Self-esteem boost by bragging about getting a girl off 4 times?
...just recently had 2 hr appt w local provider..first time meeting...small talk,etc/left donation...got busy...multiple covers...last go round was amazing...vocal orgasms from her-no complaints...till we discovered that we were now 45 mins over...she went crazy-saying that i was a user/ripping her off/asshole/wont see me again/etc....i was shocked...i'm not a clock watcher...i said if time was so important...you should have said something after orgasm 2 of 4 occurred!!...so-as a client,am i supposed to be the time keeper?...offered "a tip" to cover overtime...became big bummer after amazing sexual experience....ladies,am i wrong here?...if its hot,why stop...
I would think the lady is the one who would be the one to keep that in mind, if we kept going I would just assume she really liked me and kept it going Ofc but then again as a gentlemen you do need to be considerate of her time I guess it’s different opinions with this but I’ll say it’s on her
Is that the session went over because the lady was so "into" him. Going over is a business decision on her part based in several factors, including but not limited to, her schedule, her inviting you to repeat, whether she thinks or knows you are a tipper, whether you have behaved as a gentleman, etc. it's common sense that if her schedule is tight, how much she's enjoying your company has no bearing on whether she ends the session on time or allows it to go over.
"Doesn't matter how hot you may think it is. It's still work."
Going over because you are "deep in conversation" is one thing. Going over because you just opened your second bottle of wine and she has no other real plans for the next hour or so is another, but going over because "she can't get enough of your dick" is just something guys tell themselves and very rarely has any basis in fact.
about a dozen new reviews a day where guys say something like that. I have a hobby friend that kept telling me that, and then after about ten sessions with this lady, all of which went overtime, she just stopped taking his appointments, saying it was because he was not respecting the schedule. So in many instances, rather than get into a dramatic scene about over-time with the customer, they just decide one day that enough is enough.
As you say, when she has no other customers booked after you, walks in with a bottle of wine and two classes and says you don't have to get dressed yet, THEN and only then, maybe she really can't get enough of your dick. Barring this, its all just self-aggrandizement in minds of the customers.
If I'm enjoying myself and time goes over that's on ME. Is it nice that a gentleman recognizes that we went over and tips...of course.
I wouldn't over think it.
...and aware otherwise you turn HER experience into a big bummer, ie, she has to go through the hassle of telling you to leave.
Even if there's no clock/watch visible, you have some idea of time progressing. In that situation, if I think we might be getting close to the end of the agreed time, I'll say something like, "Do you know how we're doing on time?" She can then check the time, or more often than not she'll tell me not to worry about it.
On my last date, there was a big clock on the wall so I knew we were nearly at the end of the session. So I said that I should get a move-on. The provider asked me if I had to be somewhere, I told her no, and she said she didn't have any appointments after me and would like me to stay.
.... I do not condone her reaction. The question was directed at who is responsible not who handled the situation well.
But the OP seems to think he has no responsibility to keep track of time.
The provider should also have kept track of time and not reacted as she did.
Sometimes it's hard to tell that adults are involved in these situations.
I would agree it is a shared responsibility.
but that is minor compared to what you describe as her reaction.
She's made an ass of herself and lost a client. She hasn't the chops for this business.
The fact that you offered to make up for the overtime is very fair, and she should have acknowledged it.
I would have been so grateful to get off 4 times!! Lol
This lady was highly unprofessional to say the least.
I get that sometimes it's just great energy flowing that makes the time fly by but I think it's on the lady to keep track of time. I also believe the gentleman should be aware of his own schedule/time but at the same time, why not continue to enjoy yourself if the lady is having fun. Really nice of you to offer a tip. Sorry but this chic sounds BSC. GPS maybe?
I can only imagine how uncomfortable that must have been for you ☹
XOXO
TL
So yes we should be in control of the time. If she diddn't manage her time well then reacting like that isn't the most professional way to go about it in my opinion. I wouldn't have reacted like that if it were me and I also generally won't go 45 min over either. (no one tries it anyway)
On the other side of the coin though the client should also be as aware of the time as much as possible to not abuse the providers time. Of course you're not a "clock watcher"... Why would you be when you can just see how much free time you can get🤷🏼
Its a two way street. Doesn't matter how hot you may think it is. It's still work.
Well you started off with good points but your ending makes you look calloused and sarcastic.
Why is he just trying to get all the free time he can get. How do you know this. It’s still work! Nice approach to the job!
When my kids ride the merry go round, it doesn’t matter how much fun they are having, when the times up, the ride stops.
Free time, sheesh! How many “running a few minutes late” providers are out there? They are all trying to give as little time as they can. Yep it’s a two way street!
