There are so many posts about my "ATF", "one of my regulars", etc..
This just seems so open to interpretation. Is a regular someone you see every week? Every month? Once a quarter? Is it someone who has committed to a LTR "package"?
I love the thrill and excitement of seeing someone new. When there is great chemistry, I will see someone many times, but not really on a "regular" schedule. It's not like clockwork.
Just curious to hear what you consider "regular"?
when you have someone you really connect with and she is willing to put up with your baggage ( as long as you have plenty of benji's ) and you see her on a "Regular" basis ( hello we're all grown-ups, sorry well most of us are ) so you should no what a "Regular" basis means by now then she is one of your regulars......especially if you know what days she , Tans, Manicures,Waxes and Shops for her booze .... you may then consider yourself a regular...not to be confused with a "SugarDaddy" that is a whole different post.....
At least once a month or so. If I've met someone but don't see them regularly, I still take their appointments quickly because they are a :good friend: but calling someone a regular means it happens on a recurring basis. Someone who cares about me and enjoys our time enough to continue to repeat - I have known regulars for years! Sometimes they take a break for family reasons or go visit someone else, but they always come back to me
There are a handful of true regulars, others are just short term fun that won't become a regular part of a girls income.
got what I was asking. So if I understand you right, a regular means more than just frequency of visits? It includes valuing and enjoying time with you, financial support you can count on, maybe chemistry for you as well?
There is one lady I see a couple of times a months. I consider her a regular. The frequency speaks to a level of comfort and enjoyment both physically and otherwise. However, I still enjoy a bit of variety, as well. It's all good . . .
Not trying to hijack your thread, but I posted something very similar on he NY Board, and had thought about posing here is well. Here is the original thread.
So far my Hobbying has been generally centered on enjoying the wide variety of providers available here in NY. With so many great women to meet with limited time and funds, I rarely end up repeating; and when I do repeat, it's rarely more than 2x and never more than 3. I thinking one my my New Years resolutions will be to try Hobbying from the other angle and find a few providers that I really like and become more of a "regular client."
So my question to you all, is what do you actually consider a "regular" hobbyist/provider relationship? I am certainly very curious how that differs from the hobbyist's and the provider's point of view. How many meetings does it typically take to shift from "new" to "regular". What is the typical frequency in which you see your regular provider/client. For hobbyists, what additional benefits do you often enjoy from seeing a particular provider versus seeing someone new. For you providers, how much more do you appreciate your "regulars" and what additional benefits if any might you give them.
Thanks in advance for sharing. Look forward to your various perspectives.
- Spartan
Seems as if the consensus is that things progress to "regular" relationship after 3-5 sessions and some predictable frequency (say weekly or monthly, and for touring providers when they are in town. I for one plan to explore the "regular" side of the hobby in 2014. That said, I have several more lovely women to meet before I narrow the field.
Happy Holidays!
- Spartan
since everyone has a different interpretation. Kinda like GFE. It's whatever the escort and hobbyist agree on. I travel a lot, and see certain providers when I'm visiting, maybe two or three times. a year. One provider calls me a "regular" so for our relationships I'm a regular. Im sure if you asked another provider, 3 times would not be considered a regular. And does it really matter?
This just seems so open to interpretation. Is a regular someone you see every week? Every month? Once a quarter? Is it someone who has committed to a LTR "package"?
I love the thrill and excitement of seeing someone new. When there is great chemistry, I will see someone many times, but not really on a "regular" schedule. It's not like clockwork.
Just curious to hear what you consider "regular"?
It's a vague term with no [i]precise[/i] meaning, but it still carries some meaning with it.
Certainly there is a thrill that comes with seeing new people, but there is also a fair amount of risk involved unless you are willing to pay through the nose. I don't mean LE risk, because that's fairly easy to circumvent, as long as one is careful. But you risk getting bad service or, worse, ripped off entirely.
But I really love seeing my regulars. With regulars, I get much more than just a hot and steamy time. I also get a personal connection that I find very important. And any time I see someone new, it is almost always with the intention of developing a lasting regular relationship.
Since the ability to meet can vary so widely, I'd loosely define a "regular" as 3+ meetings with the intention to continue meeting. But fellas, don't lose your minds and assume that because you're a regular that you're a favorite. Plenty of ladies will take on a regular they're not excited about because it's an easy appointment and steady income.
and they all love those easy 2 minute handjobs for sure...those are their ATF's....
Let's say a gal comes to your city twice a year and you see her each time she comes. I'd call that a regular (if not a favorite).
But maybe you see a local gal 2-3 times a year, and some won't consider that person a regular because there are other gals you see monthly or even weekly.
These terms are all very loose, and seldom convey anything that meaningful.
Obviously means different things to different people.
I have been called ...Client Husband Lol.
Define that !!
can mean different things to different people .
For me because I am Vegas based it changes the definition a bit .
Vegas hobbyist are more based on visitors ( business , vacation ) VS locals.
Most people get to Vegas once a year , maybe twice, if they are lucky .
Some get back to Vegas 3-6 times per year and if they are really lucky maybe even once a month.
And some may only get to Vegas every other year ..... or less .
Therefore , for me if I have seen someone more then twice ( it doesn't have to be in the same year ) then I consider him a regular .
If I remember the gent off the top of my head , then he is considered a regular.
A regular doesn't mean he is seeing just me. He can also be a regular to other ladies too .
A GREAT regular is someone who sees me every time he gets to Vegas.
Maybe the proper word should be "repeat gent" rather then regular .
but the word regular also means we have a deeper bond with each other . That we connect on more levels then just sex........that is why the word "repeat" doesn't really work for me .
and yes I think a gent can be a regular to more then one lady.
In fact it cracks me up when a lady says - He is MY regular ....... I always say -
Yours ? really ? how much did you pay for him ??? LOL LOL LOL LOL
Sometimes by mistake if I use the term - "one of my regulars" ....... I catch myself and correct it to- " A regular" because at the end of the day, I don't own the gent .
He isn't MY husband or MY boyfriend
Variety is the spice of life . Some like variety , some like coming back to the same lady .
either way , there is no need to read so much into certain words.
A regular is someone I have met before , comes back to see me when HE wants to see me ( or when he can ).
I Don't have to screen him. I know he is safe, and I know I am going to have A LOT of fun !!!
Actually I always know I am going to have a lot of fun ! *wink wink*
xoxo CindySpice