So I have a few questions about the term "Courtesan".

A. Does she have to be a good fuck too? Does she have to offer more on the menu?
B. Does she need the "courtesan quality" or just a way of running business?  
C. Does a courtesan have to be submissive and make a man feel like a king?
D. Can someone plz let me know some real "courtesans" so I could watch and learn?

By definition, you are one if your choice and service  caters more the courtly, wealthy, or upper-class clientele,  Nowadays, the term VIP, Elite or Upscale is more appropriate.

A great movie to watch on this topic is "Dangerous Beauty" which tells the story of a Courtesan named Veronica Franco who lived in Florence many centuries ago. This was a time of royalty and splendor and Courtesans were women who were gifted in the arts of seduction, erotica and educated way beyond the standards of civil society women. A Courtesan as depicted in the movie was a woman of many virtues, some of these being brilliance of mind and language, eloquent in the arts, daring in dress and style and cheeky in behavior while still remaining a valuable member of respectable society. Modern day Courtesans still exist, but are difficult to find unless you are lucky enough to find a lady who really practices this ancient historical tradition and craft as some of my female friends do.
--Sitara Devi

I think it depends on your ability to figure out in a short amount of time what your gentleman is looking for, ie., intimacy, dirty sex, eloquent conversation, all of the above & in what order.
And of course, having the ability & knowledge to fulfill those whims & wishes.

I think it's been beneficial to me that I do not have two selves, this is who I am & what I do. I was doing it for years before I ever accepted cash as a payment for my time. I will be the same woman long after I stop accepting cash.  Am I a courtesan? Only when my client wants me to be. I can be a whore as well & as happily.

Let us know if you find your answer!  Dangerous Beauty was a great film & btw, I never use the term courtesan

Brennan

a Courtesan is sophisticated, mannerly and well read, an entertaining conversationalist.

She presents herself in an elegant and glamorous  manner.

She is a seductress. A temptress. Extremely sensual, playful, favoring a slow approach. She kisses you delicately, gradually building up to hungrily. Her touch sends electric shocks and chills through you.

She is skilled at both sensual and therapeutic massage. Perhaps Tantra Yoga.

She is a romantic, and provides a romantic setting and environment. The place where you meet is an oasis of calm, a retreat from the outside world.

You feel as though she is making love to you, not "servicing" you.

Her approach draws passion and intensity from you. You feel as though you are making love to her in return.

She lavishes you with attention beyond the sexual, makes you feel interesting and charming.
She takes a genuine interest in things about you, which she recalls easily, to hold further conversations with you in the future.

She becomes your confidant, if you wish. But she is not at all invasive.

Her approach to your time together leaves you intoxicated by her, has you counting the days til your next opportunity to enjoy her delightful company

Time is not spent with her by the hour. She is an experience to be savored. At least an entire afternoon or evening is required to fully enjoy the experience she provides.

The art of being a Courtesan is highly developed in Europe (though it is in decline there), India and Asia. But it seems rare in the US. Not to say that there are not many providers who approach their business in this way and provide a very high level experience.

I am blessed to have known several Courtesans over the years. They each have left their mark on me, they each own a piece of me. I am blessed to know one such lady even now.

is not necessary to define the meaning of the terms. as long as you are safe, respectful, happy, and enjoy being in this business, that's what matter the most.

it doesnt mean anything.

The word Courtesan connotes, to me, a lady with culture, sexual prowess, and a lot of time to indulge in both. I would not expect to see a lady advertise as such without at least dinner dates and overnights on her menu.

I have enjoyed all the attributes listed with ladies who don't use the  term courtesan in their advertising and have missed much of it with some ladies who do.  So, in my experience it doesn't actually mean anything.....just like good Jenny said.  Read the reviews and you will get the info you want on any given lady, for the most part....the advertisement less so....

Cheers

Gio

Bingo!

I have seen women use the term "courtesan" in their advertising without really a hint of anything approaching a "traditional" courtesan.

A courtesan, by definition and derivation is part of a royal court.

There are no royal courts in the U.S. and hence no courtesans. There are only those who use the term.

That is not to deny that really fantastic escorts exist who can stimulate both the mind and body -- but they are not courtesans unless they are part of a royal court.

Most courtesans, by the way, were "kept women" and usually were serially monogamous in that they served only one member of royalty for an extended period of time.

Thus, a traditional courtesan would be highly unlikely to have a website or reviews on TER.

I could give you a long list of attributes for the most wonderful woman in the world; but if she made herself available to multiple men, she still wouldn't be a courtesan.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dangerous_Beauty

and what separates the truly great from the rest.

I have met a few who were capable of reading a client quickly and accurately - and giving him what he wanted, needed rather than a one-size-fits-all take it or leave it.

One provider spent time the day before our appt in a long IM exchange so that she would have a sense of who I was and what I liked - and not in a sexual way. She was able to extrapolate from that and it resulted in 2 of the best hours I have spent in living memory, and not just in a sexual way.

A courtesan makes me believe the fantasy for a while and leaves me fulfilled, not hungry. A courtesan gives me great conversation, stimulates thought, challenges my intellect and physically satisfies me, not in any particular order and often mixing several together.

Few providers are courtesans because they are unable to subjugate their own egos for the time we are together, preferring to play the part of a wife instead of the part of a lover.

A courtesan is so many things, and those who could never be one are likely to be the ones who sneer at the concept. Kudos to you for broaching the subject - I wish you success if being one is your goal.

