First I apologize for the crappy subject title, but I could not thing of anything good.

Warning: Some Rambling Follows


With that said I wants opinions on an issue, that I understand, but at the same time I don't understand. If a provider or a stripper(I go to strip clubs too) and myself become buddies(we hang out and have a good time without any monetary exchange for a service) I can separate the personal relationship from the business one. I have had stripper friends before, that is how I know I can do it.

If I had a female friend(even one I wanted to have sex with), who I found out was a provider or a stripper, I could not pay her for any service. I would not even feel comfortable seeing her naked if money was involved in any way.

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Logical Version of Myself: The fact that I know you as a provider/stripper before I knew you as friend should not affect how I do things. Either I should be able to do "business" with friends or I should not.
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I don't have this situation in real life by the way it was just an observation I made when I had to much time to think.

I guess I am asking opinions on why it's that way.
This also led me to the question of whether or not a provider would feel the same way if a buddy tried to arrange a "meeting" with her.

I have had friends and ex-boyfriends find out I was an escort and later ask for an "appointment." It is a little awkward at first, but in the end they end up being great clients. One guy when he found out said "Why didn't you tell me before? I've been wasting my time on these airhead girls, and I could have been with a friend all along."

As for going in the opposite direction - client to friend - almost always bad news.

I think this is because if a gentleman is a friend first, that is kind of how he will always see a lady. If a gentleman is a client first, in the back of his mind (and sometimes also the woman's) it's business - not personal.

Kisses,
Vanica Love

Being someone's friend, you learn a lot about them; and they learn a lot about you.

Sometimes that is compatible with continuing sex and sometimes it isn't. Sometimes it increases the sexual attraction, sometimes it diminishes it. It can be really strange setting up a provider who is a friend on a blind civie date.

In general, I have had good results in continuing a p4p model simultaneously with a genuine friendship. It sort of combines the best of all worlds in a very safe context.

Nevertheless, sad but true. It has been my experience

Agreed.

I used to see this guy he wasn't a boyfriend just a friend who occasionally I would hook-up with a long time ago.lost contact 6 yrs later bumped into him & he wanted  to resume an intimate relationship I let him know I was now a provider & I wasn't interested in resuming an intimate relationship from 6 yrs ago.He got so irritating I told him if he wanted to see me in that way he would need to make an appt.The guy informed me even though I was a provider he would never pay to see me I was perfectly cool hanging out,occasional dinner&drinks as friends.Eventually,couldnt be friends w/him anymore cause he kept bringing up the old intimate relationship & trying to take up time when I could be working.

That said, I've had a few gals whom I hobbied with become friends with varying degrees of success.

I'm not sure whether overall it's been worth it or not, but there were some nice times as well as some not so much.  Some of the breakups were kind of lousy, consisting mostly of the cold shoulder until I got the message.  I think that is worse than the drop kick approach.

I've only known one friend who later I found out became an escort.  We didn't hook up but I thought about it a lot.  It seemed to me that that would be more problematic.  It's hard to say.

As always, the real question is not the "what" but the "how".

I have been busy so I could not respond in my own thread, but I thank everyone for their comments.