I've been doing this for a few years do not consider myself an expert but have learned some, but more since coming to this board. On many occasions I have enjoyed the conversation with the lady  usually the first time I do not talk that much unless we click right away. The reason I see her is to enjoy myself, to me the conversation is secondary, wanted to know if I'm alone with this. I know communication is key to having a great time with a provider. But for those providers that do not speak English well, with little to no communication, I still have a great time, does this mean that I am selfish? I know this is P4P. What do you all think?

The conversation is very important to me. I find the sex is better if I am comfortable and like the person I am going to have sex with. A good conversation with a hot intelligent lady turns me on as much as seeing her topless. But that is me.

It's fairly well known that a large portion of sex happens in the brain.  Sure, there are physical reactions to stimulation but the brain is the key.

If my brain is engaged when talking with the lady, it helps to stimulate the rest of me.  I have had more satisfying experiences with women when I've taken the time to talk to them.  

On the other side, many of the women who engage in this profession/hobby really want to be treated respectfully, and not like a piece of meat.  When you talk to them, and let them know that you're interested in more than their bodies, then they will be more attracted to you and that will help the session go much better.

I strongly recommend the art of conversation.

Sometimes conversation is important, sometimes it's not. Sometimes it happens early in the session and sometimes it happens at the end.
First and foremost I'm there to get fucked, if the conversation is good, it's icing on the cake.

Nothing says conversation has to be important for you.  That's your choice and I expect it figures into your selections.

For others conversation is important, especially on longer dates.  I'm too old to go non-stop hour after hour so I can play solitare or converse.  

But conversation is not the sama as speaking.  Conversation can be made up of touching, holding, listening, and a lot of other creative things.

It is a skill that when mastered, a gal can truly consider herself a courtesan.

It amplifies all the carnal aspects of the session.

Well.....happened to have seen two providers today, both familiar to me. One is beeautiful, quiet, petite and just looks for a good ....ing.   The other, a milf,  communicates her needs, feelings, and lets me know whats cooking. Have to say that the mileage may vary provider offers more but the vocal provider satisfies.

its importance is significantly raised.

After all, as much as I toot my own horn(just to piss off certain guys), there's no way I can fuck, or be fucked for the hours I book with a lady friend.

I dig listening to them talk. They really do have interesting stories to tell.

Sharing a drink or two(alright 10) with them most often makes them comfortable with me especially when they can talk about whatever they want and they know I appreciate it.

Then, if I feel they are rambling on, I'll whip it out and stick it down their throat to remind them why they're there.

Even though we are engaged in P4P activity, that second "P" means different things to different people. Part of the play is verbal and can be stimulating with a provider who is a decent conversationalist. It also helps us remember that these are living and breathing women we are dealing with and not "blow job #143". For me, conversation is part of the "girlfriend experience". I don't necessarily need a current events debate or banter on quantum theory, just some general chat is just fine.

Enjoy! WIT

fuck and chat. I don't know what it is, it just really turns me on. Just talking about the weather current events or whatever while going at it, it's super hot. Just me being weird I guess.

F*ck your brains out!    hehe!  


In a nice way, of course!  (or not)

End of the day, being able to do so is the prime determinant in my deciding to see her again.  This is what is meant by "connecting", and while the sexual component always comes first, connecting via conversation, and sharing thoughts and laughs,  makes this just a little more than just P4P.  

That being said, there is nothing wrong with P4P, and just moving on after playing.  That will happen with many ladies you meet with, and you should play the game according to your rules, and desires...

Men that can converse tend to be better listeners...to body language on top of just the dialogue.  I find that those interested in getting to know me a little are also more interested in rewards of mutual pleasure.  I also enjoy the subtle things I pick up on in conversation that then help me read the situation later.

xoM

excellent way of putting it and i agree totally, we boys have gotta pay attention.

When she my dick in her mouth and it usually referred to as a "hummer"!!!

No...sounds like it depends on the guy and one those guys would be you. Some lie for you to talk their ear off and relax after like they live there or some like to just right to it and leave asap, some like only a bit of small talk before and after.