Not even talking about deep or long chats, just… how easy it feels.

I get into great conversations.

Not so much on a quick one hour date.

Great convo is often a precursor to great sex! This isnt always the case but I find it to be the norm. Its not just from my side. I have found many women need some time to get to know you, feel comfortable with you, have some sort of bond or connection before "getting busy." lol.
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It goes towards trust. Meeting up, especially for the first time, each side wants to make sure that the sane, decent person they thought they were meeting in the verification process is roughly the same when they meet face to face. Those first few moments can be a littel awkward at times, but once each party greets the other warmly and kindly, both can relax a bit and settle in with some great conversation.
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Those moments are often crucial to how the rest of the date unfolds, and truth be told, I find them exciting as I never quite know what I am getting until that door opens.

Good conversation certainly can be part of the experience. And, I do prefer it. But half, for me, is a stretch. If it was just for conversation, I wouldn't be seeing an escort. The main goal is the sex. While good conversation can make the sex better, it's still about the sex. I'm not trying to make new friends. I'm trying to have a good time getting my rocks off.  

But im here for the sex. That mouth isnt doing much for me just flapping lips. Unless im clapping cheeks at that moment.  

Not me.

Anytime I find myself drawn to meet someone and the rate is right I try to book 2 hours. In one case I flew to Salt Lake City to meet a lady I was super interested in and booked 4 hours (her rate structure really encourages longer dates). My usual appointments are an hour or 90 minutes most.

and I think what you're getting at with the "how easy it feels" is largely unrelated to conversation but what I would call good host manners and skills. Some old comment I read somewhere made the point about manners not really being about refined culture but rather the simple ability to make others feel comfortable.

I think it’s a big part of it.

Definitely a facet of FMTY, Vacations
0vernights and Dinner Engagements.  

....this was a "feminine" thing where girls want to get to "know you" before they sleep with you, hence why dating was invented. I remember them interviewing a female porn star once on one of the podcasts and she said that the scenes she enjoyed the most were the ones where she got to chat with and make a connection with her male co-star before the shoot, not always the most "hung" or attractive dude.  

"guys that regularly hire SWers are probably not the type that are good around women"....  
~~  brokeloser123

I'm pretty good at chatting and making nervous women feel at ease, lol. I perfected the technique in strip clubs and having a good verbal exchange is essential for someone like me to make sure my often bi-curious partner is comfortable and the chemistry is good.

I'm curious if you've ever had a female client? If so what is your view on their comfort around sex workers?

I pay for good sex! Good bbbjdt! Good CIM! Good DFK! Good vibes and sexual tension! This is 90% of the session for me! One of my favs always says she missed me, and she loves my cock! She also purrs and moans her enjoyment during our session! That amounts to two minutes of talk during the session! What brings me back is the great sex and mind boggling bbbjcim finish every time! Talk is cheap to me, and any good provider can engage in five minutes worth of sexy stimulatiing banter! Beyond that save it for after she delivers a world class performance in the sex department! That’s 90% of the session for me. The convo is 5-10%.

The fun is always better when you know each other.

Yeah I get that. It’s like the priority shifts a bit over time. The physical side is still there obviously, but if the conversation clicks it just makes everything feel more… complete I guess.

Yeah that’s fair, longer bookings definitely give more space for that. But even on a short one, I feel like you can still pick up on the vibe pretty quickly.

Yeah that makes a lot of sense. I think that initial comfort and trust you’re talking about is a big part of it. Once that’s there, everything else just tends to fall into place naturally.

I get what you’re saying. I don’t think it replaces the physical side either, but I do notice that when the interaction is missing, even if everything else is technically good, it just doesn’t hit the same.

Fair enough, different priorities. I just find when there’s even a bit of genuine interaction, it tends to make everything flow better overall.

That’s kind of what I was getting at. When you have the time to relax into it a bit, everything just feels more natural. Not rushed, not forced.

That’s a good point too about different people wanting different things. I guess I just tend to notice that “easy” feeling more, but I can see why not everyone is looking for that.

I agree the connection side makes a big difference, especially when it feels natural vs forced. Not sure I’d put it down to gender though, I think it’s more about how people experience comfort and chemistry in general.

Yeah I think we’re just weighting different parts of it. For me it’s less about conversation itself and more about how it affects the overall feel while you’re there.

