If her performance and attitude were similar, I'd be more likely to post a review than if they were very different. The last lady whom I saw had a great attitude, but she didn't do much that I liked. I wouldn't want to post a bad review because of her attitude but I wouldn't want to post a good review because I didn't enjoy her very much. But I'd be happy to post a bad review for a lady with a bad attitude whom I didn't enjoy or a good review for a lady who had a good attitude whom I enjoyed.
How about just post an honest review??
One semi-good/bad review won't kill a ladies business. There is no harm in saying "Mary had a great attitude, but her technique wasn't quite what I prefer, so YMMV". That is just being honest.
Sure, we ladies all want to see those 8's and 9's, and perhaps even a 10 once in a while, and we want to see reviews where the reviewer makes it clear that we ARE indeed goddesses extraordinaire, but that isn't realistic. First off, that just ain't reality, and secondly, if ALL reviews said that in a nutshell, reviews would become pretty pointless.
So don't be shy, write the review with honesty and objectivity, and let the chips fall where they may 
Maybe I've experienced particularly insecure women or maybe I'm naturally too critical, but my training, from my mother to girlfriends to fiancees to employees, has been that rule #1 is NEVER criticize a woman. Women whom I've experienced have had a distinct preference for being told what is good about themselves over being told what is true about themselves. It would take a LOT of coaxing for me to write a bad review unless I had a strong feeling of having been cheated. xxmeowbabyxx wrote that she wonders if she did something wrong if a TER client didn't post a review. Assuming I speak for most men, which I do, she SHOULD wonder. Expecting a man to criticize a woman without being prodded is like expecting a woman to get "picked up" by a man the first time he asks.
Ah, but the only way we grow and learn is to find out what we are doing wrong. A little bit of constructive criticism never hurt anyone. Meow shouldn't wonder at all. Like her, I have on occassion seen a gentleman who I either knew beforehand was a TER member, or the fact that he was a member came up during our time together. Yet as far as I know, a review was never written. Like Meow, I have to assume that something was not to his liking, and he perhaps chose not to submit a review so as to not hurt my feelings.
Now, just a few days ago, I posted a thread asking for opinions about a rather unusual comparison to describe my naughty bits. The reviewer was trying to be flattering, but it came across sounding pretty bizarre to me, and it bothered the hell out of me. So I'm not going to lie and say that a bad review won't hurt my feelings, because I'm human and stuff. But I would honestly rather know if something didn't click with a gent.
If its just a lack of chemistry, I can't control that, but if it was something I did or didn't do, that I can fix and its always good to know the little details that really hit home, or were a total miss. It is what makes me a better provider which makes me happier, and makes my gentlemen callers happier too.
Its your choice to make of course and if you feel more comfortable not writing up the review, that is your call to make. These are just my thoughts on the subject though
Good question, as I have often wondered about that my self.
Thanks for your responses!
Kelly
The past week I saw no less than 4 very outstanding Gentlemen from TER.. We had great times together, the chemistry was there, we both enjoyed ourself..
A couple of those are UTR user of TER.. The others many 'A-lister' reviews..
I will no doubt see at lest two of these again.
This upcoming week I have 3 TER members booked, one of which is UTR..
I have seen many others...
The reason for no reviews as many of these Gents have pointed out is TER staffs labeling of me as "TS" when I am not a TS.. Post Op Female YES..
Transcending gender lines NOT..
I am just like any other female provider here and I am very good at what I provide..
Till the incorrect label is removed I expect few reviews.. I have asked staff several times to remove it and at least one TER Gent has.. No Joy..
I worked so hard to get my life straight only to have very bad stereotyping applied to me but those you don't even know me.. What a shame..
So I live with what I get, the good and the bad..
If I have a mediocre experience with a lady I will sometimes not write a review. If I honestly feel that it was just not great chemistry I would rather not cast the lady in a bad light for something that could be my fault as much as hers. Every at bat is not a home run.
Also, If a lady has lots of very good and current reviews I will sometimes not write a review. If I don't feel I have anything to ad to what others have said I simply won't bother.
"Also, If a lady has lots of very good and current reviews I will sometimes not write a review. If I don't feel I have anything to ad to what others have said I simply won't bother."
Please by all means, do bother. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying the same thing other gents have said, and more than a few reasons to do so.
For one thing, I can't speak for every lady, but I love nothing checking my profile and seeing another review posted - when its a positive review of course, which most tend to be. For another, every time a lady gets a new review, her name goes to the top of the list when someone uses search criteria that she fits. So new reviews help the lady in question stay visible to gentlemen searching TER. Finally, gents sometimes assume that a lady must be taking a break, or has perhaps stopped providing if there is a gap in her reviews. I've gotten e-mails on a few ocassions now where gentlemen have expressed that they were "glad I was back" or asked if I was still providing because I either had not had a new review in a while, or a new review had just shown up after a lengthy gap.
