I once read here somewhere can't remember where a guy introduce his GF to his family and somehow the females knew she was a provider. My question mainly to providers here, is there any truth that females can tell if you are a provider? I have gone out with a couple of providers and they are as normal as any civie females I have gone out with. At this moment I am going out with a provider, we do not talk about her business or mine, our relationship feels very natural and normal, I really do not know where it would go from here, but for now we just enjoy each others company.
Has anyone had experiences where when you bring her9provider) home somehow she is discovered? And if so, is it the females(ie sister, aunt, mom ect..) that knows? Is there any truth that females are more intuitive?

We have a sleezy friend.... who brings to parties random ladies who are typical CL sterotypes.. I have never asked him.. But it seems fairly obvious....

Then there is the 60 plus not in good shape, health etc.. who brings in the 25 year old lady.. again very obvious...

I have gone to dinner, concerts etc with a few friends and we ( I don't think are obvious) I think the leval of genuine interest and conversation helps instead of groping each other at random with weird body signals and the awkard silence that gives it away...

you have to be able to answear where and how you meet.. etc.

funny,. I have a friend who has no clue what I do. we go out all the time and people assume we are a couple. He is my Best friend and I tell people when they ask.. I picked him up in a bar yesterday...

ok,. are you really confused now...?

That's silly.  Women can't just 'tell' someone is a provider.  Most women know nothing about it, much less just know, unless she is maybe dressed like your media influenced stereotypical provider and talking about her 'daddy' lmao.

Assuming that two people together don't tip it or fit the obvious stereotypes, who's gonna know? I've been out with providers for dinner and drinks and even introduced her (real name) to people I was acquainted. Never had anyone question that, but you get the usual, 'where did you meet her' bullshit. Anyone can walk down a street and know if someone's a street walker, that's like shooting fish in a barrel. In a 'normal' setting unless she's wearing a name tag, I don't buy it.  As for women being more 'intuitive,' that might have some legs, but not in a way that can tell if someone sells shells by the seashore kinda way. Last I checked there is no one way a provider looks.

civvies /wives/SO's.or not..
a relationship between a male and female is always a give and take..

Civvie's are or can be  considered "gold diggers"
or wives sometimes Ive men  heard  hobbyist say their wives are: " Cheaper to keep her"
a provider on the other hand , "The cards are just on the table"..No Bs..

Everything in life is a trade off..
Just my two cents..

to answer your question you may want to take a look at how your provider friend is dressing and carrying herself in public.. The blanket statement"She is a slut/whore" is used mainly for ladies who dont respect themselves in the public eye..(not just for providers)
If you are happy than thats what counts
sincerely
Lovely Lorena

As I said she is normal to me, she dresses like any other woman out there. I was just curious to know if woman do really poses that sixth or seventh? sense, and be able to identify you as a provider.

Thank you I was just curious.

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Thanks you make a lot of sense. By the way the one I go out with dresses as normal as any other out there, and talks like a mature and well educated woman.

There have been two provider friends who have met parts of my family.  I'd only do it if I knew the lady very well already and I felt comfortable about it.  Both went off just fine.  

There are some other women I enjoy being with but I would not take to such occasions.  It isn't thatthey would stick out as providers by themselves, but there would be an obvious difference between them and the women my family was used to seeing me with.  That difference is what would raise eyebrows I think.

I honestly can not tell who is a provider or not, but I can sense who is comfortable with their sexuality. I can tell who enjoys sex and who doesn't. I can even tell what type of sex a person likes. No, I am no where near a shrink...I just read the vibes someone throws off. I have YET to be wrong.

It is an aura I pick up on. This helps me determine if I should scoop up the hot chick at the bar or not. (or coffeeshops. Anyone who knows me knows I score at coffeeshops more than anything. Remind me to write a blog about my russian lover down in DC...man!!!! that was hot!)

Anyways, back to the matter at hand. Some signs I pick up on?

How a woman carries herself. If her back is tall, there is a sway to her hips and she has a secret smile playing at the corners of her mouth (almost a smirk) and if she looks like she is ready to devour someone....then it's a go. Its a green light, I buy her a drink and rush her to the nearest closed off space. (oh man, the stories I could tell you about that).

When someone says it's in the eyes...they are not lying. That is why I wear shades most of the time, rain or shine. If you were to pass me on the street, I CAN NOT HELP IT!! I am going to look you up and down, briefly glance at your crotch or chest, wink and sashay away.

