Hi GD Board,
Recently I was turned down for an appt due to a 'bad listing' (she was ESL, and I assume she meant blacklist).  I have been hobbying for over 16 years, and have never had this happen.  I have asked for the name of the blacklister, but heard nothing back.  Can anyone steer me in the right direction to find out what provider did this? Are there blacklist boards that an accused guy can access?  

If you genuinely think it was a mistake, inform your next date when you book that you're aware it may be out there but point to your recent reference and reviews as evidence of your good behavior.  

We can't tell who blacklisted someone. Even if we could, most of us wouldn't divulge that information to you. That goes against the Ho Code.  

Actually Blacklist is a great concept. Its a place where the provider community can post info about those who want to cause them harm. But that shit gets abused left, right and center. I am sure some of the stuff there is true, but some completely blatantly false and untrue. Some stuff so lame that its downright laughable.  

Fuck you wise ass...

or for trivial reasons.  There also are BL sites that exist only to get guys to pay them a fee to get off the list.  I really don't know how many gals use such sites but I wouldn't worry about it.
I also strongly disagree with the advice that you should inform your next date of this.  She probably won't check the BL site you ended up on but could get spooked if you tell her.  Just give her the info she requests and let her do her own screening.  If the BL pops up just tell her you don't know why you're on it but point out with 100+ reviews you must be doing something right.
I think you're worrying too much.

I'm happy to learn there is a "Ho Code." I would hate to learn I was associating with unethical people.

I could have given 2 shits about the ho that turned me down, it was just new to me, so absolutely am moving on.  Go Nats!

thinking you may want to know for motives you don't actually have.

As for your question, you might be able to get to the bottom of it, IF you are on very friendly terms with another lady, but it's possible that you will never find out

The possibilities are endless, i am willing to bet that I am on at least a few black lists just for having such a big mouth right here, but I can't remember the last time I was turned down for a date.

the good news is that not every woman subscribes to the same BL sites, and this could possibly be a one time occurrence, lets hope so for your sake. Some BSC hookers have been known to throughly abuse the blacklist sites simply for spite. I suppose just like spiteful hobbyists use bad reviews in the same manner.

Just got up from a nice nap, so I can stay up for game against the A's.  Very excited to watch them play at the Coliseum..

but that was one of the most sensible posts you have made here in months

Many times providers don't even understand what a blacklist really is (a site warning women of rogue mongers and outing their personal information).  They are intended to be used only to protect women from guys who will rob them, physically abuse them, stalk them or other dangerous behavior. They should never be used for NCNS-type infractions.  Those belong on a DNS (Do Not See) list, but some providers really mean a DNS list when they say blacklist.  The problem has existed for years.

But I guess it gives him one more chance to play the victim card telling us that he is just "bad" at grammar and punctuation.  LOL

...is that you had some bad reviews in your 'list' of reviews.  There are providers who won't see you if you give bad reviews, even if you have many whitelists.

If I decline someone based on their blacklist, I don't TELL him that's the reason why.  If he's genuinely dangerous, hopefully he remains unaware he's BL'd so other diligent ladies can find this out before it's too late.

Most girls will not decline a date just because you have a BL NCNS.  Just like you wouldn't necessarily write off a provider because she had one negative review.  Girls understand that other girls are BL happy and/or crazy.  So as long as you don't rip off a girl or abuse her or something really bad, you will be fine even if someone listed you.

Y'all have to understand that we are well aware that some ladies get silly with the BL postings. Without going into too much detail, those entries are pretty easy to discern from the legit ones and we know which ones to take with a grain of salt. Also, most of us know the value of the private/heavily monitored sites and stay away from the stupid ones that anyone with a computer can post to.  

He requested a travel overnight.  He even had overnight references from some very high end providers.  But despite him passing "screening", I decided to check his info.  He was BL'd for using drugs during a session, biting a girl, attempting BB, and trying to extort $3000 from her in exchange for not giving her a bad review.  Long story short, that appointment did not happen!

Thanks pardner--plentymo ho's in this here town--best regards,  Lucas McCain aka the rifleman

Posted By: ChgoCPA

Posted By: chuck connors is the rifleman

 
   
 Listen up pardner....from what you wrote you're not on any blacklist.  You made some BSC hookers DNS list (that would be a do not see).  And even that is questionable since you claim that the hooker is ESL.  
   