...in Renaissance usage, the Italian word "cortigiana", feminine of "cortigiano" (courtier) came to refer to "the ruler's mistress", and then to a well-educated and independent woman of free morals, eventually a trained artisan of dance and singing, especially one associated with wealthy, powerful, or upper-class men who provided luxuries and status in exchange for companionship. The word was borrowed by English from Italian through the French form "courtisane" during the 16th century, especially associated to the meaning of "court-mistress" and "prostitute".

Brennan you are the definition of a Dangerous Beauty. Gorgeous, Intelligent and Fun..what more could a man ask for.

I think those 3 terms are a lot more modern than "courtesan"

Thanks BB. I actually don't use "courtesan" myself either. That's why I want to learn. I just want to be a great company, a great fuck, a beauty with brain like you

Ella

Cuz there are a few very quality women out there. I don't know what level I am at. And a lot of times am amazed by others. am not sure if being a "courtesan" is my goal but I do want to be able to provide a full pleasure to whoever that's with me.

IMO, a provider is recognized as a courtesan - her simply saying she is means very little.

Men have to realize that even those of us who like to be considered artists and loving in our craft sometimes have to alter it for someone who is not interested in that type of date.

I, for one, like to do different things with clients. One client reads to me and I talk to him about topics ranging anywhere from cultural anthropology, science, arts and more.  Now, these are the types of clients who usually spend more time with me. Therefore, it lends to a more courtesan-type scenario. If I have time, I enjoy conversation, the art of seduction, a full-body rub and to make love (not have animalistic sex) and take my time.  However, there are times when being extremely agressive and playful are exactly what he enjoys. Each person is different in what they like or want from me. Some men say they want the exotic & romatinc experience, but then they direct me to go straight toward getting them off immediately with my mouth. So, with that said, it's truly up to the gentleman when choosing his date and looking for those unique qualities in a woman. A lot of men want to have unbridled s_ _ with me and nothing more (which I can give), but I'd rather be intimate and passionate any day.

For me, the encounter is all about the man. If he wishes to please me then great, but truly it's not that important. I just want to please him.

There are some of us who don't have extremely high donations but still cater to a man's needs, promoting sensuality, ambiance, tranquility, passion, arts and intelligence. I don't particulary care to talk about what others are doing on the boards or anything regarding the hobby when I am with a client. I like to take him out of his realm and turn his time with me into a fantasy come true. Yes! There are some who have become friends and we are more "real" with each other, but I still try to create a very seductive atmosphere.

Remember guys, women play off of what they think men want, so gentlemen need to communicate their needs to us. We might think we know what they want when -- in actuality -- it's not always correct. I am pretty darn intuitive but I'm not a mind reader. Even the courtesans of years past knew ahead of time what her client's needs were and they were given information by their ladies in waiting, their own mothers, the courts, the den mothers in Asian society, etc.

Hugs,
Ciara

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An "ecdysiast" by any other name...........

ecdysiast:  

H.L. Mencken's invented proper word for "strip-tease artist," 1940, from Gk. ekdysis "a stripping or casting off" (used scientifically with ref. to serpents shedding skin or crustacea molting), from ekdyein "to put off" (contrasted with endyo "to put on"), from ex- + dyo "sink, plunge, enter."

on the gent....

it's not, as you point out very well  - doable - with every sort of gent.

I enjoy varying degrees of courtesan style interaction in many cases from ladies not known for this approach.

Why?

Because of how I relate to the lady.

enjoying "chemistry" with a lady is to a large degree dependent upon the *clients* approach to her.

I find that being engaging, open, relaxed, confident, appreciative, complimentary, accepting, warm, passionate, sensual and generous brings out the "courtesan" in a lady.

And I would be delighted to share a courtesan experience with *you* anytime....

molto baci, Bellissima

GTM

It was about money and status.
Courtesan existed before the time of modernization when most society in the world was stratified. Only way for a poor or middle class woman to climb up the ladder was to depend a man with power through using her sexuality. Working girls who were able to blend in with elites were considered courtesans back then.

Nowadays, the line between social classes is blurred.  Less and less people are born with wealth and status. We don't need to latch on one wealthy man in order to maintain a social status because there is no such thing as social stratification anymore and women are as successful as men.

Now it's all about money only.
If there is one, money is the only thing that distinguishes people. Our world is consist of economic classes. You are either low income bracket or high income bracket. Therefore, being a good business women makes a modern courtesan, making money is the only way for us to climb up the modern socioeconomic ladder. Being a good business woman in this context means the best customer service. Hence, what guys described above (i.e. make him feel like king...) satisfy definition of courtesan. If you are good at what you do and making ton of money, therefore differentiate yourself from majority of women, broke 90% of the time, you are basically a contemporary courtesan.  

Intimacy and sensuality is a big part, as well as being gifted in the art of massage and other venues.

Hugs,
Ciara

I agree with all of the posters above.   But I view the word Courtesan as an adjective, not a noun.  To me a Courtesan (noun) is an ideal, a role model, or a standard.  I think all providers have some Courtesan-like traits, and more than a few come close to the ideal.  I think many true Courtesans in the world are under the radar for  most of us.  Courtesan, to me implies sex, really good sex as a pre-requisite.  But being a sexual athlete is not enough to call yourself a Courtesan.  A true Courtesan would be an elite professional, not necessarily the most expensive, attractive, or exclusive, but one who demonstrates ideal characteristics that make her successful, respected and admired not only by her clientele but also her colleagues, peers, friends and all who know her.

I completely agree with your definition.  There aren't many ladies that fit this description, but I see such a lady now, and I too am blessed to know her.

She truly has to give a lot of herself to be that way.  I don't believe it's just semantics, or a different "name" to use.  A courtesan truly is different, and can give a very emotional, passionate, loving time.