Last night I was dining apres session with a long time fav and I used the term "hobby" to refer to our common enterprise.   She scrunched up her face at my use of the term, as many often do as "hobby" seems a bit vacuous and not really descriptive of the importance to which we all attach to this.

and would prefer ANY alternative. I've referred to it as a game. But I don't really care. A hobby is something life stamp or coin collecting. Calling someone a "hobbyist" is ludicrous. I'm a whoremonger.

The words/terms hobby, monger, hobbyist.. hate them.
Your term “Good life”?…. Meh🤷🏻‍♂️

Nice try, but not a fit for me. I have no problem with hobby or mongering.
No suggestion from your dinner guest?

P4P?  That’s what it is, right?

Simplifying it to "the life" or "the lifestyle"?

Penis for p&ssy? 😆

I just say its this thing we do

I'm not sure I like the suggested term that much better though. For me, I think the whole issue comes down to trying to come up with euphemisms because using the direct terms are somehow undesirable. I would say we should just find a term that actually describes what people are actually doing rather than these more indirect terms.

you get The rapist.

The Life. I like it.

Ths truth is, its a hobby. Why not just accept that?  

Not for some of us 😄

Any term you come up with will eventually take on a negative connotation, simply because under the worst circumstances, hobbying can lead to destruction at many levels (feelings, finances, relationships, freedom, etc.).

Bingo! Winner winner chicken dinner. It IS quite a luxury.

I rarely discuss "the hobby," per se, with my hostesses in camera (in her chambers). In camera, it's more of a "I had a great time," "Thanks for meeting with me," or "When can I see you again?" Even though it's not my favorite term to use, I do use it ex parte (outside the presence of the other party of the partying part), such as right here at the beginning of this post.  
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There is a famous book about the Boston Combat Zone called "A Kind of Life" by Roswell Angier (who recently passed away, 2023). He doesn't say "good" or "bad," just a kind of life.  
http://www.bostonglobe.com/2023/06/17/metro/roswell-angier-whose-combat-zone-photos-captured-part-boston-history-dies-82/
"Roswell Angier, whose Combat Zone photos captured part of Boston history, dies at 82."
I'm trying to remember what he said about how he chose the title of the book and I THINK he said it was an expression used by one of his female subjects.  
http://www.amazon.com/Kind-Life-Conversations-Roswell-1976-01-01/dp/B01A64JSWU
(Read some of the blurbs and reviews.)
(For those who want to read it and look for comparisons, "A Kind of Life" is available at many public libraries.)
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But back to "the -----," how about "He that shall not be named." ?

And that applies to everyone, right, Lopaw? 🙂

Absolutely!  

When I'm busy with my hobby, I'm working on my '53 Bel Air!

I like it!

I am a monger.  I go mongering.

He was not capable of doing it himself.

Pronounced cumrod for men.  Steamy hot piston rods. Well lubricated. Unrelenting.

I will most often use "working women" and their customers.  Everybody seems to know who I mean.  It's also gender neutral for my friend Lopaw and those guys here who see trannies.  

Let’s see … in my spare time I workout, watch certain sports teams and tv shows, see providers, play golf , tennis and surf, read certain types of books and hike!  Most of these activities, including seeing providers are my hobbies!, so I guess I’m a hobbyist! The women I see are “providers” of certain pleasures. I like to keep it simple.

I really love the sweetness of your term, but I'm not positive it would catch on  

Pay TO Play? P2P?

P2P has another common meaning to this community. Thus I think P4P is better.

Pay 4 pussy

I was thinking of a synonym for kittens or cats, more relevant to lopaw's situation and "more configurations" not relevant to many of us (except as voyeurs): P2P.

I thought it was pretty obvious where you were going with the other post. Great image with the picture of the 2 kittens curled up together.

I hope that this image clarifies my meaning of P2P. If not, I may have to go full XXX.

that doesn’t cover cases where the person being paid doesn’t have a pussy.  

Personally I’ve never paid one of those 😳

a lot of people do, including many TER members. There’s male escorts too, of course, albeit not reviewed here unless as a duo.

two pussys curled up in 69, yin 'n' yang or together^^?

I know all of that.
My post was to Jensen when he wrote two kittens.
I was jokingly posting to him shouldn't it be two pussys.
I threw in the extras for some humor he might enjoy!

I don't think it's about the name that bothers them, I think what we do that does. You can call it anything you want and they still will have an aversion to it. Go on twitter and follow some of these providers. They actually hate us. And what's even more surprising, some of them will have the TER stamp on their website and will still put on their twitter feed how they hate TER. I personally don't get why they think it's okay for them to see different men for a living but have a hard time with men seeing different providers on a regular basis.

If you think what chicks say about guys is bad, you should see what chicks say about other chicks.  

A term that actually describes what we do would be Fucking 4 money!
That would cover the buyer and the seller.
Straight and to the point!
But I'm pretty sure that would offend the people that want to gentrify the sex trade!  
Like not spelling out Fuck, Pussy or Cock on a F*ck Board!

EXACTLY!  

This is my favorite suggestion I’ve seen so far!