What does it take for you to block/ stop dealing with friends and prospective friends? How do you go about cutting off the relationship? Ever had a problem in doing so?

Lately, it's been more a shortage of moolah, but beyond that, assuming I could see anyone I wanted...

>Wife/gf sniffing around. I've had two instances of being contacted.  
>Gossiping constantly about other girls and divulging secrets about them or trashing them while fishing for gossip (they are likely doing the same to me behind my back)
>Guilting me/berating me for not giving things I never promised (real name, pics, etc). Make me feel they will start hunting.

ow when you say shorting time, is this after you've shown up on time or were shorted due to lateness? Have you ever been shorted for lateness? If so, how did you handle it.

Beyoncé's "Sorry" perfectly sums up how I feel about cutting off shady clients who don't care about my dignity. It is very gracious of you to offer an explanation. Once it gets to that point for me, I have no cares about cutting someone off and I don't feel compelled to explain why as I have no free lessons to give and I feel they almost certainly know why deep down. At the top of my list is sexual coerciveness and disregard for my consent during a date. It's only come up here and there over the course of two years. In one case, I eventually found out that the individual is a serial assaulter, but his several dozen okays on a well respected verification site obscured that reality. As for folks that I haven't met who don't come correct and try to haggle with me, solicit explicit erotic content, etc. I just press ignore/delete and carry on.

I can totally wrap my head around those reasons. The gf/wife contact is a definite deal breaker. Also once I feel they start to cling or become too needy, I break contact. That can be scary

I respect and agree with everything you've said.  

You've become a provider now?

just a very poor reader

I had to drive to NYC from Massachusetts, and the traffic was bad, so i was 15 minutes late, though I called ahead and warned her, I lost 15 minutes due to that, which is her privilege to enforce as for all I knew, she had another appointment scheduled after me.

Blackmail is a felony and I would completely destroy the person that attempted it.

The clue was in the headline, don't you think?

Wow.  
That's a really, really bad thing.

People ask for "only" the guys opinions all the time, that doesn't seem to stop the ladies from responding, nor should it.

but showing up to an incall is just as creepy, just not quite as dangerous.

Funny but I don't recall asking your opinion or advice.  
Go find something to do, might help you man up a bit, sport

I don't recall fishbro asking for your opinion or advice either.

Listen shit for brains, you might have enough time to troll these boards and reign supreme in this little microcosm but on your very best day you're not half the man I am.
Nor will you ever b

I am literally shaking in my boots as I type this.  

Naw, more like your drunken ass isn't man enough or smart enough to get out of your own way.  
So just keep throwing down the booze and remain a legend in your own mind.  
It's all you've  got, sport.

1. When they email or text more than they book...there's absolutely NO reason to email me multiple times a week if you only see me once a month. I also don't need emails saying you're going to see me soon, and blah blah...it never happens. NEVER.  Timewasting. Bye  
2. If they get "comfortable" and expect me to bend my rules or lower my rates for them. Nope! Bye!
3. They try to put a "friend" label on it, become very nosey and want to hear all about my personal life or go out with me for free. No, my personal life is none of your business. I was hired, we are not friends.  
4. They label my rates as "help"..."glad I could help." Hell no, you didn't help, I worked for it. I'm not some kind of charity. If you want to say you "helped" then you better leave a huge tip!
5. Drama. Talking about me to other providers or clients. You asked for discretion and I expect it right back in return.  
6. Overstaying their welcome without proper funds. If you booked an hour when you know you should have booked 90 minutes, and you try to get me to stay 20 more minutes, then you better have the funds for it or I'm leaving.  You had the hour to do what you needed to do, and if you didn't,  that's not my problem...should have booked more time.  
7. Asking me on a date. No. I am not interested in dating clients. Business is business. I provide the girlfriend experience. This industry is not the place to be looking for dates!!!  
8. Disregarding my cancellation policy. This is the #1 deal breaker for me. If you cancel and choose to not pay the fee, it's done.  I don't care if I've seen you 50 times.  Ignoring the cancellation fee just says your money is worth more to you than my time. I could have been with my family or friends, and because I'm low volume, if you cancel, you can pretty much guarantee you fcked up my whole day. That's very disrespectful and I don't take that lightly. Shouldn't have booked at all if you didn't agree to it, and if you think you're above that, then I'm above seeing you. Don't bother trying to "re-book."