I’ve been at this so long I kind know when times up.If she’s a professional she should be aware of the time without you knowing about it. And you as a respectful should do likewise.
First impression are important, since it was your first meeting with her, you don’t want her to get a negative impression of you, as a guy who takes advantage of her time.
Unless they're trying to get more $$ out of you/playing games.
Book the time you truly need to "get it all out" is the best advice from me for next time. Then you don't have to deal with that.
....appointment. That is such a rush for me. With a two hour, not so much. But, sometimes the chemistry is so great that time can get away from anyone.
I do try to be conscious of the time. But, my ladies do let me know.
I think your bigger concern is the way she reacted, if she did react with the intensity you described. Of course, because we were not in the room, we don't know if she was overreacting or if you are.
Have fun.
I have music that keeps me on point timewise.
A tip from the client would have been nice but should not be expected. He may have only come to the appointment with the set donation in his pocket.
I would not accuse a client of taking advantage of my time IF I LET HIM have the time! That would be on me.
Two hours, etc.
Furthermore, even though I can't readily see them
{as I'm very blind without accouterments, }
my Clients can certainly monitor them.
We as Providers, have to take control
of all aspects of a meeting. Particularly with new friends,
and those whom deem themselves Lotharios. lol
As the "Monitor" one discusses at the onset,
that the allotment of time is all which one can offer today.
Unless you indicate "hey, I have two hours to kill"...
{hint hint, "so if you'd like two hours instead, it requires
additional Diamonds, which are a girl's best friend! }
I am convinced, not everyone knows, understands, nor
cares about basic etiquette and protocol, to tip if you go
15, 20 minutes over, or even compensate for additional hours.
You could or should have been more considerate of her/your time. And I find it hard to believe that when it came close to the two hours mark that you didn't notice the time or if you were aware of it. You're talking 45 minutes here. You place it on her and you wanted her to mention the time to you. i don't think you were ever going to mention the time. But there is a "part" of this where she is to blame, but it's mostly on you.
Now if it's outcall, then it would have been on her to monitor the clock. She could leave when the time is near or over but part of you could say, clearing your voice,"I think it's about time". Then it'll be her choice.
Now her going crazy is a bit though....Just my 2 cents
I know without a clock when the time is up. So, for this gal to go bsc is unnecessary. If her goal was to get more money; she could have simply stated her facts.
Example...I had a gent who asked me to rent a room so we could get together this week. The very next day, he canceled. The room was nonrefundable and in a city where the hobby is dry. So, I said I will kindly ask you to compensate me for the room. He agreed and nobody gets the shit end.
To overshoot by 45 minutes, she should have had some presence of mind as to where the time was. I've never overshot.... for exactly this reason. I'm always thinking that if I book 60, but ended up at 90.... additional compensation would be expected. I have been asked to stay, but that's on them. And it was just conversation and cuddling...for the most part. I think if she expected to be compensated for each minute, that should have been made aware at the approaching end of initial appointment. Now....if you were just continuing to get your groove on as and beyond that time came....compensation should have been delivered.
What's it been? A whole 2-3 days since we discussed this?
Yes, but nobody has been called stupid or an asshat yet. Hahahahaha
Yet.
Self-esteem boost by bragging about getting a girl off 4 times?
If we are more than halfway into the booked session I say something to the gal and leave it up to her to timekeep the 2nd half or attempt round 2. If no 2nd round is in the cards then so be it. If she wants to try fir 2 its on her. After round 2, (if overtime, I will usually tip for her kindly finishing me off) if she ends it because times up and I am not done, then oh well, thats on me. Felt good anyway. I try to be considerate. I usually rebook with the former rather than the latter though. I never assume extra time will be available and don't expect it, but I do appreciate heads up warnings rather than hustle and rush "get out" attitudes.
A few years back I had a gal tell me to take my watch off one time on an hour appt because she wanted me to "feel unrushed". There was no clock in the room. After round 3 I went to the restroom looked at the time and realized 2.5 hours had passed. I had felt time passing and mentioned it to her after round 2 but she had hushed me and went down again. After retuening from the bathroom when I told her 2 and a half hours had passed she freaked and basically kicked me out of the door half dressed. Her wonderful "unrushed" session became a sour ending through her own "unrushed" fault even though I tried to keep her cognizant. Ah well, can't help BSC.
Of course everyone is ultimately responsible for their own actions, so as gentlemen we want to aquit ourselves favorably. But it is easy to guess that she is a militant third wave feminist liberal progressive Democrat. Because the key to their personality is the belief that they should be free of all consequences of their actions and it should be someone else's responsibility and cost.
It's the subs job to watch the time while the client and the provider are fucking!
Why did I not realize this earlier? I guess because pragmatism is lost when talking about the minutia of sexual adventures.