IMO Mrfisher is partialy correct.

1. Yes if your morality bites you in the butt for whatever reason you owe her the fee. After all you did use up her time in which she may have had to turn down another appointment.

2. Misrepresentation, be it pics or ad wording. If she turns out not to be who she claimed to be, if it were an incall, I would turn around and walk. If an outcall, as for cab fare, your option.

3. Why did you decide it wasn't worth it. Lots of variables here. Does it relate to #2 which to me would be on her shoulders or is it something with you? Do you owe her or not?

If you do your homework...this shouldn't be an issue.

1.Change of heart/mind for lets say moral reasons.

If you made an appointment with a provider and changed your mind due to moral reasons, you owe her the donation in its entirety.

2.You felt the provider misrepresented themselves (per pictures lets say)

If a provider is pulling the ole bait & switch, you owe her nothing. Personally, I wouldn't even give her gas or cab $. If you see a provider who obviously is using pictures of her 'better days'...again misrepresentation...your call. However, if you're doing your homework you should not be running into these issues. Well reviewed and reputable providers doesn't pull these stunts if they want to stay in business. Some providers do blur out their face and for good reasons, but if you read their reviews you should get a good idea of what to expect.

3.You saw her and just decided it wouldn't be worth it.

Unless #2 applies and she is misrepresenting herself, pay her the donation in its entirety. This isn't Nordstroms where we can go into the fitting room to see if it fits prior to purchasing!

Best wishes,
Paris





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Re: leaving/bailing Etiquette

If your going to bail on her....at least let her know in advance!....She is trying to run a business ya know!

The opposite can happen to

Had exchanged emails with a provider for a while prior to her traveling to the city I live in. We spoke on the phone a number of times as well.

The day arrives and we meet. Immediately she starts acting suspicious and challenging. No matter what I say she gets an attitude. I should have known this was a possibility since some of her reviews mention she can be difficult and the best thing to do is get her to stop talking. Well, at that point the date was spoiled. I offered her half, to be nice, but she didn't want anything. So we parted 15 minutes after meeting.

Only time in 15 years of hobbying that I ever hit an issue. If you saw my Whitelists and spoke to my references, you'd know I am one of the mildest people you will ever meet.

That experience shook me up for a while, but thankfully some wonderful ladies here let me know the issue wasn't me.

As for your
#1 - you need to pay her.
#2 - Up to you. Unless there is a health issue, or a huge difference in what she said (20 years, said non-smoker but room reeks, she said slim and she is BBW) I don't make a big deal. I enjoy the time anyway.
#3 - Unless it was mutual, I still go along.

Some like Michaelangelo, some Chagall, some Picasso. I try to appreciate art in all its forms.

1.Change of heart/mind for lets say moral reasons.  

If you simly changed your mind pay her and....make sure you really want to do the hobby BEFORE you set the next appointment.  Cancelling for no reason will spread like wildfire Amonst the girls and you will be dead in the water for good!

2.You felt the provider misrepresented themselves (per pictures lets say)

If it was something you would not have known so was hiding until you seen her...simply walk away...nothing owed.

3.You saw her and just decided it wouldn't be worth it.

This one is really vague in its wording.  If the location makes you feel uncomfortable for some reason...or you see suspicious things...drive away and make sure you call to explain.(up to you if you compensate her in some way...you have to feel safe or bad things can happen)  If you see her and you get vibes or a sense that she is just not your type...you still owe her.  Most everything washes out in reviews IE her photos are old, she has way more tattoes then stated or has a lot of piercings things like that.  So those are not really good excuses to walk away in my view.

Good luck.

if it for moral reasons and she pass muster and was everything represented in her ads, it is only fair to compensate her for the time she put into arranging and showing for the meeting.
However if it is a bait n switch scenario, by all means excuse yourself before entering the premises.  If she was not honest in her marketing she may be upset but will undoubtedly understand why you declined.

Set up with provider, we are just getting started with a bit of CG and decide to change up to something else. She gets off and is shocked to see that she is bleeding. Seems she started about a month ago on some 3 month birth control shot that was supposed to elminate periods. We clean up and after talking a bit and calming her down (she was really freaking), I decide nothing more is going to happen and suggest we hit the road. Just as we are finishing dressing, she grabs up the donation that was still on the end table and gives me back 50 out of 250. During the set up before we met, she had asked 300, I countered at 200, but when we met I gave 250 after thinking about it. So the 50 she gave back was the "extra" I had added. I counter offered to give her 50 and I'd keep the 200. Probably not important, but I had already picked up the room as well. I could tell she wasn't happy, but she didn't want to talk about it and left. TXT me very soon after with a long, but not nasty diatribe, suggesting that I should have left her with at least 100, since we had gone at least half of the hour agreed.

So what is the answer here?