I get these once in a while. and it's always a pleasant surprise. Rarely will I initiate a text but I will sometimes send an email of thanks sometimes at the end of the day of the appointment. I have never gotten a negative reaction to that.
I met a terrific lady the other day for the first time and we had really great chemistry. I had booked an hour and we spent a good 45 minutes just chatting when I arrived. I ended up getting my hour of fun and was with her just about two hours altogether. About 15 minutes after I left I got a text from her saying "Thanks for the FANTASTIC time!!". Made me feel pretty good.I like to send a thank you text after what seemed like a mutually enjoyable session with a provider, which the provider usually responds to in kind. Every once in a while there is radio silence in response though, which I really find off putting.
Is it too much to expect a response to such a text? I’m not talking about expectations of an ongoing conversation afterwards. I understand the session was a business transaction, and nothing more really, but it just rubs me the wrong way when there is a basic failure of politeness afterwards, for no good reason that I can discern.
Is this a pet peeve anyone else shares?
I've only done it three or four times, but I've always gotten a timely, positive, terse, response, e.g., "thank you honey."
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It may be as simple as that. Not a matter of politeness, but a business practice/preference. Or it could be she was busy when you texted her and she forgot to respond. That’s happened to me even with my ATF; she has a busy life. I wouldn’t let it bother you.
Agreed. Some providers respond to a thank you text, some don’t. I wouldn’t dwell on it.
included scheduling another date with her in your "thank you" text, you'll get a response 100% of the time. That's assuming it truly was a mutually enjoyable session.
Otherwise, don't expect a response every time. And if it ruffles your feathers you when they don't respond, then stop sending your "thank you" texts altogether so as to eliminate any possible irritation on your end when you receive no response.
Sometimes you get a vibe from the woman that it's not a good idea to contact her afterwards, and that's regardless of whether or not the session went well. On those occasions where I thought it would be well received, I've rolled the dice and sent a message. There have been some who ignored it, and I just let it roll off of me like water off a duck's back. I know I'm not in this game to make lifelong friends nor to establish everlasting relationships, I'm in it to get laid by women who accept my donation to do it.
I can't offer you much on your own experience, thoughts, impressions, none of the above, I can only speak from my own perspective. Personally, it doesn't bother me if one of these women decides not to respond to me at any point in the process. There are far too many women out there for me to worry about what one of them does or doesn't do.
That took all of 10 seconds.
No excuse for not responding except that she doesn't value repeat clients.
That took all of 10 seconds.
No excuse for not responding except that she doesn't value repeat clients.
Point taken DeClemente, further thank you's can be seen a superfluous to some. On the other hand, if a friend invites me to an event or gives a gift, I likely thank them in person, but it is (or used to be) also polite to send a "thank you" card.
In the case of thanking an escort for a stand-out session, I look for an in-kind response. Call me judgemental (or needy, LOL), but I'm far less likely to repeat if she doesn't. Maybe I'm looking for escorts who want to cultivate that type of relationship.
all you needed was a stamp. Now you have to write out the thank-you card, take a photo of it, scan it, upload it, and send it to the recipient with a polite email, which invites a back and forth email exchange over the ensuing days. There was a finality from sending a card by mail, which I have grown to appreciate even more lately. Lol
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Point taken DeClemente, further thank you's can be seen a superfluous to some. On the other hand, if a friend invites me to an event or gives a gift, I likely thank them in person, but it is (or used to be) also polite to send a "thank you" card.
In the case of thanking an escort for a stand-out session, I look for an in-kind response. Call me judgemental (or needy, LOL), but I'm far less likely to repeat if she doesn't. Maybe I'm looking for escorts who want to cultivate that type of relationship.
For instance, I had a first-time session one morning at an incall location and instead of being a hotel or motel, it turned out to be her own apartment where she received me. No big deal. She had a big-screen tv across from the bed that was showing stupid daytime programming and blasting full volume. I thought that she'd turn it off or turn down the volume once we got started, but she did neither. I found it very annoying and very distracting, so I politely asked if she would not mind turning it off. She was nice about it and apologized, but all she did was lower the volume a little. Even though it still annoyed and distracted me, I didn't press the point. It's her home, I'm only going to be there for 1 hour, I'm there to fuck, not for good housekeeping pointers, so I let it go. While it was not the ONLY reason, there were a couple of other things that colored my decision, I knew when I left that I'd never be back. The tv, however, bugged me. Anyone else can make his own decision about whether or not a situation like that annoys him during a session, and I support his right to do so.
