Let me try this again!  

What makes you decide to give a provider a review?  Does she ask you to do it?  As a fairly new provider, I have asked to be reviewed so I can gain access to the provider only board.  Everyone was more than pleased to do it.  But it got me wondering. Do hobbyist review providers on their own or do they wait for providers to ask?  I am sure there will all types of opinions.  It was just something I was pondering while decorating the tree....

Kari

Re: Here is one for the guys..

I try to do a review on each provider that I spend time with.  My view is that if I want to continue to get the benefit of others' reviews as part of my due diligence, I should do my own candid reviews so that other hobbyists can have the benefit of my experience as well.  I actually have never had a provider ask me to do a review on her nor have I ever told a provider that I was planning on doing a review.  Once, I had a provider ask me not to do a review and I abided by her request.  (It is worth noting that she didn't want to be reviewed because she had grown tired of the business and wanted to leave the provider world behind.  Since she was a month away from retiring from the business, she did not want my review (which would have been very positive) generating more business for her before she could retire and move back home.  Under the circumstances, I felt it appropriate to honor her request and not review her.).  To the extent that I have a positive experience with a provider, I try to see her a second time before writing the review (even if I don't always say this in my review) so as to test the YMMV aspect of hobbying.  Obviously, when I have a mediocre or negative experience, I think it is important to write a review even if I don't intend to see the provider again (thankfully, this has only happened once for me).  

Welcome to the community and best of luck to you.

It's my way of acknowledging a great time, and like said above, I make the majority of my decision on who to see by reviews, so I owe a debt of reviewing to the community.

I have been asked to write a review a couple of times- didn't mind that a bit.  I sometimes ask the provider if they want one- as I've noticed a couple providers I've seen have very few reviews despite being well known and wanted to know if they preferred not to have one for any reason.  I always honor a preference there.

For the most part, I just do it without being asked or asking though.

Some hobbyists don't review- don't know the reason, and some don't want their TER handle known to their provider so their review can be more anonymous and "honest"

In some cities, there are a group of guys who demand a discount from a new lady in exchange for writing a favorable review. In some of those cities, the implication is: if you don't give me the discount, I will write a bad review.

For me, it depends on what mood I am in. If I am in a writing mood, I will write. If not, I will not put in the effort. Sometimes (generally with a new lady) I ask her going into the date if she would like a review. Otherwise (established lady), I will ask her afterwards. I figure with a new lady, she does not have enough experience for the question to influence the date. She is usually nervous enough figuring out what to do, and doesn't have the time to think about what else she could do. If I know that I will be writing a review, I usually try to pay more attention to certain details. Otherwise, I like to relax and enjoy the date.

I can't recall a lady ever requesting a review. Once I ask if she wants a review, a few ladies have requested not to have a review. I will honor the request. I have not had a situation where she requested No Review, and the time I had was worse than her other reviews. For the No Review ladies, if a gent asks about a lady on a local board, I will PM them a thumbs up or down.

This explanation was posted her many months ago and I recite it only from memory, so apologies to whoever wrote it better:

James was in an airliner which crashed into the South Pacific.  We woke up after the crash on the beach of a deserted and uncharted island.  The only other survivor he found on the island was Heidi Klum.  They worked together to make shelter and find food and fresh water.  Fortunately they were able to sustain themselves indefinitely while they awaited rescue.  It didn't take long for them to become friends and not long after that they began to have sex with each other.  One day James asked Heidi to wear his shirt and to put on his baseball hat, and she did.

"Do you mind if I call you Bob, just for a little while?"

"Sure, go ahead."

"Bob, you'll never believe who I'm fucking!!!"

after my divorce... it had changed... internet, PM, cell phone etc.  not like we did in the old days.... pony express, smoke signals, drums... etc....

so... anyhoo, I had not yet even discovered the internet advertisements... and I sought gals through the back of the local rags....  well!  wouldn't cha know it... one was a service, and I called to schedule one of my first appointments.... trish was her name...  the service set me up, there was a bit of  a mix up - but when I went to the room Trish was there! wow, really nice lady, she made sure that I had a great time.... and she did too!  

Afterwards, I called the service to ask how I could let the lady know just how grateful I was to her for SUCH a good time...  They suggested that I write  a review!  I asked what's  that, and they introduced me to TER!  how about that!

now as to do I write reviews... as you can tell by clicking at the top for the 10 most frequent posters.... I like to write... heck, I write 'em and post em.... love  to do it, and if there is a bad experience, well I write about that too.... maybe some other schlob will be saved the effort and expense...

but mostly I write them to memmorialze the experience.... and I sometimes write a draft... send the draft to the lady in question and get her input.  needless to say, the ladies like that and indeed they edit!  then again sometimes I give the draft to my ex.... and say "see what ya missin' babes?"  Bwahahahahaha  I crack me up!

seriously, the latter is why I really do it, to memorialize the moment.  There is nothing like sitting back and thinking of what transpired between two people and reliving the experience as you write it.... and then some months later remembering by reading the tale....

REVIEWS: think of it like a Zagat's guide to the Hobby...

posting reviews enables a screening mechanism for both parties.  

Benefit to hobbyists: helps avoid costly mistakes, separating the "wheat from the chaff"

Benefit to providers: those with good reviews find themselves well received, see an appreciable increase in business,  & some don't even need to advertise. It is also easier to screen someone who has written a few reviews.

For a good experience I will ask the lady afterwards if she would like me to write it, usually she says yes, one has asked me not to write what would have been a page of absolute praise so I didn't.

For a poor experience we don't even talk about reviews.  I am going to write it.  There has been only one exception where she had both my personal contact info and my TER handle, and I felt as though writing the review she earned would put my personal life in jeopardy.  I didn't write anything on that one.

I do try never to talk about possible reviews before the session, as I don't wish to appear to be pressuring her, I want her as relaxed and open to fun as possible!

I have indeed on a couple of occasions rewritten a review for someone I have previously reviewed in order to help her out by bringing her name back to the top of the searches.

I'm slightly kidding, although that is one of my reasons. If a provider asked me not to write one, I wouldn't.

1: If the lady in question does not have many reviews.

2: If my experience is significantly different than the body of reviews she already has.

3: If she has not been recently reviewed.

  Otherwise I generally do not review because I have nothing to add to the information already available. I do not ask if a lady wishes to be reviewed. So far I have not been asked to review a lady so I have not had to deal with that situation.
-J