Before I start if this has been addressed please point me to the archives and accept my apologies for redundancy.  If not please see below.There have been several threads where there is a concern for the level and type of detail found in reviews.  So my question to everyone is what makes a good review?  And so I ask a series of questions to help me on this topic:What details would be needed.What are you as a courtesan comfortable with seeing.What are you as a client looking for in a review?  What is a want versus a need?How does the balanced best interest of TER as a business factored in?Plus, a thousand other questions but in deference to brevity I will ask only the above and hope that everyone else will be gracious enough to post what other questions should be addressed in this thread.Also let me say many thanks in advance to those who post on this thread.--JP--modified by JP at Mon, Apr 30, 2001, 12:35:10--modified by JP at Mon, Apr 30, 2001, 12:49:51--modified by JP at Mon, Apr 30, 2001, 13:28:48

I am interest in a few things when I read a review.  These are:1.  Where is the provider located?  I do not need specific information like an intersection or street address, just a neighborhood.  If I'm in the San Fernando Valley I do not need to be bothering providers in Fullerton if I'm just looking for a lunch-time quickie.2.  What services does the provider offer?  In this regard I would mainly like to know if it is FS or FBSM, is there DATY, multiple pops, etc...  These topics do not seem to be too much of a problem.3.  What can I expect to pay?  I have walked into a provider's apartment who offers FBSM and FS and, because of this board, have been able to put down the appropriate $$$ she charges for FS and gotten exactly what I came for.4.  Does the provider perform as promised?  Is she a rip-off.  This is the main reason I read the TER.I do not need information on a provider's screening process.  If she is going to screen me, she'll screen me, period.  Its not something I need to be prepared for beforehand.  I also do not need exact locations of providers in reviews.  I do like to know what neighborhood they are in, but anything more in a review is too much.I would urge most providers and clients to say as little as possible to each other regarding money and services until they know each other better.  Guys, read the reviews, if 25 other guys have reviewed a provider and she charges a certain amount for a certain service, what do you need to talk about.  Do you think she's going to give you the same service cheaper than the rest of us?  Why take this risk?  Walk in, put the $$$ down in a visible place, relax and start your session.  Next time you visit this provider you can talk about what service you can buy for how much; but for the first time, less is definitely more.

Good post-  I agree with most points  but...I ALWAYS ASK the session fee.   If you show up and simply start placing cash down-  that is even weirder!   Since asking what the lady charges for her time is no problem- do it.   What I never ask for is a detailed plan of the session-  that can be  problem source!Also- since I don't want to be identified as Sully-man the magnificant(ITS A FREAKIN' JOKE DAMMIT ), I don't want any reference to this site to colour our interaction.   I "saw the ad on the web"   or "a friend who is really into it, sent me this recommendation"  or somesuch, so we can both enjoy the session on its own meritsBut otherwise-  I agree with you in the main...

First pass- link to the webpage so I can see pictures. Lets' face it if you are not attracted to her or if you are looking for a leggy redhead and she is a busty blonde then why look further in her direction, followed by price. Same sort of thought process if you are looking to spend X and the fee is Y then look no further. Next, I look at the second set of numbers. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, a lady who is a consistent 8 or 9 on her three most recent reviews is probably a lot of fun unless I turn out to be the problem, and then it is my fault.Last, I look to see if I can cross reference any of the reviewers as either guys I have talked to via the internet or guys who have seen one of the same ladies that I have visited and gave her a similar rating. This gives me a point of reference that his idea of a number is close to my idea of a number.As for traits the ever elusive GFE and not a clockwatcher are two phrases I look for in the details.

To me, a good review begins with all the "canned" answers filled in correctly.  For starts, if it's "not the girl in the picture," I don't expect to also see "pic accurate," even though that sort of combination is annoyingly common.  If this first section is filled out well, there's a lot to be learned from it even without details.  However, I love details.  I want her described, and to know how the session went.  What she will do, does she do it well, etc.  One or two-liners don't do it for me and neither do those long-winded Penthouse Forum-style fictions with 10" cocks and 45 minute rides where she came, really truly, a half dozen times.Another thing:  I hate reviews in ALL CAPS!!!

