I posted a few times here about my ED in my 40s. People said to just take the blue pill. I felt the issue was more porn addiction related. So last year I slowly stopped watching it. After a year I can now jerk off every few days just to my imagination. Previously I could not even get an erection without watching porn! My provider sesssions have become a lot more enjoyable and less anxiety ridden.  

Wondering if others have noticed the same changes? I do admit it is hard to stop watching it. But now that I see the benefits, I think there is no going back..

I was a huge porn junkie in my 20’s. I had an addiction it was always playing at my private incalls. My clients knew of my addiction & would but me gifts. I had an original signed vhs of Deep Throat. I ended up giving away my collection. When I did my life got better. Porn can be bad for your health.

Thanks for sharing. The blue pill is not always needed. Good for you!

I tried cutting back on porn once. This wasn’t quite as committed as you. But it was like a month. I had no interest in masterbating during this time. I saw one provider. And I could not get it up. She was hot. But not only was Jimmy uninterested, I found myself uninterested.  

 
That said, I was not having ED problems when I tried this out. I had no problem getting up and staying up during a session. I watched porn about 2-3 times a week just to help with masterbating. Occasionally, I watched once a week. This was for about 30 minutes. I never watch porn other than to masterbate.

As more and more providers have been offering video options, I’ve been building a modest collection of my own porn. As Dave Chapelle has said about the one penis per fantasy rule, “My dick is the star of my fantasy. Nobody else’s dick is guest starring in my shit!” I stopped watching online porn and watch my own videos instead.  Granted, not everyone has their own personal jerk-off material, but I’m just reporting what has been working for me.

I cut back on spanking my monkey to 1-2 times a week but always try to abstain for 5-7 days before seeing a provider which I do 2-4 times a month. Some recent studies show that testosterone hits its peak after up to 7 days of not nutting and then starts to decline to baseline so I do this for the hormonal benefit on top of the pleasure benefit.

I believe that this coupled with a Keto OMAD lifestyle and weight training has been a great solution for the occasional ED I suffered from.  I also found that I have much better boners on an empty stomach too.  I’m metabolically healthier than I’ve probably ever been at least since my early 20’s since I was a fatso most of my life, and haven’t needed any ED med assistance.

That sounds like you have ED bro

Before I stopped watching porn, which I only did (and do) 1-3 times a week for about 30 minutes to masterbate, I had no problem during sessions. Not only did I get it up, but I was able to keep it up for 30-45 minutes, usual time before Jimmy blows.

 
In the OP's example, he was having trouble during sessions when he was watching porn, and found by cutting porn out he no longer had a problem. I stated my experience is the opposite. I lose interest all together if I don't watch porn ever.

 
For me, I see it as practice. If I practice basketball 1-3 times a week and have a game on Sundays, I show up pumped and ready to play. If I don't practice, I might show up more aloof and not as interested. I have been like this with sex for as long as I can remember. So, you think I had ED when I was 18 too?

If you need porn to get it up, you have a form of ED. Look into it.

Perhaps you should look it up then. I have no problem getting it up. I just have no interest in trying without stimulation. So, by your definition, because I am not attracted to my own hand, I have ED.

 
Oh wait, there is also the part about when I stop porn I lose interest in escorts. Trust me, this is not an ED issue. This is a "what I find attractive" issue. I will hold off going into detail on this because I would rather not offend anyone. But let's just say if Scarlett Johansson walked into the room and said, "Let's fuck," I would grow to full mast before she finished saying fuck.

I dont have whats called porn induced ED, nor am i in denial of this. So, why would I "take my own advice"?

Im guessing you're not a fan of orgies and/or gangbangs?

You’re like a less frequent more polite troll. Every so often, you just say stupid shit to start in on me. Get over it. I don’t have ED and you don’t understand what it actually means. Just because I’m not always turned on doesn’t mean I have ED. If you can’t understand without me spelling it out and possibly offending others, not my problem.

Haha, nope. Call it a phobia. I don’t want to see another dick in real life much less one that’s ready for use. I also would rather get punched in the gut than get kissed by a dude with like a big Magnum PI mustache so there you go. 😟

Dont get mad at the messenger pal. You have a form of ED, thats fact by your own admission.  

This denial is almost hilarious though.

Also, if you think im trolling or making shit up, just simply look into porn induced ED. Its that simple.  

This deflection though, wow.  