 She may have had a date with Mark (that would be my TV son) to take his virginity.  I'm a good pops...and want Mark to learn that fucking hookers is a good thing.  
   
 Now just mosey on down to the next hooker....no need to comment on a blacklist..completely irrelevant.  
   
 Also if you really care just google your TER handle + blacklist.  I'll bet that nothing shows up.  That'll mean that maybe somewhere on some hookers computer they've listed therifleman as a bad ass dude.  Not on anything that is public.  Also check your phone number and email...don't forget to add that + blacklist pardner.  
   
 Nope...nothing is showing up.  
   
 You're good to see more hookers and fuck them to your hearts content.  
   
 Sincerely,  
   
 Chuck Connors  (the original rifleman)    
   
   
 

Do you really put a lot of your faith in blacklist websites for your screening process?
 
I posted this on another discussion board.  
   
Here's one example that I saw a while back...  
   
I've saw a posting that yelled RAPE, but give no other "identifying" information about the guy except for his first name. Do you realize how many Harrys there are in the world?    
     
In that same fake report, no phone number is given, but this one poster claims that this Harry raped her. Really, how did she know his name in the first place? Real rapists are secretive and don't advertise their name, especially to the lady they are raping. Duh...    
     
(Disclaimer, don't get me wrong, folks, rape is a major crime and when rapists are caught, they should be fed to felons in high risk maximum security prisons! skip the criminal trials!)  
     
I've seen enough crapola on those blacklist sites that it borders on comical.  
     
How can a well reviewed provider honestly use those blacklist sites as one of their tools of screening a hobbyist? Isn't their own screening process (without using blacklists) good enough?  

Dude, your logic is so unintelligible that I really have no interest in trying to explain this concept to you. It'd be like trying to explain quantum physics to a gerbil.  

One time I lost a client's phone number, so I typed his name into google, and he came up on all sorts of Ho blacklist sites, identifying him by first name and last name, physical description, and phone number.  (So I guess I found his phone number that way, which is what I was looking for anyway)

You cannot please everyone, every time.

Some are, some aren't.  They are not all the same.  As for the rape comment, I think the poster missed the point.  What probably happened was they had sex and he didn't pay (no $$$ in the envelope, for example).  Thus there was sex for no money = rape.  Consensual but under a deception.  We can argue whether that's real rape or not, but it's close enough for me.

Your tag line "Forrest waits".  
Why the need to write that dumbass line in every post?

"Your thoughts if any?"

That's what a top dog on this site told me when I got put on a list.  

is he the one waiting?  or is it the forest that's waiting for him?  

I recall clearly reading a gal's web site where she threatened to NBL late cancelations.  I thought it was extreme & unwarranted.  
As a gentleman, I respect the need to protect the safety of my gentle companions.  Unwarranted NLs damage the system.

If you got that much out of his comment, you're way better at deciphering his drivel than I am. Something about blacklists are stupid, guys named Harry and this trees dude knows 4 chicks who have been in the business longer than me. The rest I can only assume is the closest thing to what a dog hears when people talk.  

Why do you think I actually understand Tardy's drivel?

I donate often...I'm sure you appreciate that.

You rang, sir?

Really???

It's OK Tobi...  

I didn't know that you were Asian.

Because I can... don't like it? Skip over it. Is that too hard for you to comprehend?

You are special...thanks  LOL

I'm not like you who sit in front of the monitor all day long staring at TER forums waiting to bash people.

So I've always seen girls under my "nice" alias. I've never encountered the OP's problem under that alias.  

Good God man...you posted at 4:29 AM....you do need to find a life.

Looks like he did stay up too late.

Like the obviously fake reviews about a good provider that is simply trying to hurt her business. I am sure most of the ladies will take things they read on a BL site with a grain of salt when warranted, or at least the smart ones will.

There are no pacts between lions and men.  

Yep been there! It is really a sneaky way to screw with someone. There are some disturbing problems in the hobby.
First not all sessions go well or you may not click with a provider. So either you do not give a review or give a marginally good review. But never give a bad review because you are screwing with her business and she will retaliate