Dear All,
TER is very helpful for both providers and gentlemen. I hope boys and girls here can help me... thank you in advance.
what if a new client keep asking you to specific your service? what you say, girls? and how detailed you want to knowm boys?
he said, now tell me what i found in you during entire night, what will we do and how aggressive you are be specify. I am asking all these things because i have some bed and some good experience during my USA tour last year in August. I hope that you can understand when person is going spend 1400 or more USD above all need to clarify. I hope  you will answer my query properly.
Ok, I understand all his worries, I feel sorry for his bad experiences but who wont have a bad one? (I am having a bad one in Shanghai now) anyway, first, its pretty strict in my region that I cant clarify what services i offer on my website. second, I suggested him to check my TER reviews,see what my clients said about me and my service, thats better than I boast by myself that how good I am, right? but he kept waiting for my detailed email about my specified services...
What I usually do when I offer service, I try my best to give a GFE and a passionate session, if I have an overnight biz, I will 'wear out' him before I want to rest, ;-p I am pretty active. but all in all, provider has to be delightful when she is with client so being attractive is the 1st step then she will make her biz very well. its not all about how detailed service she can describe, its not a instruction guide book, saying whats the 1st step and what is following.... I think even he is not a TER member, TER offers a great platform for those potential member to know provider better just by reading the brief part of reviews she got.
I usually have dates with 4-5stars hotel guests but this one, even stay in a 3starts, its not a matter to me after I checked that he is real. If he is in Beijing I wont be so careful but I need to fly to him in Shanghai so, I need a deposit (equal to transportaion fee) but he seems will talk about the deposit after I satisify his request of'specify my service'. I dont know how do I write besiding suggesting him to check TER.
So, girls, how detailed you can tell in the email to a potential client that you are going to fly/drive 1400km to meet him.
Boys, what you really mean by 'specify services description'?
Thank you very much in advance, I usually response  promptly but I'd rather to wait for your guys' suggestion before I write to him. Thank you again...
hugs and smooches
Kitty

. . . let him read the reviews. I've never asked a lady anything specific about her service.

You should not need to give him details. Most providers I know would not respond to such questions. One provider I know would put his email in her "jerks" folder.

that you need to dump.  You CANNOT give specific details.  This is one of two things...either he is LE trying to get you to commit to a specific sex act for money...or he is one of those guys who wants you to 'talk dirty' to him...then he'll conveniently lose your e-mails and not schedule.  In either case, this is not worth your time.  If a gent doesn't get the message that you can't be specific, then drop him.  It is not worth the risk to you.  That's my .02 worth.

I usually ask them to read my reviews but not all guys are members of review sites.  

I'd err on the side of caution in this case.  Tell him you'll be like his passionate girlfriend for the time you're together but don't go into specific detail.  And if you get a bad feeling about him then don't see him.  Your comfort and safety are more important than one job.

I doubt that he would get them in terms of an actual session.
 If one hangs around the boards or reads what is on web sites it is very clear that asking about specifics is inappropriate.
 As someone above implied, he may be getting his rocks off just rousting you about specifics. His history is not your problem. You have pointed him to the place where he can get more information. A guy has to meet you halfway when it comes to safety and security.

that he is too cheap to buy a VIP membership.......or it is LE trying to trap you.  Either way, you should be seeing a "red light".  This is one "missed opportunity" you would be wise to miss.

Thank you very much for all sisters and brothers!
I replied to him politely, like carrie suggested about  and reminded him that deposit can be more if there is and raising transportation due to his late pay. he started to be cooperative and tried all ways to pay (no paypal he has).
Carrie, I am sorry to hear your CHI story and appreciate your sharing bad experience with us. I just had my very first bad one and even I get deposit I will still be alarmed about the rest big amount once I am there.
Thank you again for all!
hugs and smooches
Kitty

I do not and never will get into specifics. I direct them to TER more often than not. Even if they are not a member the numbers have to mean something. However if you have few reviews or are not well known then it is much more difficult. I would suggest some direction in what you can offer. I am in a liberated country, Canada, where we do not really have any problem explaining our services. I wont because I feel if the person asking is that way when 90% of gentlemen never will then he is not a client I will see anyway.

Dani

are right on the money Kitty. There is no good reason for you to specify (verbally or otherwise) what this guy has asked for and plenty of reasons not to! If he persists that is a red flag.
Even if he doesnt have TER VIP status he can gleen enough info from reviews to decide if he is interested or not. If he has a clue as to what he is doing, he knows how to get this information or you can forward it to him.
What boys "really mean by 'specify services description'" is just that...the extent of your services.
Talking or writing about ths to strangers can be very dangerous as well.
You might try asking him for his reviews and references if you think he really is clueless but otherwise not a bad guy and see how he responds! If he has any common sense he will appreciate your position..after all jumping on an airplane to Shanghai is not something most people would do without some details on who they were going to be with and what they were going to be doing!
He should appreciate where youre coming from. If he dosent, my view is there is no way I would meet him.
Best of luck to you Kitty...Hope this helps! Tell us what you think. Its not often we get questions from girls contemplating trips to Shanghai LOL

If he could not read the entire reviews, then I guess we just don't meet. As I mentioned on the legal board, you can just be busted with "intent", regardless if a word was spoken or not. The less you speak is best.

Thank you very much for all sisters and brothers!
I replied to him politely, like carrie suggested about  and reminded him that deposit can be more if there is and raising transportation due to his late pay. he started to be cooperative and trying to pay (no paypal he has).
Carrie, I am sorry to hear your CHI story and appreciate your sharing bad experience with us. I just had my very first bad one and even I get deposit I will still be alarmed about the rest big amount once I am there.
Thank you again for all!
hugs and smooches
Kitty

Thats a good idea, Sswede,
I may need his reviews and references if he had experiences with other providers regardless good or bad. He is not from US nor Europe. so I think I have given him good enough info and we both need to know the rule for the game.
I will report if I make it eventually.
I bet there are not often girls from China! LOL
I do feel TER furom is my homestay on internet.
hugs and smmoches
Kitty from Beijing