I think the idea is to drown out any noise you and her make during sexy time. I can understand it, especially if it's her home, but I agree it is annoying.
I think the idea is to drown out any noise you and her make during sexy time. I can understand it, especially if it's her home, but I agree it is annoying.
It also depends on what's being broadcast on the tv at the time. It was those silly man-bashing talk shows, soap operas, cleanser commercials, fake reality tv courtrooms, etc. I'm not a fan of rap music videos, wrestling, rom-coms, cooking shows, the cutest cats and kitten shows, arts and crafts, celeb worship, lots of other shows and genres. If the escort is paying any attention at all to the tv, that's less attention she's paying to the session. When I'm in a motel or hotel with an escort, I usually don't even turn on the tv, and if I do, it's tuned to an oldies music-related show.
It's an apartment and people living on many sides and or they have more than one working room.
This is low level and probably some don't know what I'm saying. But when the areas are separated by sheets...
Yeah, it is not uncommon. One alternate theory is that as young girls masturbating, they probably also used background noise to cloak their activities and now mentally associated that environment with sexual pleasure.
I usually respond and I sometimes send one myself. But it has to be right away. So some gals may not see it until later and are unsure if it's ok to send a response at that time.
...if providers go through the same dilemma if the text isn't a post-coital thank you, but rather an appointment request?
As I know many providers will turn off their work phone when they're not working, will you not reply to a request for an appointment if you only see the text hours later for fear it might pose a real-world inconvenience to the sender?
This is what I always thought. If you guys don't see the message until later, you don't know if it's safe to text back. The client could be back with their family, and it would be very bad to get a text from the escort he saw hours or days earlier.
This 100% - I say thank you because i mean it, not to get a response back.
And maybe she receives tons of texts as it is? I think I only text a thank you to my ATF traveling provider who I only see twice a year, otherwise I give thanks during the goodbye as I’m leaving. Not saying her not responding is right, but I don’t think you need to spend any energy on why or feeling some sort of way about it.
...a response unless you're setting up another appointment. Unless you have a SB arrangement with her, non-appointment based texting is superfluous. I actually get annoyed when I receive post-coital texts from providers cause I feel pressure to text back and pretend I want to see her again soon, which may be the case but just as often not.
If you booked through a booker (aka KGirls) or an agency, your text will likely not be read by the provider.
But if you know you have her actual phone number, then I'd send one as long as the context of the session supported it. If you talk about the "next time" before you left, or she asked you to send her some info about a common interest (like a band that's playing a gig nearby soon), then it should be well received. If she's already answering texts from other clients as you are walking out the door, don't expect a reply.
Finally, consider the financial aspect: A $100, Motel-6 hhr date compared to a $750 2 hr date at a Marriot will likely yield different results.
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to the essence . . . .If you have given her your sincere thank you, no response is necessary If your "thank you" is just baiting her to see if she will start texting you off the clock, the smart ones will figure that out by the content and tone of YOUR text, and may not take the bait. Why not just add at the end of your text, "If you don't acknowledge my 'thank you', then I won't come back." Then it will be more clear to you why she doesn't respond. Are you also the kind of guy who gives someone a Christmas gift, and then thinks the recipient is rude when they don't give you one? Like gifts, the joy in compliments and thank you's is in the giving.
With that said, in order to avoid such potential misunderstandings, I never text a girl after a session that I'm seeing for the first time unless she texts me first. That way, if I was overly sensitive, I would not get my feelings hurt. If your thank you was completely sincere and you had no other agenda, I agree it could be construed as rudeness depending on how busy she is, but if she's that busy, it means you picked a winner and the failure to respond should not stop you from wanting to see her again. Many girls wait until you repeat before social niceties kick in. They are used to getting guys who are one and done.
I happen to think that thank you follow ups are just good etiquette - but there are plenty of legitimate reasons why you may not receive one. The key here is that you enjoyed an exceptional in-person experience. That's a win in my book!