Indeed I've had female Clients.  

I’m a conversationalist myself and enjoy it when the provider is as well. Sets the vibe for me when we get to know each other a little bit. I’m a major GFE type though and it seems most providers I seek out for that service like to start that way as well. Although there has been a couple that shut me up pretty quick and got things going right away I guess, ha

the experience if it is intelligent but light, but is it HALF the experience?  Not by a long shot, unless the customer is stalling the action waiting for the boner-meds to kick in.  Then a verbal tap dance can help save face.  

Bad conversation can hurt a session way more than good conversation can improve it.  We all, on both sides, hope, and expect, a light and breezy flow of conversation.  When that happens it’s great, but it’s not totally unexpected.  These well reviewed providers are professionals  after all and generally know how to handle themselves.  Same thing with the men.  Most guys want a good session and aren’t going to ruin the mood by being an ass.  However, when conversations get awkward, those are the kind of sessions that stand out in a bad way and tend to determine future repeat business, on both sides.  I wouldn’t be surprised if providers feel the same way about this, which is perfectly understandable and natural.

That said, I do like to visit a bit with an adult beverage to break the ice whether it is a new acquaintance or catching up with a regular. Without a bit of personal connection and a feeling for my companion's likes and dislikes or current activities outside the hobby, the visit just seems too mechanical.

Excellent point.  It’s always challenging to get through a session when the conversation isn’t going well. What immediately comes to mind is controversial topics/politics as a topic of discussion. As a professional, I may smile and nod, avoid conflict, while internally disagreeing with what you are saying.  

"The times where you were booked for 2 hours in the evening and you are still there the next morning.  Rare but they do happen. "

While a little icebreaker is nice, convo before the main event can smell of a time waster, especially if I  booked a session longer than an hour.
Save the conversation for recovery time between rounds, or if there's no time for another round.

“so you become friends with them?”

The 'E'xperience is what makes the GF a total package. The conversation is 60% plus for me. I can get right into the conversation with some amazing ladies like we've know each as GF. It just makes it more satisfying for me. Once we are comfortable with each other, the TGFE (T for temporary , will include dinners, outings, movies, etc... The key is no drama or commitment and just fun time at that instant.

Too often the phrase "girl friend experience" just implies what kinds of sexual experiences one can expect, or not expect; and totally ignores what having a girl friend, albeit for only a brief moment of time, is really about.

Really to have a true girlfriend experience, you would need to be a repeat customer. The getting to know you for the first time chit chat is more like first date conversation. But it’s certainly a way to get the process started.

I have had many, many true GFE dates in this lifestyle on a first meet up. It's one of the main reasons I see that same girl again and its also why I love this realm as much as I do.  
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Even when there are times I dont get to see that same girl again due to geography, or she leaves the business shortly afterward, etc, I still consider those dates to be GFE even If we met just that one time.

Correct Robert.  Some women are so warm and engaging that it feels like you've known them for a long time, even though it is the first meet.  

Not sure how I lost you. The conversation shifted to how it would feel to be with a true girlfriend. You don’t go out and pick a lady you never met before and say, “You, you’re my girlfriend now.” A true girlfriend is someone who you have already gotten to know. This could be someone you have been friends with for a while, someone you met and asked out on a date, someone you met through a dating app, or what have you. Over the course of dating, you get to know each other before you become girlfriend and boyfriend.

When Mr Fish said  "... a girl friend, albeit for only a brief moment of time", my natural assumption was he was speaking about this lifestyle, and not the real world. Of course p4p isnt EXACTLY like a RW girlfriend sitch. Its more of an illusion I pay for. I kinda thought that was just a given.  
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I was more pushing back on this line: "Really to have a true girlfriend experience, you would need to be a repeat customer." That just isnt the case with me at all. Again, in the p4p world, I have experienced this many times on a first date, but perhaps we have vastly different experiences.

I see what you're saying about Fish's comment. He didn't clearly go to where I did. Rather, it led me there. I didn't really enter the p4p until my 40s. And, at least the first few years, I didn't know to even seek out a GFE experience. And, when that first one came, it was more about the services (DFK, BBBJ, DATY, etc...), then it was about the conversation. But I did like it when there was some conversation.