You seem like the guy that gets bummed when your buddies giggle when you say the stripper really liked you.

I look everything up. Is it that you just comprehend and read between the lines? Here's the definition:

 
"When frequent porn use makes it hard to get or keep an erection with a real partner, often because the brain gets desensitized to normal arousal and needs extreme stimulation, leading to performance anxiety and mismatched brain responses."

 
When I freququently - if we are calling 1-3 times a week for 30 minutes this - watch porn, I have no issues with partners. I get it up no problem. When I stop watching porn for weeks, that's when I lose interest to both my hand and the average escort. This is literally the opposite issue. It's absence of using porn and masterbating that makes me lose interest. And, I gave an example of why it's not an inability to get hard. Like I said, if ScarJo walked in and said, "Let's fuck," Jimmy would be ready to roar.

 
Since you are too thick to read the writing on the wall, I will explain further. Growing up and being told how good looking I was in a world where models, musicians, and actresses are constantly pushed in our faces as the standard of beauty, I was an extremely picky young man. I rarely masterbated and was disinterested in most porn, be it on the screen or in a magazine. While my friends got excited with a chance at the school "slut", I was only interested in the hotest of hot chics. On numerous occasions, I had friends tell me I completely missed a shot at girls I wasn't paying attention to who were all in to me.

 
That said, my success rate was not the best in high school. I was good looking, but more of a pretty boy on the thin side (limited muscles) and, therefore, aimed too high. When I started partying heavy in college and my early 20s, I got around a lot and my standards were lowered and more reasonable. And, occasionally, I got the hotest chic in the room too. It was also in college when I satrted working out A LOT. My thirties were my best years, due to continuing to work  out A LOT. I developed a body that matched my pretty face. But my 40s, I started going downhill. I'm not in the shape I once was and, I'm simply older. I didn't even consider an escort until my 40s. I also only watched porn occasionally, and it was only if I wanted to masterbate and didn't have a willing partner available. But finding a partner in my 20s and 30s wasn't so hard.

 
So, being where I am, when I pay, I'm naturally more interested in the cream of the crop. Wihtout porn, I'm more likely to be overly picky and disinterested if I don't walk in and see the American unrealistic standard of beauty. It's like my brain is wired to be unrealistic even though my looks have faded and I have no right to be so picky. For some reason, watching porn reminds me that I can really enjoy sex with many women who are beautiful but may not be covergirl types. It's like programming for my mind to be reasonable. But this is not a problem because of my age. It's a problem because how my mind was wired from day one. I'm super sober these days, drinking less than 12 drinks a year. No drugs. So it's just my sober mind and what helps me desire sex with realistic expectations. A little bit of porn does this for me.

 
I might get slammed for sharring all of this, and I am sorry if this offends anyone.

So where/when did the dudes come into play?

Have you ever said any of this, out loud, to a real person in a real life setting?

…have sex is what arouses you, then that is what your brain will expect when you are with a real woman…

Ill take the lack of response as a solid No.  

You should. I think it would help you gst through this life kerfluffle you are going through, as you have essentially rewired yourself to not get hard without stimulation in the form of pornography.  

As much as you want to try and explain this to us (and yourself), it only makes it more obvious that you are dealing with a seruously deep problem.  

Sooner you accept this to be the truth, as you are in a hard denial phase, the sooner you can correct this.  
Youve got "too pretty of a face" to deal with such issues.  

Pax.

You actually wanted an answer to that question? If you did, you're dumber than I thought. Maybe you're one of the less than 95% who will share anything he posts on here with people IRL. But that's one of the points of a board where you're anonymous. You say shit you are not comfortable sharing with people you have to see every day.

 
But seriously, you can't read right? Because you doubled and tripled down, maybe more by now, saying I cannot get hard without porn. First, never, not once, did I say that. But since you brought it up, sometimes I get hard just sitting at my desk, or walking around, or really doing anything. Getting hard is never an issue.

 
Now, if I want to stay hard, yes I need some kind of stimulation. But heck, maybe you just walk around with a perminent hardon with no help at all. Bravo my friend. I have not experienced that once in my life. Even when I was 18 and could fuck 8 times a day my dick didn't just stay hard with no stimulation.

