When I asked one of these sites to delete my stolen profile/reviews, they demanded a selfie with current date, ID #, and three fingers (so specific!) for "verification".  Uh....NO.  What other remedies have worked?  

Thank you in advance for your help!  - Mimi

As long as your email/phone#/website is correct a fake ad only helps you, if by only giving your website additionally google page ranking for having inbound links.

 

If you're hell bent, you can have a lawyer send them a cease and desist which will probably scare them into taking it down. Also, if they stole your pictures that you own the rights to, you can send them a DCMA notice for that as well, which again, will probably scare them into taking your ad down.

 
I've heard of people skipping the lawyer and just registering a domain that sounds legal-y enough ({anything}LAW.com) with an email address (so for you something like [email protected]) that they send their own notices from. So long as you never claim to be a lawyer and they think the email is coming from a lawyer, they'll probably comply with your notices.  

As for the notices themselves, here are a couple resources:

 http://www.ipwatchdog.com/2009/07/06/sample-dmca-take-down-letter/id=4501

https://jux.law/cease-desist-letter-template-example-sample-forms/#copyright

 

If you're sending these yourself, odds are you'll overlook something and the notices won't be legally enforceable, but odds are they'll never have to be.

I told them the following and I wasn't nice about it since they stole my info and pics....
"I found my info on your site that you have stolen and used without my permission! Take down my info from your site immediately!! I have forwarded YOUR SITE INFO along with the link to the profile you stole from me to my photographer and my attorney! My pics are protected through my protected through my photographer and my attorney! If this is not handled immediately I will not only sue you and your site but I will file charges on your ass too! Posting pornographic material of me without my consent is a crime in the state I reside! Take my info down IMMEDIATELY!"

Make sure to include a link to the profile they stole.
Works for me. Hope this helps 😚
XOXO  
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First I asked TER to remove the old ad that was stolen from an old ERO's ad of mine and had a very old email no longer functioning.  TER said to contact the ad site and have it removed.  So I contacted the website and asked they make all kinds of changes to my old ad.  They deleted the ad instead of making changes.  So then I contacted TER again and asked them to remove the ad with a bad link.  TER removed the ad.

I really don't want to be that easily googled.  I only want to be on the sites that I actually consent to.  It's a privacy thing for me.  I plan on growing old without my past coming back to slap me in the face. The less out there on Google on me, the easier it is to take that stuff down when I need too. These pirate sites steal our info and I don't play with sites like that.  I like the ones I consent to using only.
Hope this bring some clarity to the why question 😚
XOXO  
TL

Control over my public presence is not just a business concern - it is a safety concern.  

Secondarily, ripped-off ads and escort profiles are not a boon to business.  They float around out there with misinformation, old information, old pictures, and doctored reviews - none of which are helpful to either myself or you.

This topic is often treated on Newbie. Search "DMCA" for several of those threads. You can do a DMCA Take Down Notice on your own, without a lawyer (links on Newbie).  
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From reading TER all these years, it seems that there are a few types of ad-stealers.  
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1. Someone else posted your ad, w/o your permission. Website didn't know. You ask them to remove (referencing your own website or whatever to prove that those are YOUR pics) and they comply.
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2. The unauthorized ad site ignores all requests until they get something more attention grabbing, such as a DMCA take down notice. Eventually, they comply.
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3. Computerized site-scanning "scraper" ad sites. The computers just copy and repost ads. The owners collect money from the clicks (if they have paid ads on the borders or elsewhere) and they ignore EVERYTHING else about the site. Complaints? Ignored. DMCAs? Ignored. Lawyer letter? Ignored. Even if their ISP pulls the plug on their website for violations? Ignored. They set up a new site down the street.
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There are probably some variations in between, but that's a brief summary.  
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Watermark your pics! Watermarking is NOT necessary to prove your case for claiming infringement, etc., but it is helpful to make your case and maybe get some compliance before getting bigger guns.  
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As far as Google search is concerned, Europe has a law that requires google to deal with requests to have SOME info (websites) excluded or removed the google search. (It doesn't remove the site itself, it just means that someone GOOGLING for Mimi or Terrilynn won't be shown the links to certain websites.  
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Don't feel bad about this because it's a super common belief to hold, but you're significantly under-estimating how hard it is to disappear off the internet in 2018. I would say, in some respects, it's actually impossible to be fully gone.
Odds are your ads are being scraped off of the legitimate places you advertise (or as another poster put it "consent to"). There's no way to prevent that from happening.  

 
All that being said out loud probably makes you feel unsafe and out of control, but I'd like to offer a bit of hope in the idea that you've been getting along fine so far and odds are you'll continue to do so.

 

The reality is, there is no way to mitigate the risk if you're online, and being that you're already online, you might as well do everything you can to make that risk worth it in a financial sense. By that I mean, make your page rank highly for keywords you're interested in servicing in the market you'd like to service, advertise in places where you can prove ROI from doing so, and curate content that will draw people in to purchase your service.

 
>centralization of information

I have an easy solution for you here that some site that's scraping/rehosting your ads won't be able to subvert. Every image you publish online should be watermarked with your domain name (in this case theartofmimi.com). Here's a classy way of doing this: https://i.imgur.com/rLtxO9D.jpg (this is a mockup I made, so don't go looking for this girl, she's a lingerie model and probably doesn't escort, if you like this send me a pm and I'll email you the photoshop file).

Then, never list rates on an ad, always refer them back to your website (which you control). If someone contacts you asking about rates, again, refer them back to the website. This way, you'll have a single source of information that you control. Make sure that you, and only you, own that domain name (theartofmimi.com).

 Someone else can build your site, but that domain should remain completely separate and owned by you to prevent foul play. Even if your hosting provider freaks out because of your line of work, you'll still own the domain separate from that, and still retain your single source of information.

I sincerely appreciate you taking the time to spell all of that out for me!  I will watermark everything ASAP.

A point of clarity about my safety concerns:  Much as I hope it will one day be an option, I have no illusions about erasing my history from the internet at this time!  My biggest concern is the ability to control public information about whether or not I am currently in the game.      

*Edited to avoid grammatical embarrassment

-- Modified on 2/28/2018 7:31:37 PM

Best information ever. Hope other providers here understand how it could help.  

There is no way to remove yourself as long as there are sites arching pages.

I mentioned it below, but I forget the name of the laws. RIGHT TO BE FORGOTTEN laws:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Right_to_be_forgotten
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Recent news story: http://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2018/02/28/589411543/google-received-650-000-right-to-be-forgotten-requests-since-2014

Thank you!  I failed to thank you for your detailed reply below, so I thank you for that as well!  xo

If you file a DCMA take-down request they have to comply. If you don't know what that is or how to use it look it up.

Thats DMCA.. sorry