Well, Like TER suggested ... They asked that I leave a post describing my situation regarding my review. I have attempted at least seven times, but to no avail. I have heard 'Nikki' or someone asking why a something of hers was not posted ... And the mediator did in fact say that they were having problems, and are configuring things differently. So this could very well be the case. All in all, especially after dealing with TBD, I am loving TER 10 points higher than TBD (but they were a negative 3!). I just think it is unfortunate that something cannot be done about phony reviews. This guys said that I was in fact the girl in the picture ... And I had told TER that I could send him a series of pictures that are similar, with my face blurred in different ways. I gave them the other phone number of the 'agency' that this Mindy ad is attached too. I told them that I was not in fact 5'6, and that my eyes were NOT blue (hard to tell with a blurred face ... But swimming pool or not, you could tell I am not 5'6). Anyhow, that is all bridge under the water, and I don't want to stress over obscure details. But 'Mindy' - sir, has not gone on a hotel/motel call for ages (at least not the real one).  I never bring oil with me ... And that leaves me with another question! None of the other girls I knew through the agency used oils either! In a small office, occasionally seeing eachothers repeats, and the honesty between my friend 'Angel' and I ... This is what leaves me to believe that this maybe be just a retaliation from one of the many gentleman I have made so 'happy' with my posts - ?? Lisa ;>

I have always questioned the need for highly graphic reviews. It seems a lot of clients who have seen me over the years do too. Some had tried to submitt non graphic reviews to TER, not because I asked they not do so, but because they felt it unnecessary. However, it is TER's site and option to operate how they will, just as TBD can do same. Both sites are of value in my opinion. The format for TBD is just too hard to follow though. Time consuming.Anyway, back to topic at hand. I have often wondered just how many graphic reviews were necessary to prove the credibility of a courtesan. (Yes, that is my word of choice. Provider is an odd, cold sounding word to my ears) I seem to have quite enough graphic reviews, of which, I have seen the content of. (Yes, we ladies do wind up reading them!)What if someone were to write creatively and let you know what went on without using the standard words in reviews? I have one that a gent wrote on www.thefoxfiles.com. He described what I would and would not do without using the typical terminology. I also have many that some men who HAVE to see graphic reviews have accused me of writing myself!! Now that came as a shock to me! Do a search on www.bigdoggie.net (this link is for JP, since you asked me) under the los angeles board and you will see the ones I am referring to. It seems that the guys greatly enjoyed my company, but there is nothing said that is graphic. Now why would enough reviews of this nature not be enough to convince someone that I would provide the necessary company?I like TBD site as it is a non membership site and many of my clients are not interested in signing up for TER. A couple I see recently went to the detailed troube of writing a graphic review of our weekend together. They could not submitt to TER as they do not desire a membership. So there is exclusion in this system. Unless I missed something.I understand that there are special services that people sometimes like to make sure they get and that is where TER comes in. I guess it doenst mean I have to like the lack of discretion involved in this method though. Not sure it is for the best. However, that does not mean I do not understand it from a consumer standpoint. I also know that each and every session with each individual is going to be slightly different. Some people run a little less intense than others, some more.Simplicity and brevity are best in the reviews. No need to write a novel. Although I realize replaying encounters mentally is fun!  Some of the things I have seen written in mine are rather funny. In fact one insight into my conversational style (real conversation) while with another lady freind over lunch comes across rather amusing to me! Have to find that one yourselves if curious. Let's just say our conversation circulated around pet lab mice! LOL! Not my choice of conversation, but my friend, Danika loves animals of all kinds. (including males! He, he!) Anyway the review is cute, albiet silly because of the drift the conversation went in! Well, this has not been brief and not sure of what value to express. Just some shared thoughts.Perhaps I need more coffee! Off to get some!Soft Kisses and Warm Hugs,Nicole Of Southern California

