I was reading a thread about something similiar to this and was wanting to know if this has happened to anyone here and how they handled it?

I hobby in a fairly small area and there is a very good possibility that I might run into a gal I've seen when I'm out with my wife. I have seen a good many ladies and so this increases my odds of running into one while just out.

I'm a very outgoing personality and in my trade meet a lot of people. I'm sure if I ran into one of my provider friends I would (as a knee jerk reaction) smile and say hey how are you? I'm not sure what the lady would do/say back and how I would handle the introduction (if any was to be given) to my wife?

Could anyone share their story which might help plant a seed in this little brain of mine so I don't do something stupid.

As always thanks everyone who seems to always give me good feedback on my posts!!

It may seem unfriendly, but the risk of creating a serious problem for either the provider or the client is such that this rule should be followed.

I would think that this goes double in a small town.

You can always call or email the person later and just mention the fact that you noticed them but wanted to respect their privacy and that you were not being standoffish.

I would give no recognition.  If the lady (and this is most unlikely) gave a sign of recognition, you could give a distracted nod as you might to someone you had met once in a group and didn't at first recognize.  I would also have a ready and believable answer to "who's that?" well prepared.

..openly acknowledge a client in public. It's sort of an unwritten rule. I wouldn't be concerned.

You never know who could be on the sidelines with the other person..Why start a problem

I have run into people before and walked by without notice..The person has called and thanked me for being so thoughtful..

We all have lives why complicate them

Kisses Haley

Any chance public meeting should never be acknowledged.  Maybe a polite nod as even strangers occasionally do.  You don't know if you might be observed nor do you know who's she with or if she might be observed.  
If questioned about her, say "I don't know but she looked familiar."  One can not be expected to remember (if you ever knew) every person that say comes through a high volume store.  You might even ask if whom ever you are with knows her, as if to jog your memory.  

No follow up unless you have a date in the future.
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I've seen this in others and I've experienced it myself...when stepping out on the SO, there can be a strong urge to bring the "other woman," whether a provider or a civvie, into the orbit of your regular life.  It's DANGEROUS, man!!!

Step back and consider this...you are fantasizing about this happening...about running into a provider and saying hello while you're with your wife....why the F are you even thinking about that???  Yeah, it's a real ego trip, but, my friend, don't go down that road.  Step back and give yourself a bit of introspection...

you in a greeting that would need an explanation...  In point of fact, one provider who I would dearly love to set up a dinner appointment with - declined - as she does not wish to run the risk of generating unwanted attention to herself...  and I do wonder about that as why would she not just say it was a "Date" or a biz meeting...?

But in general - Unless you've prearranged some sort of agreement that you would acknowledge one another - it is wise to "just pass on by"  or to quote the cop shows, "move along folks, there is nothing to see here, just move along now..."

Providers do remember specific instructions
- don't call or sms after a certain time
- don't call out in public etc
- preferred mobile/ email etc.
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I know I pay attention when my gentleman is eyeball to eyeball talking to me.

For avoiding those awkward chance meetings may I recommend the trusted and often overlooked Beagle Puss. It can be used when meeting with a provider or when out in public!

If worn in public, I offer this bit of sage advice if your concerned about your public image:
"You'll never see these people again."


But seriously, the slight unobtrusive head nod  as if giving a polite hello to a stranger would be better than charging over and screaming "How the hell are you!"

C_K

I had an experience once where I was at a nice restaurant with my SO and I literally bumped into a provider I had seen a few times before.  I was on my way to the bathroom and she was returning to her table from the bathroom when we saw and recognized each other.  I think we covered up our shock pretty quickly, and I simply said "excuse me" and moved to the side to allow her to pass.  I almost had a heart attack in the restroom and tried desperately to come up with an explanation in case I needed it.  My SO didn't notice anything, and the rest of the meal went well.  A week later, I contacted the provider to set up an appointment and couldn't help asking about our impromptu encounter.  She thanked me for my discretion--she was having dinner with her ex.  She had recently won custody of her son and was discussing the possibility of allowing her ex some visitation privileges.  She was scared to death of his ever finding out that she provides for fear of her being characterized as unfit for custody should her ex ever choose to bring the case back to court.  A simple "hello, how are you, fancy meeting your here..." might have started a conversation for her that night that could ultimately have hurt her.

