Opinion. Logic, reasoning, and deduction.
BTW, the Brittany Spears comment- that she is a poor choice as an example, is just "your opinion"- she could have used Hillary Clinton or anyone else that has a Va-jay-jay, but for the example, she used a semi-hot-chick. You should be glad, and not critical. Who gives a flying eff is she is a provider or not, she is a a PRETEND EXAMPLE....
It would seem you are arguing for arguments sake.
Unless you come up with a better solution than the blacklist as it is now, you are yet another complainer, and offer no useful help. (Fact.)
We are stuck with the system we have and our own intelligence to "figure it out." (FACT)
And btw, I think you give the men too much credit, I would think 70-80% of the "Blacklisted" ones are on point.
Once again, hopefully, us ladies, do our homework, and use other verifiable information (i.e. link clicking from reviews/profiles/etc etc) before resorting to the blacklist solely. That would be like believing a girl's one & only review that was bad, but wait.... :-P
Posted By: TalkToTrees
Again... I go back to the question...
When was the last time a blacklist was used properly?
Suppose out of 100 submissions to a blacklist, only 3 are legit, how are YOU supposed to know which one is legit? You don't. That's my point.
When it comes to me checking out the reviews, yes, some are bullshit and some are not. Like yourself, I use my instincts. If something is off, I won't pursue that lady. I move onto someone else. It's that simple, but not for a blacklists that are used by ladies like yourself.
Oh, BTW, Brittany Spears is not a provider, using her as an example is a poor choice.
The Forest Waits
The blacklists I use are ones where information is kept private and off of search engines. Ergo, you will not be able to know whether or not you've been put on it. Also, if a gent gets blacklisted for either erroneous or overblown reasons, it won't ruin his life.
Blacklists are not the only tool that are used for screening, but they can be useful. But in the end, it's a case by case basis thing. If someone's on a blacklist once for a NCNS, I'm happy to see them. Shit happens. If someone's on a blacklist for multiple cancellations, I'll ask for a deposit. If someone's on a blacklist for being violent or forcing BBFS, I'll pass. It's just not a chance I'm willing to shoulder.
And again, I'm just curious what your solution is, if you think all blacklists shouldn't be used? If a woman is violated, hurt, not paid for her time, etc...should she just keep it to herself?
They may require a log in and not subjected to Google bots, but they are far from private. Frankly, I don't have a big problem with the "private" sites because the entries are not made public.
Blacklists are nothing but subjective bullshit that can never be verified by someone else. You say that you use "effectively used blacklists", really? Compared to what? What are you comparing those "effectively used blacklists" to? Angie's List? I doubt it.
About the only verifiable site that I would even bother with is Preferred 411. At least those folks will work with both providers and hobbyists alike and verify them based on their methods.
Or, develop your own screening method that has worked over the years. I have ran into a number of ladies who detest blacklists because of the constant bullshit that goes on. They don't have time to wade through the bullshit to pull out the legit ones. Many of them require at least 2 references, usually that will be the key if the provider sees a hobbyist.
But, if you insist that blacklists site are the way to verify someone, good luck to you.
The Forest Waits
Posted By: DollyHaze
The blacklists I use are ones where information is kept private and off of search engines. Ergo, you will not be able to know whether or not you've been put on it. Also, if a gent gets blacklisted for either erroneous or overblown reasons, it won't ruin his life.
Blacklists are not the only tool that are used for screening, but they can be useful. But in the end, it's a case by case basis thing. If someone's on a blacklist once for a NCNS, I'm happy to see them. Shit happens. If someone's on a blacklist for multiple cancellations, I'll ask for a deposit. If someone's on a blacklist for being violent or forcing BBFS, I'll pass. It's just not a chance I'm willing to shoulder.
And again, I'm just curious what your solution is, if you think all blacklists shouldn't be used? If a woman is violated, hurt, not paid for her time, etc...should she just keep it to herself?
You're a dude, right?
Why are you so concerned with how ladies screen?
We can't contest our reviews on TER. Some of the sites we can't even see our entire review..
Are you pro or anti reviewing ladies?
You can read through the bullcrap, right? So why do you think we can't?
Does it really matter if I was a lady or a man? The concept is still the same, isn't it?
My concern about ladies using blacklists as part of their screening process is how can I trust a provider who puts her faith in bullshit sites? I can't and never will.
Your next comment would be, Ok, move onto the next provider. I have and I will. Thank you very much.
Where did you see that I was anti-screening? I never said that and you know it.
I mentioned that providers who have been around for a while will develop their own screening methods that don't require the use of blacklists sites.
I'm sure you'll find the need to put in the last word, go ahead. I don't mind.
The Forest Waits
Posted By: Alyssa Marie
You're a dude, right?
Why are you so concerned with how ladies screen?
We can't contest our reviews on TER. Some of the sites we can't even see our entire review..
Are you pro or anti reviewing ladies?
You can read through the bullcrap, right? So why do you think we can't?
1) Britney Spears is an entertainer.
2) Do you take your iPad in to the bathroom with you and speak your posts out loud in the mirror while waving your arms like, "success!" Has anyone ever told you that you just like to argue for the sake of arguing. I hope you got some fresh air today.
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