There is simply no such thing as too many reviews. So please do by all means, write a review, even if you are simply reinforcing the positive things others have said about her
Reciprocation is divine. Ladies when a gent writes you a good review, return the favor and white list him. Itz all good!
I always do if know for certain who the reviewer is. Of the reviews I have, I know who is behind the TER handle for perhaps half of my reviews. The other half, I can't add a white list referral because for all I know, I might be white listing a guy who had a good time, but I was adding his information to my "oh God never again" list as soon as he was out the door. Probably not, but unless I know who the man behind the handle is, I can't in good conscience white list him.
(This is why I suggest to gents that after they write a review, if it was a positive one, they should consider contacting the lady and saying "I just wrote a review for you, hope you like it" or something along those lines. That way she can connect the gentleman with the review.)
I am happy to write reviews, and have each time so far. I think it would be a dis-service to not write a review, both for the provider and for TER. On the other hand, Ive only had the most amazing experiences so far, and nothing at all bad to mention!
The reasons why I might not review someone:
1. She indicated she did not wish to be reviewed (either directly or through various hints) AND the session went well (by my definition a performance score of 8).
2. She has plenty of reviews including some within the past two months or so and I didn't think I could add anything not in the existing reviews, AND I was feeling lazy.
I've been fortunate where I have never had a session where I felt my review would make a big difference in someone deciding not to see a lady.
I'm probably the only provider that feels like this but I really truly get excited when I see a new review! Like a kid at xmas!
I'm a very low volume provider and believe me, reviews help my business immensly. I appreciate everyone of them.
When a gent from ter doesn't write a review I always wonder if I did something wrong. I think Sins said it best. If a gent didn't love the session but it was just because she wasn't his cup of tea. Write that. Be honest. Yes she had a great attitude but not quite what I prefer.....
Please gents...write those reviews..it really does make a difference.
I only see one person and she is not on the board and prefers not to be more public than she is.
I don't recall any situation where that has happened as yet.
I always write a review of the lady, except if she says she does not want a review. And, if it is a poor experience, I will write a review anyway.
If I write a poor review I will always state a reason and then add YMMV. I think it is important that we write good and bad reviews otherwise how will we alert each other that there may be problems in paradise.
If we don't write poor reviews then the next visitor may have the same poor experience that we had.
I can't believe that guys would wimp out on this.
Isn't honesty the best policy here? Why set guidelines for how and when to write a review? To me that totally defeats the purpose of TER.
Reviews (accurrately written) are supposed to be a guideline for other hobbyists to get real descriptions of what a session with that particular provider are like so he can make a decision if he'd like to see that lady.
They are also helpful to a provider to assess her performance as seen through her clients so that she knows how to better the experience for future clients.(if necessary) Which would increase her scores and business.
Seems pretty cut and dry to me. Just MHO
I think fucking with a provider's livelihood is pretty serious and I don't take it lightly. Unless I feel truely ripped off, I won't review the duds. Some guys might have better luck with them than I did, but they'll never see them if they read my review.
I've had some good ones that I didn't review for various other reasons.
I recently came to realize that decision was not just lazy, it was also selfish. For about three years I didn't write a single review, because I was simply lazy. I started out here obtaining VIP access by writing reviews. When I started paying monthly, I somehow felt "entitled" to stop writing.
I recently made a decision and commitment to become more involved here and to start "pulling my own weight". I now write a review unless I know she prefers I do not.
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review of our time together. One lady said that TER was too graphic; this coming from a lady who has several DVD's on the market. Dah, I don't get it.
Can any of you ladies help me here?
The only time that I don't submit reviews are:
1. To respect the privacy of the provider (at her request).
2. TER rejects my review, due to "not enough details". Sometimes I don't have time to do revisions, so the time limit for submitting the review may have already passed.
3. If our session did not go as planned, I won't necessarily write a negative review. I'll give the provider the "benefit of the doubt". However, that's only applies to providers who have good reputations and may be having an off day.
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I would have given the ladies great in looks 8 or above - but in performance... 7 or below... but not a B&S - no upsale... just not what I was looking for - and the ladies in question - delivered as they advertised... and there is nothing wrong with that... but the sessions were boring.... and not a GFEs... and the session were delivered as advertised.... Guess I don't like to give a grade that is harsh - unless it is an ROB, B&S or some other scam.
