have em) But we are a little our #erd.

I always plan my dates way in advance, sometimes to the point of appearing to be a screwball, and I suppose some people think I am, but that's okay. I actually asked a lady for a date 5 months in advance one time. It started out sort of half joking, but she agreed to see me. We stayed in touch on the boards, through PM's, and email for the whole 5 months, and when we finally did meet, it was a day I'll never forget. All of the electronic foreplay turned into one fantastic date, and there will, without a doubt, be more to follow. Yes, anticipation is a wonderful thing, along with imagination.

Sound like "You're so Vain"

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Anticipation is enjoyable. I'm a plan-ahead guy and wouldn't think of scrounging for a last-minute appointment. But I'm sure it happens a lot. People are susceptible to whims and advertising plays directly to that. Sometimes people end up happy with what they have selected. Other times they end up with remorse, or a selective memory that blots out their role in contributing to their bad experience.

Personally, I'm not much of an impulse shopper for anything. I research what I want, how I want it, then make plans to get it. As it applies to the hobby, I let the big head handle making all the plans. Then once the door is closed, I try to turn things over to the little one...

Hungry,

 I do the same thing, plan my date way in advance. And yes, some people think we are nuts for doing that. I remember your post on my initial newbie post. Even with some thinking Im nuts, the ANTICIPATION is exciting. Through the email or chat I try to get a feel of what the provider is like. I also try to try to connect with the provider, maybe I'm too much of a romantic. (And yes, a couple providers have made a comment about it-I took their criticism to heart) Wink: they know who they are, hehe. But, I will continue to make my appts in advance. Hopefully, the wonderful people I have met here through TER will understand and be patiient with me. My next date at this time is March '09.
Thank you all for your advice and friendship.

Hoss1215 (still a "Probie")

TA,

I agree some of my most profound experiences have been the result of a long built up anticipation.

The flip side, is our lives can become so strutured, between work, family and other commitments, that sometimes that "impulse purchase" is just what's needed.

I agree with what you are saying, and would like to set up my encounters this way.  Unfortunately, during my short time in this hobby it hasn't worked for me.  When I set up an appointment in advance, the anticipation is so great that I find it hard to concentrate in the days leading up to the appointed day (work definitely suffers!), and even to sleep the night or two prior to the event.  So, I end up arriving at the door sleepless and disheveled (mentally, not physically), and my enjoyment and performance suffer.  Nothing like this happens when I do a same-day.

I think this is due to the unreality of "scheduling" an emotional/sexual event, something I hope to learn to deal with in the future.  In fact, I will be making another attempt to deal with this in the next week or so..

BTW, have any other hobbyists experienced this problem?

TA, I have generally found that gentlemen who are into 'impulse buying' would pounce on me like a cat on a mouse the moment I walk through the door. He is horny and I just happened to be the first or even the only one who agreed to be the 'impulse purchase'.

I have since learnt that there are girls who do not accept an appointment less than 24 notice so that they can do the necessary checks and do better prepare themselves for the date.

It is your decision to make if you wish to meet a gentleman. I am learning not to because I need to put me and my welfare first.

Hello TA....I love the anticipation, build up and the emails leading up to the date.

The little flirtatous phone calls and IM's all help me get a bigger picture of who I will be meeting and sense of his personality.

This leads to a better session as most of the prelimnaries are out of the way and I feel like I already know the person.

Then of course there is the something to be said for the spontaneus moment that is appealing also. This is also better if one has taken the time to do a little pre-screening and some contact has been established prior.
It is all about comfort and trust, this sets the mood for a great time

caused by various delays, but what can you do when you're smitten with someone who lives in Singapore?

I must say the anticipation was delightful and well worth the wait.

Yes, the anticipation is always a keen part of the experience, and I would not have it any other way.

for so many of us gents, we find that GFE means you treat us like a BF.... and part of being a boyfriend is the imgining that we met you - somewhere somehow, and that you consented to meet up with us... sans envelop... and a part of that is waiting until the appointed meeting time.... in short, GFEesk....

It was really a dream come true meeting Mr Fisher finally. Thank you for everything.

I once did a 5 monther myself. I was taking a business trip & had started researching & found a lady that seemed a good fit & was she ever. The advance flirting really adds to the experience. I usually plane my dates a week in advance.

If the words on your site do to the gentlemen what they did to me ...!!!

In this case I think I can safely say that your well chosen words are worth as much as your beautiful photos.

And um .. did I say wow!?!

B.

she sat right next to me at the game.

I have a new (a few months) civvie relationship which is all consuming and she is very jealous so I have been out of action for the past few months and will be so for a while longer.  In the meantime, there are a few ladies I am absolutely dying to see, so I have been "anticipating" since last March and will probably do so for a while longer.  Exciting? well yes, but when the times comes, that will be even more exciting. So I agree with you, but we can also agree there is a point of diminishing returns.  (And, if I wait long enough, I may be too old to care.)

I am meeting a wonderful lady in just two weeks tonight. We have talked in email, and by phone mostly. Just yesterday we had conversations that seems like they went on forever and I hated to hang up with her. She consumes my thoughts, and I have the biggest smile on my face knowing I'm going to be with her not soon enough. You would think she was just being polite, taking time out of her personal life, to talk with a guy she never met. But she insists that I call her up until we meet. We ask each other personal questions, and neither of us have any problem answering them. We are going to meet and have dinner, talk, and share some wine before we go to our room and be alone. And that will consist of more talk, wine, and some presents I will have for her, including flowers she rarely sees and a portrait I will do for her just because she is a work of art herself. I will add, none of this she asked for. I am doing this because I want to, and I asked her what she likes. The drawing is totally my idea, and she seems thrilled with the idea. I am so into this lady, and I admit, the line between provider and hobbyist is getting blurred. But that's just me, and I'm sure I am not the first to think this way. All I expect, and what I've told her, is it's not all about me. I want her to have a wonderful time also. It's very important to me that she does. So yes, I agree, the anticipation is very exciting! I know I will live a dream, and have the experience of a lifetime. If something more happens, fantastic! But if just for a night, I share some time with one of the most beautiful ladies, both inside and out, that ever walked this planet, I'm a better man for it! And you know what they say, good things come to those who wait! ~

Wow right back at ya! Thank you! xxoo