I have offered a threesome several times. He tells me NO. I have also offered some girl on girl for him to watch and join in if he later desires, I am told no. If I wish to be with a girl I should book my own appointment.

Great suggestion, but I don't think that would be his thing either.

And if you were with me I bet you'd be in stripper heels.  Because I'd already have bought you a closet full of Blahniks, Choos, etc.
And another thing: I'm getting divorced.  Please send me some of those hot pix!

I think the glamor shots look great but I agree with G2. I want the lady I know in the picture.

I agree. This is a professional photographer. My hair and make-up will be done that day but in my normal style. I usually maintain my self well with hair, make-up, nails and toes.

I don't want to look fake. I want him to look at them and see me.

while she _wasn't_ _exactly_ Dita (LOL!)

she certainly had that look available when she wanted. she was "fucking amazing" and it gives me very warm fuzzies just recalling her then.

time takes its toll though. i was never deserving of that degree of good fortue in the looks/performance department. so it is good she and i have our memories and also a stash of photos....  

Everybody has flaws...

Understanding them and loving somebody for knowing those flaws is what it is all about...

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I am not sure he would agree with that statement! I have many flaws! Ummm... I am just very sexually aware.

Thank you for your input and the website.

Not sure where you get the jerking off part from... some of us just call... book it up ... and do it up in person...

I was jerking off more when I was married... even though I was married to a nympho... LOL!

the candles lit, a nice glass of wine, some Ann Hampton Callaway setting the mood, and she's just dressed in the boots and the Oxford.  Oh....maybe with a tie (or two) on hand, just in case.

That's the fantasy....

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the added zest you're looking for.

Wow, sorry to hear about your child. Like I said, I wasn't being critical and I obviously know only a micro-fraction of what's behind this.

Personally, him seeing providers is exactly that...fucking, not making love. If it's all out in the open now, perfect!

As for what to wear...something he would never have seen you in. Dominatrix attire? Handcuffed and gagged?

One of the things that surprised me most after hanging around here for ten years is how many married men really love their wife, but she just refuses to have sex with them.  Some of them have gone for years before they reached their breaking point and started looking elsewhere.  And nearly all come here so they can stay married, not so they can leave the marriage.

By comparison, you're someone that has kept the sexual fires burning and wants to keep the physical side of the marriage strong.  IMO, any married man should be grateful to have such a wife and make sure he rewards her with lots of love and good sex.  Because I've lived the other scenario and it's no fun for anybody involved.

Since you've asked the question, here's some of my recommendations for you.  First, don't try to beat the escorts at their own game.  By that I mean don't be too obvious, overtly sexy or aggressive.  You have to remind your husband why he wants you, and you've got plenty of time to do that.  So be subtle. The key is he has to come to the conclusion on his own.  Men want to hunt, and we want to chase, but we also want to win at the end and get the woman of our desire- we just need to think it was our idea and you succumbed to our charms.  

So I suggest you get dressed up a little nicer than usual now and then.  Wear your make-up for no special reason.  Look a little nicer around the house- don't just save it for strangers when you go out.  Make sure you wear your nice matching bra and panties when he sees you get undressed.  Buy some new ones if you need to.  Lingerie is like Christmas wrapping paper to a man and everyone remembers how much they enjoyed the anticipation of unwrapping gifts as a kid.

Make him notice, and then wonder, why you're looking so good.
Let him remember why he fell for you in the first place, and then once you've got his attention again, it sounds like you know how to close the deal.

Guys need to think it's their idea to pursue women (including their wives), even if we all know it's the women that decide when they'll let themselves be caught.  One of the reasons marriage gets boring is the chase is gone, there's no excitement of the hunt.  I'm not saying make him beg- that will just piss him off, as well it should.  I'm saying make him think it was his idea to fuck you senseless, just like when you were dating and you were the prize he sought and won.  

Now this suggestion is more specific.  I was married for 12 years (together 15) and have had many GFs since.  One of the times I wanted all of them the most was when they were getting dressed up nice to go out to dinner or somewhere else.  To me there was nothing sexier than watching my woman get ready as she did her hair and makeup leaning over the sink.

First off, you've just gotten out of the shower and are getting all fixed up, and second, you're leaning over the sink and your legs and ass look magnificent in that position.  If you want to improve your odds with this technique, put on your lingerie and hose (if you're wearing them), and heels while you finish your makeup.  Then let your husband realize that there's nothing he wants more than to lean you over the sink and take you before you go out for the evening.

Usually, my wife or GFs were running late and would push me away.  A few times they let me fuck them from behind and it was always mind blowing- elbows on the bathroom counter looking into the mirror!  So give yourself some extra time, plan on needing to wash up and reapply your makeup.  Then thank me after you've had your brains fucked out and you husband spends the whole night looking at you thinking about a repeat performance when you get home.  

IMO, the key to keep marriage exciting isn't what happens in bed, it's what happens in those unexpected moments when sex isn't what's expected but might happen- just like it did when you were dating.  I'll give you an example, my wife and I were looking for a house went to a bunch of model homes.  One time we ended up having a quickie in the bathroom of a model home and  I came so hard I'm surprised she didn't make squishy sounds when we walked out.  Every time we'd go through a model home after that, we'd both get amorous, even if we didn't have sex until we got home.

Unexpected sex is usually the hottest sex because it opens up all sorts of new possibilities.  By comparison, going to bed on a Saturday night and having the obligatory married person's fuck isn't going to keep things interesting for very long.  And in fact, it can start to seem like work.

I learned these lessons the hard way and ended up getting divorced.  To this day, I'm not sure I made the right decision because I think my wife was the right woman for me, I just didn't know how to make a marriage work back then and how to get over some of these common occurrences that every relationship goes through.

You've probably heard the expression that no matter how beautiful a woman is, somewhere there's a guy that's sick of her shit.  Well, there's a similar, idea that applies to wives- no matter how bored a husband is with having sex with his wife, there's some other guy that sees her and would do anything to have sex with her.  The only difference is reference frame- strange stuff is always more exciting than the familiar, so mix it up now and then and remind your husband that he's a very lucky man!

You should check with one of the mods (listed top right).  You're not a provider, so it wouldn't be an ad (which is forbidden).  OTOH, you should be very careful before exposing yourself here.  Lots of loonies, in case you hadn't noticed.  But feel free to send me your pix via PM.  I am totally sane.  Just ask anybody.  LOL!