 
What I did say is that I'm not interested in just my hand. And, I am a whole lot more picky without porn in my life. You seem unable to understand the difference between ability to get hard and what attracks me. I know some guys would just go in the bathroom and whack off to nothing when they first discovered masterbating. That was never me. Not ever. Even when I was a teen, I was more interested with additional stimulation. I actually tried a few times, but just lost interest. Back then, it was something like Penthouse pictures, or even Penthouse forum. Of course, nothing beat the real thing. But even then, I was alwasy picky. No one had a smart phone or even a computer. And, I sure wasn't going to pop in a VHS porno on the family TV and masterbate in the living room.

 
Fast forward, we have smart phones and easy access to porn. So, no need for Penthouse pictures or forum stories. I enjoy it. You seem to think there is something wrong with it. Awe, the shame a man who likes to watch porn and masterbate. And, since he has no interest in masterbating to nothing, that must mean he has ED. What a dumb ass you are. ED is not about someone who has no interest in masterbating to nothing. It's about someone who cannot get or maintain an errection for sex. And, jesus, for crying out loud, extreme example - if a man is fucking an ugly crack whore, and about fifteen minutes in goes soft and says he can't, but this would never happen with a super model, that is not ED you twit. Maybe you can fuck a hole in the wall and it would be no different. But for some of us, attraction matters, and what attracks a person is not the same for everyone.

 
Now stop trying to get on my dick. I have zero interest in a troll like you.

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I can relate to a lot of what you shared on this topic (and your style in doing so); as my drive works in a similar but diff fashion.  
 
It's not that if I don't watch porn then my drive lessens, it's if I don't jack off (only occasionally use porn for that).  If I haven't had any stimulation in a bit, it can be difficult to get interested in it and the more I jack off/more sex I get, the hornier I get. Twice or three times a day is pretty average if I'm getting quality daily D, but can go 4-5x/day when the dick starts slipping (which they always do).  
 
When I first get home from a trip, I'm fairly revved up will spend the first few days in a 7-9x/day binge (and occasionally hurt myself🫣🥹) each session usually taking longer than the last (45min-1hr sometimes, annoyingly) but since self-gratification is never as satisfying partnered sex, eventually the momentum fades into frustration... stagnation.... inactivity.... then it takes purposeful, intentional masturbation (usually where porn comes in) to get my mojo rolling again. Then it starts it's building phase and HOPEFULLY by that point,I've got a well-booked tour coming up😈

I thought not.  

You should really think about talking to someome about these issues you have. They wont get any easier as you get older and will damper your abilty to enjoy life.  

Seriously, get help before its too late.

No VIP?  

 
Anyway, I appreciate you relating and sharing it. Not to mention, that’s hot AF. You sound like a lot of fun!

I've got the VIP but when I mouse over an alias, no messaging option pops up, just the option to see the posts associated. Mousing over an actual handle gives me the option to DM, see reviews or see posts. Is there another way to do it?🤔

EDIT: 🤦🏻‍♀️ Never mind. I figured it out. Ya gotta open the actual individual post to do it vs just navigating from the tree/thread page.  

Just a bit slutty hot🤭.... and yeah, if that's the kind of fun someone likes, then I'm hella fun😈

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...in the "To" box of Compose Mail.

Long story on the alias. Won’t get too into it. The short of it is, I learned if you’re going to be an honest reviewer, it pays to separate my board name and name I use to submit reviews. Of the course the drawback it also hides from those who I have no need to hide from.

Not sure what D i triggered but you likely have OCD and/or ADHD, along with your ED.  

You should definitely talk to someone.  

If you think i really wanted an answer, you are also extremely dense and naive.  

You got problems bud. Deal with em or they will deal with you. Call it what you will but its the truth.  

Also, i notice you like your own posts. Thats a bold move.

You asked your question, I did not answer. A day later, after having the last word, you doubled down and used my lack of an answer to argue more. And just now, you did it again! You had the last word. I didn't reply. But dang, you came back and argued again and made more false accusations. That's a classic case of OCD. Let it go Elsa!

 
And ADHD? Lmao. From what can you even ascertain that? You can't. You're just trying to trigger me lol. And you noticed I like my own posts? And you noticed this how? What, because I have likes you assume it was me? Because everyone knows you cannot see who has liked your posts. You just see likes. How hard you keeping trying is pure entertainment.

 
Please, by all means, keep it coming. I love it went asshats help me dig their own hole.

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I said you like your own posts, because, you like your own posts.  

Im not trying to trigger anyone. Just stating the obvious.  

So once again... Get some help dude.