Man. Now I am going to get in trouble AGAIN as I am in a coffeeshop. Darn it. Darn it. Darn it. Why did I feel the need to answer this post?

So, in conclusion...I can not tell who is a provider or not. I CAN tell who is comfortable with their sexuality and not afraid of sex. No taboos apply to them. Its how they carry themselves and the vibes they throw off.

I need to write a wingman's handbook. I have helped many of my male friends get laid. lol.

the arm sleeved with tatoos,the low cut jeans, with the thong pulled up 4 inches,  and the flip flops with 6 inch heels.
I really try to teach these girls to tone it doun a bit in public, but they just don't listen!

It's all in the mind. Because you know she's a provider you feel everyone else does, they don't. So long as you've sorted out the “where you met” and “she works in plumbing or financial services” etc. all is well.

A provider friend of mine went on a booking for the evening with a wealthy older man. They bumped into a group of his friends and he introduced her as his girlfriend! During the evening one of the women took her to one side and said.'I feel I have to tell you, as you seem such a nice girl, he has a lot of girlfriends and I don't want you to get hurt. She was so tempted to say, 'Don't worry, I'm only with him for his money'.

She dresses like any decent woman out there.

the straggly hair

those heels she was wearing? LUCITE!!! (and they lit up when she walked)

the tired look in her eyes

the mystery powder by her nose (she forgets to wipe sometimes)

the long long highlight color nails (imagine those raking down your back)

and of course, the stash of baby wipes and condoms that falls out her purse when she bends down for whatever reason.


Some stereotypes are just....annoying.

lets not forget to poke fun at the stereotypical "trick"..oops. I meant to type client. Would not want anyone offended!

lmao sheesh.

happened to me when I was taking a lady to a public place.  This was no LOW class provider either (as the description might sound).  I guess her website was a bit confusing when she mentioned a perfect date for a public affair.

I guess I should have mentioned that at the beginning, but then you are such a defensive little hot head, you would have tried to start some argument out of it anyway.

There ARE reasons for MOST stereotypes!  Those who try to be so very PC, just streak right past them!

BTW...YOU were the one who added all of the other stereotypical HO attributes, NOT me!  Where did those come from?  You really need to chill out!

..."How a woman carries herself. If her back is tall, there is a sway to her hips and she has a secret smile playing at the corners of her mouth (almost a smirk) and if she looks like she is ready to devour someone....then it's a go. Its a green light, I buy her a drink and rush her to the nearest closed off space. (oh man, the stories I could tell you about that)...."

Holy fuckballs that is hot. Would LOVE to run into you sometime....love to be taken like that. Nearly always it's me doing that....oh how I would love to switch and be some woman's bitch for the night.

I once had an attorney that was a cock sucking bitch.  Best money I ever spent!

Providers are as diversified as any other group of women. There are providers who dress and act provocatively and there are soccer moms who would never dream of being a provider but will attend a church service dressed very provocatively and flirt with the pastor and his wife.

Women are women.......

Some women like to have all their cookies hanging out and some women don't. Some women oooooozzzzzz sex and have that: "I will fuck every and anything moving" aura about them and some women don't.....it has nothing to do with being a provider.

Unless they've seen her onlin I dunno how they know. I'm not able to spot a provider in the street all of the time though I have seen some that I thought could be on but she was dressed skanky but then again I see plenyty girls who are not providers who dress that way and many providers myself included don't ususlly dress skanky. And I've yet to have a female or anyone else point me out for being a provider.

Because if the lady in question is a Lady, that would be the only way they would know. Or if they all met at one of TER mixers

I joke sometimes that when I was a civvie i was mistaken for escort so many times I became one.  

On serious note, I was hanging out in a bar with another pro lady and somehow conversation with bartender got on to subject of "how to spot a ho".

He said that if we see well dressed ladies in a bar without dates, they are pros.  Could not resist and asked him "well, we are two well dressed ladies who are here without dates, so what's your verdict?"

His response "that may be but no way you are.  Just imagine how good a guy would have to be to get you to pay attention to him.  With those girls all he has to do is sit down"

At the same time, can I spot a working gal? Yeap, if she is working.  When I see pretty woman walking into hotel lobby in high heels and over-sized shoulder bag with blackberry in her hands, she is definitely there on biz  Seeing same woman in grocery store or in the movies I would have no idea what she does for living.

Lina

It could be a sixth sense that women have, but I doubt it. They probably made a comment based on her big tits or her plastic surgery. I would be that the comment was more like look at her she must be a.......