where, not only had we wound up in the same hotel, but found out that we were in adjascent rooms. That was a strange one. The following morning, I was in the hotel restaurant for breakfast, and saw her at a table with two other people. She noticed me also, but we didn't acknowledge each other. A few minutes later, she seemed to go out of her way on her way to the ladies room to walk by my table and give me a nice smile, and a nod. It was very nice.

and wouldn't you just know it, I was with another provider at the time.

Not only that, the provider I was with had introduced me to the one we ran into during doubles sessions they used to do together, and resented her now for seeing me singly.

I think that might be more awkward than having your spouse run into them.

If this happened to me I would give a smile
and go about my business.  If you were to make physical contact, I would likely feign not knowing you.  Not in attempt to be rude but because I would have no idea of an alibi for the person you may be with or the persons I maybe with.  

All around it is best to keep things pleasantly discreet and ignore and deny, deny, deny = )

Here's what you do when your wife turns to you and says:  Who dat?

Just say:  "Oh, that's just some dumb hooker I screw around with."

I bet she just doubles over in laughter.

You try it first and let us all know how that worked out.

You are trying to get me killed by two people. The wife for me admitting it and then the hooker (your word, not mine!!!) for calling her that word and dumb...lol

I usually like your views and advice Mr. Fisher but not this time..ha..ha

Yeaps, these chance encounters can hurt both parties if not handled appropriately. And the only appropriate way is "there is noone here I've ever met in my life"

XoXO

Lina

I was in the hotel health club the morning after a recent M & G when one of the providers from the M & G entered the health club and went to an adjacent treadmill.  Neither of us acknowledged the other.  It is all about discretion.  

BTW, she is still on my bucket list.

in my 1st yr of providing.

1st:  I visited a gentleman in my area and we had a great time.  Somehow the conversation came up about local clubs, etc.  Probably cause he knew I liked to dance.  He just soo happened to mention the club that I usually frequent.  Well I told him I knew the place but never gave any inclination that is where I go.  So that night I am at the club and I will be damn he is there.  I almost freaked.  I prayed he wouldnt say a word as I know way too many people.  He kept smiling at me and purposely walking past me.  One time he politley leaned towards me and said I looked hot and just said thank you and he proceeded on his way.  Luckily alot of guys give ladies compliments in a club.

2nd:  same club..Now I am drinking and just alittle tipsy.  I walked up to the bar and some guy says "hey are you on the internet".  I am like well yea I am on some dating sites.  He said you look just like this woman whose name is Bella.  I was like "sorry you have me mistaken for someone else" and he was like "oh I am sorry but you sure are pretty".  I thanked him and casually walked away with a lump in my throat.

Thankfully most men do realize to be discreet.  Being I am single I can blow it off but it is true you NEVER know who is around them.  Maybe the ladies bf or husband, gf that has clue what we do, child, etc.  Always, play it safe and don't acknowledge.

Oh now it's even funnier when you run into a fellow provider.  This has happened to me a few times in the same place with the same lady.  By time #2 we just smiled at each other.  Again I don't have worries as I can come up with something if someone asked.  But it is respectful to just keep going..

Kisses,
Bella

if we are in the same restaurant, we'll be at the same table, and you can smile all you want.

Any classy provider would never "slip out" and I'm assuming all providers are very discrete, as you gentleman would want us to be, and same is expected from you... I wish you the best!

This happened before the hobby went big time  internet (I used to be a provider for agency-then "retired").

I was in a surgery waiting room with a family member and her child.  I saw one of my clients and tried to go on as normal.  

Would you believe that it was he that came over to say something.  He was there with is wife and had the audacity to tell me that he told his wife I was one of the missionaries that was praying for them... LOL

Way out story, way out excuse, way out people. WOW!

Maddie

don't say anything to them,if they don't say anything to me! I've ran into a few of my clients at a casino here and have always waited for the green light (for them to say something first).