I met a girl at an Asian brothel in Flushing Queens and had a normal sexual encounter.  She's a few years older (late 30's I think) and she spoke a little more English than most of the women you would expect to see at a place like this.  She asked for my number and gave me her personal number.  Two months later, she called me and asked for help with her computer.

Since then, we've started actually dating.  We usually make out (kissing, foreplay), although we have not had sex since our dating relationship began.  Last night, after watching a movie at her apartment, she actually asked me if I wanted to spend the night at her apartment.  We had spent the entire afternoon and evening together (about 8 hours) and I decided I better go home.

But I've actually started to care for her because she is very intelligent and fun to talk to.  She has a great sense of humor and we can always joke around together, yet we can talk seriously about things as well.  She started calling me her lover.

But I suspect she is likely still doing the sex work although she is not working where we first met.  However, maybe not.  You would think someone working in this industry would work on weekend as a requirement and she spent both Friday and Saturday evenings with me.  She recently started school at a University to learn English as a second language.  She's asked me to help her study and she seems very dedicated.  When I told her she was very sweet to me, she said she learned this from her mom and that she only would act this way with someone she loves.

If not, just enjoy what you have and what you are (hopefully) building.

Dating a woman who works at an AMP has it's own set of challenges over and beyond the usual problems with dating a provider. The hours are very long and sexual burnout is common. Dating an ex provider is only a problem if you let it. Many men let their own insecurities fuck up their relationships with providers or ex-providers. Don't be one of them.

Good Luck

So what's the problem?  If you don't like someone who is sweet to you...let me know....I'll trade you her for my wife.  I'll even throw in some hobby money (You'll need it!!!)
I guess I don't know what your asking...does her still working as a provider bother you?  If so, and you think this relationship is really going somewhere, talk to her about it. OR...are you worried about committing to a relationship with her.  If it's a good relationship, it doesn't matter HOW you met....what matters is that you MET!

Enjoy....see where it goes!  

Why no sex since met ? Or she expecting you to pay for it....which in dating you are ,dinners, flowers .

Sounds like fun, go with it, life is short....but make sure your getting sum too ! ( You know she is )

with almost every asian provider/exprovider I have ever dated there was at least a short period of no sex dating. I think it was just a way of determining if I was just looking for a "freebie" or if I was genuinely interested in them.

In all honesty, the only asian providers that I didn't have a "dating" period with were gold diggers that were just looking for a sugar daddy type of relationship.

Sex is easy, everyone here can get laid everyday if their pocketbook can afford it. Don't get hung up on the sex if you genuinely have feeling for this woman. If she is inviting you to spend the night, I wouldn't worry about the sex unless of course she is still a high volume provider.

I appreciate that you care about her. If you think she is still involved with sex work, have that talk. She is going thru school and has to have a roof over her head. Do you think she would be better off on welfare? Or maybe working a couple jobs in which case she would be too tired to see you? Maybe she would like to be exclusive to you, but have you seen the price of college lately? Are you ready to help her out? Maybe the dinner and flower money might be better spent elsewhere. What if she is in fact still a sex worker but would rather not be? It is easy, you know, especially if the girl likes sex. Maybe she tells herself this will only be till she is done with college. Who knows, this all boils down to how much you really like her. Are you willing to go thru some lean times for better times in the future?
Talk to the girl, damn it.

I totally agree with this. I've met quite a number of guys while working who took me out on dates. They tell me how much they like me, how they're falling for me and how they can see us having a future together but the moment they wanna sleep with me and I refuse, they quickly disappear! LOL I would need more than just words or a few dates to determine that you're really interested in me or just a freebie. I'm sorry if the truth hurts but if every guy who whispers sweet nothings to me gets a freebie, who's gonna pay my bills hun? lol

Pretty much every woman is born with the requisite female anatomy for sex.

Relatively few are both intelligent AND fun.

I say ... stay the course.

Personally, I wouldn't want to engage in a "monogamous" relationship with a current sex worker because that obviously isn't possible. But that doesn't rule out other arrangements.

If she's a former sex worker -- no problem. It was just a job.

Either way, she's obviously intelligent, fun and willing to work hard -- sounds like a great lady.

well if you count her "work" no monogamy isn't possable.
If you are able to see what she has with you and what she does for a living as 2 different things then yes it is possable.
I don't see what i do as cheating on an SO. well I am sure if he knew he'd see it differently though. lol
Not many men can compartmentalize it and see one is so NOT the same as the other. They are seperate and different completely.

If you are comfortable with what you have and see moving forward a healthy thing why not give it a go. I don't think we get that many chances to meet someone we are comfortable with enough to just be ourselves.
Enjoy the ride, how ever long it is.

If truth and disclosure is what you need go ahead and ask. But ask yourself first if the answer is YES she is still working, how are you going to handle it. If its something you are uncomfortable with then you need to also be honest with yourself.

good luck....

Didn't we discuss this a few weeks ago?  Nothing has really changed.  Even if she isn't working right now she probably will have to again at some point. If you can't handle her job you will have a tough decision to make at some point.

I would say just enjoy it for what it is right now. Worry about the "maybe" if and when it happens...

I got burned once.

I met a Thai provider in MD with whom I became a good friend for almost 3 years. It turned out that she had a lot of boyfriends and while being married, a second time in 2 years in the country. The first one was a sham marriage to obtain residency which didn't turn out; the second marriage with a successful physician one was real.

All that time she duped a boyfriend to rent an apartment for her under his name. She use it to receive shipment of narcotics and for distribution. When LE found out she slipped away leaving her boyfriend with the mess.

She later duped her second husband to rent a apartment for her where she ran a brothel and continued her narcotics business.

I also rented an apartment for her as her and her friends' residence.

When LE caught up with her, she moved to Northern VA, to another boyfriend, an executive of a local automotive chain, whom she dated before her first marriage, then divorced her second husband. Now she is married for the third time to that boyfriend.

I am not saying your girl friend is like that, but just be careful. Some girls prey on nice guys.

You need to also consider this side of the coin.
Hope things work out for you.