I check the picture first and then the rank for performance.  If a girl has looks 5-7 but high performance I know she is working hard despite the fact she's not model material, per se. I also don't like all that general stuff. Specifics are prime. Enthusiam and seduction on the part of the provider is critical. If a girl is written up as gorgeous but "just laid there" that is a sign she's not into it.  When guys ham up their juicy details you often wonder if it's a bogus review or some guy looking for freebies in exchange for a good review.  I don't offer steak dinners in exchange for PR. But I might give a big hug. State the facts.  Be objective.  Keep in mind that guys care about:Was she on time?Was she courteous?What did she deliver?Were her body and face appealing?Did she accomplish the deed or give up?Was she a clock watcher?  Rushed or not?Was she a nice person?Was it too businesslike?Convenient/safe locationTits, ass and sex appeal?Did she enjoy herself?Would you go back?Worth the money?That's my take JP.  Trying to think like a guy...Heather

hello, Heather-funny. when i spoke with you on the phone a couple of weeks ago, you said you don't even read the reviews; instead you strictly "play the (discussion) boards."not that i'm being critical. i'm glad if you do read the reviews. just as the reviews are useful to hobbyists for finding out what we might expect from a provider, I think the reverse can also apply.as far as your trying to think like a guy, i think the categories you itemized were perfect.now, enough of you thinking like a guy. it's the WOMAN in you that appeals to me.

Well, JP, the first thing that comes to my mind is honesty.  That applies to a few things.Since I am not the typical lady, for that matter who is, as tastes/needs vary so much, but if some client gets real enthuastic and wants to make me a 30yo barbie doll, with good intentions, that truly is doing me no favors.My age and size is exactly what some are looking for, so they will know they are on the right track with honest info.  But if someone is looking for a 30yo barbie doll, to say I would be a disappointment is an huge understatement.Also one of my favorite quotes is 'honesty without kindness is subtle cruelty'.I am happy with who I am at this stage in my life, and I think the years, experience, etc, have helped to create a woman who is very comfortable with her sensuality and revels in it, is very open,has learned a great deal about herself and men (in good ways) to help her appreciate the difference incredibly and flexible with many things.  Except safety issues.I do have a bit of a problem with extremely graphic/juicy details, as I think this could come back and possibly create a problem for both involved.The YMMV is so hard to explain and nail down.  Because no matter how good the lady is, if the partner is not into things very much, it can put a bit of a damper on things and one mans treasure could be anothers trash.  The more research the better, and the time one takes in a few phone conversations, emails, can help to know there is a good match.Also for myself, the first visit usually, but not always, more laid back than any subsequent visits, as I want to make sure all are comfortable, and there is an experiencing of boundaries, finding what the person likes, etc.  After that, I and usually the client feel much more free to totally go for itSweet Dreams,  Susie

(EOM)

I don't mean to be flip, but when a guy calls me asking "Is all that stuff about you in the reviews true?", I assume he's calling me on his motorcycle and that he's sporting a crew cut. I am not going to take the booking or continue the conversation. The "goal": get your stupid fishing ass off the phone to open up the line for someone who knows what they are doing and can be respectful. I cut my losses fast. Once you ask questions that put you in the "Could Be a Problem File", it's hard to get unfiled.  There are too many good fish out there with good appreciation that smell less like haddock.Hope I didn't hurt your feelings.And yes, I read the reviews. I don't always read mine though. I was subscribing for a long time but now money is tight so I read the basic stuff but once I have a few bucks, I might renew so I can see the juicy details. HB

There are several things that I look for.  The first is the link to the webpage, and if they have the looks that I am into.  Secondly, I look at the prices, to see if it is within my limits.  Third, I look to the specifics of the performance. And last, I look to see if incall is available.

--modified by JP at Tue, May 01, 2001, 20:46:12

no hurt feelings here, Heather, but you seem to have mistaken me for someone else. i've never asked any provider that question; certainly not you. in our brief conversation, the only reference i made to reviews was a suggestion to check out mine since you were unfamiliar with me. now, though, since you mentioned the subscription $ issue, i understand why you said you didn't read the reviews.good fortune-ss

Well said!!!!!!!

Maybe the reason that money is tight is that your cash flow has been reduced since you raised your fee to 400/hr...I Once saw you about 6 months ago when your fee was $250....Just like the contracting business when you get busy you raise the price of your bid, but when cash flow dwindles then it is time to sharpen your pencil and come in with a tight bid (no metopher intented) lol....

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