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that I have completely missed a client's "thank you"/follow up text after our date but it's not out of spite or lack of appreciation for their time and patronage. It's purely due to not having my work phone on my person or around me. After an engagement, I'm cleaning up, showering, and getting ready for whatever else I have planned that day. Typically, by the time I see the text and want to respond, it's been a few hours or sometimes a full day. That in mind, I find texting back to be indiscreet so I'll send a "thank you" via email.
While I understand where you are coming from, if I were you, I wouldn't read too much into it. You had a great session it sounds like and that's what's most important. However, if this is really a pet peeve that gets under your skin that badly, then you're a lucky person because there are more providers out there!
Let the agency know things went well [or not].
If it's an indi, she does not need to be told how enjoyable the session was...she already knows. I would only send a text if I forgot something important, like my shoes.
Let the agency know things went well (or not).
In addition to the escort who's in the room with me, an agency needs some kind of feedback after a session, and I agree with you that an independent has already received hers directly.
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...my ATF has texted me her "thank you" text before I'm gone 10 minutes.
What some providers don't seem to understand is that, in a service business, EVERY opportunity you have to connect positively with a client is a way to enhance repeat business.
A ten-second "I had a great time" text may lead to a follow up booking. If it turns out to be a dead end, or a time waster, she can always detach from him afterwards.
I almost always send a text and always get a reply. I don’t try to start up a conversation, but that often happens and then it makes me really want to see her again.
If I can't answer a text within 15 minutes I will not reply. I never want to cause any friction in a man's personal life and untimely texts can do that for most. I love to hear from gentlemen I have seen and always welcome the just saying hi. Always try to answer myself but if i'm busy that 15 minute reply can timeout quickly. Perhaps this actually could be the reason you are not hearing back.
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Concerning your answer to the question about thank you messages after a date on the General Discussion Board:
If I can't answer a text within 15 minutes, I will not reply. I never want to cause any friction in a man's personal life and untimely, texts can do that for most. I love to hear from gentlemen I have seen and always welcome the just saying hi. Always try to answer myself, but if i'm busy, that 15-minute reply can timeout quickly. Perhaps this actually could be the reason you are not hearing back.
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completely respectful to your customers' privacy. Unless you know them well, its impossible to know whether you are texting at a convenient time or not once he has time to drive from your location to any other destination. I have the same respect for providers, and that's why I only text to reply to a contact initiated by the provider. I never go first. I prefer to contact via email which we can both check at our leisure when we are alone. The only time I text is on the day of the appointment, for location, and to announce my arrival awaiting further instructions.
You DONT TEXT providers, since you go through bookers 95% of the time.
You DON'T EMAIL providers, since the bookers don't allow you access.
Stop your fantasies. STOP LYING. That's a very good rule, no if ands or buts!
Yeah, and I'll throw in a "Drive safely" in there cause they're usually leaving at 3-4am from my hotel and we may have had a few.
These are often women who have other jobs, other appointments to get to, a kid at home, traffic to navigate, etc. And some of them are young and not very business savvy or wary of extended conversations with a client. Or whatever. I just wouldn't read too much into it.
If I've had a good session with a lady (most likely ladies these days) I usually send a "Thanks for the awesome time" text. 75 or 80% of the time I get a positive response (although sometimes the next day). Otherwise radio silence. I don't take umbrage at the latter. I don't see how it would be productive to do so.
I like to send a thank you text after what seemed like a mutually enjoyable session with a provider, which the provider usually responds to in kind. Every once in a while there is radio silence in response though, which I really find off putting.
Is it too much to expect a response to such a text? I’m not talking about expectations of an ongoing conversation afterwards. I understand the session was a business transaction, and nothing more really, but it just rubs me the wrong way when there is a basic failure of politeness afterwards, for no good reason that I can discern.
Is this a pet peeve anyone else shares?
I never would initiate an after-text but one time decided to text an after-text and she left me on read.
I then decided to never do the after-text. i occasionally have received a few after-texts from some providers and i respond in kind. But I have decided never to initiate the after text. Don't really care to let them know if i had a good time or not. If i had a great time, you'll hear from me at the next booking request.
not because I did not have a good time.
In the cases I did not respond right after a thank you text was sent was due to me not seeing the text until time had passed.
Many gents I see are married or I don't know their situation.I do not know if they are at home or somewhere a person can see or hear their phone.
I will however send an email or a P411 msg saying I received their text messages.
...have mentioned this which I think is very smart and thoughtful of you guys, but I'm just surprised that there are still hobbyists that engage regularly with providers haven't taken the plunge in investing in a "burner" phone.
Just as providers will have separate "work" and "personal" phones, it seems quite natural that hobbyists should have "play" and "personal" phones to keep the two, often non-compatible, sides of their lives separate.
Perhaps most do and you guys are just erring on the side of caution, which again is most appreciated 🙏
...have mentioned this which I think is very smart and thoughtful of you guys, but I'm just surprised that there are still hobbyists that engage regularly with providers haven't taken the plunge in investing in a "burner" phone.
Just as providers will have separate "work" and "personal" phones, it seems quite natural that hobbyists should have "play" and "personal" phones to keep the two, often non-compatible, sides of their lives separate.
Perhaps most do and you guys are just erring on the side of caution, which again is most appreciated 🙏
...as using an app saves on the costs of getting another phone and line and is arguably more "convenient".
Still, I agree with you that a "burner" phone, for my own needs, is preferable as just like a provider will turn off her work phone when she's not working, I'll turn off my play phone when I'm not playing and hide it away somewhere, so there's never any chance of any mishaps or unfortunate set of circumstances where my two "worlds" could collide.
...as using an app saves on the costs of getting another phone and line and is arguably more "convenient".
Still, I agree with you that a "burner" phone, for my own needs, is preferable as just like a provider will turn off her work phone when she's not working, I'll turn off my play phone when I'm not playing and hide it away somewhere, so there's never any chance of any mishaps or unfortunate set of circumstances where my two "worlds" could collide.
quite often.
On more than a few occasions I am waiting for a response from a gent or I have sent incall info that he never received.
It is always with guys who are using those app numbers instead of a secondary "hobby: phone.
I recommend a second phone...many places to hide it. Heck put where the spare tire in the trunk or the toolbox in the garage. Guaranteed wife/SO is not looking in either one of those places. lol
quite often.
I had a coworker at a former job years ago when those apps were fairly new. He wasn't seeing escorts (as far as I know), he used it to keep from having to give his personal phone number to customers, distributers, contractors and the like. It failed him by sometimes displaying his personal number on their phones instead of his app number. I thought that now a decade later it would have been resolved, but apparently not.
I use Google Voice heavily and have for a few years now. I have never had an issue with it and certainly never had it display my real number.
I use Google Voice heavily and have for a few years now. I have never had an issue with it and certainly never had it display my real number.
an enjoyable session, leave an envelope with thank you written on it with some cash and you will probably get a thank you text!
No guarantee, see what happens!
This has happened to me on Civvie dates where the Chemistry has been great. I appreciate when a lady thanks me, especially after I spend the evening with her, wineing and dining her. As far as P4P goes, I have reached out a few times, sometime she has replied, other times not. I never really take it to heart if I have no response.
I never initiate post-appointment "thank you" texts/emails, but I *answer* them. Reason being I don't want to act clingy. However, if a provider shows me goodwill, I respond in kind. Because (1) it makes me a decent person, and (2) it'll make scheduling easier in the future. Either way, such texts happened to me only twice in my entire hobby career.
I do exactly the same.. Has only happened to me couple of times in 20 yrs.
I get these once in a while. and it's always a pleasant surprise. Rarely will I initiate a text but I will sometimes send an email of thanks sometimes at the end of the day of the appointment. I have never gotten a negative reaction to that.
I met a terrific lady the other day for the first time and we had really great chemistry. I had booked an hour and we spent a good 45 minutes just chatting when I arrived. I ended up getting my hour of fun and was with her just about two hours altogether.
About 15 minutes after I left I got a text from her saying "Thanks for the FANTASTIC time!!". Made me feel pretty good.
I see a provider on a fairly frequent basis and actually enjoy her after visit correspondence , at first I thought it to be hokey , I now realize it to be genuine . I not only intensely enjoy the physical release that we both enjoy but also the conversation about both of our lives .