It would still be a LOT more than you have going for you.

There is some real dangerous and fucked up people out there that screen well. It is best they never learn where you live. Please ladies It is not worth the risk to work at home. Bad things can happen.

Dude, funny you'd understand the piñata analogy but then again I'm not surprised.
You've kind of gone thru life as one, haven't you?
I came to a gun fight of minds but you've only got a knife so I'll spare you and move on to something interesting.  
You can continue to waste your life, I've got better things to do with mine.
It's bright, sunny, high surf here in Newport Beach today.
Going to enjoy it  
Adios, señor piñata.

I'm not sure it would have legally counted.  The gal was threatening to come down to my office and embarrass me.

At 24 you've got more leeway than some.  
At 34 or 44 not as much.  
And there's a saying in business that it's much easier to keep a customer than find a new one.  
While your rules make sense I'd also suggest you jerk the chain on some guy before you cut him loose. Stand square and tell him he's screwing up and fix it or else.  
And I'd also suggest you get lots of advice from some of the senior girls who make maturity look incredibly enticing.  
Example? Here's one: when a guy says he's helping you out etc that usually means he's been seeing someone in the past who has used the "rent, car etc is due and I need some help" to get him to visit more often or just sucker him out of $$$

When I get to perfect I'll give you a heads up.
And it came across as harsh but that wasn't the intent

And he books an appointment but has to cancel for good reason, and with advance notice, you expect him to pay 100% of your fee as a cancellation fee, or you blacklist him? Gotta say that is the harshest cancellation fee I have ever seen. May I ask if you pay out a fee of 100% of your rate if you have to cancel?

Very bad idea for a provider to work out of her home. Now I have visited providers who work out of their homes, but I would never do it if I was a provider, and would never recommend it. If she can't afford an Incall location or hotel room then it's better to do outcall only (although that does come with a different set of risks).

I don't for the life of me remember if she if fat, thin, old, young, hot or homely. All I remember is reading off her lengthy list of rules, regulations and downright demands and thinking to myself "what a bitch"

But I guaranty she put herself on a lot of DNS lists with this post. Can you say Prima Donna?
Like you, I was turned off much higher in her list of demands, but I still read all the way down and when I reached the cancellation part, out of curiosity I decided to check her website to see what this cancellation policy actually was. Yikes!

Given how many guys here think that this is a dating service, and that the gals really are having no less than 10 Big O's during the first 30 minutes, I guess Miss Violet just crushed a few ego's here.

Plus you'd need to send some cash so she can run a thorough credit report on you.

Sorry, I wasn't being literal. I haven't heard of guys seeing the same escort 50 times. Just threw that number out there.  With advance notice and good reason, sure. But I can honestly say that nobody has done that. NOBODY. It's all last minute cancelations, lies and double bookings or NCNS... And without the cancellation policy I have in place, I was being canceled on at LEAST 5-7 times a month.  I'd rather be considered a bitch than have my time wasted.  

I'm glad I seem like a bitch. Means less bs, stealing, flakes,etc.  Ever since I updated everything, I've had AMAZING business with guys who want the real deal...a provider that looks just like her pics, won't text you and beg you to see me because I need money, won't show up late, lie to you and work through my period(guess that happens a lot to you guys?) No, I'm real,  honest, and professional. You guys have no idea the types of people that contact us, much less young blonde girls...so I had to "toughen up"...it was just getting to be too much.  If people get offended by my site, then I'm glad I'm weeding through guys I wouldn't want to see. I'm an amazing provider and I love my job. My ads and my site are a reflection of the shit I dealt with and choose to no longer deal with. If guys treat me nicely, they get treated amazingly. I'm not a bitch,though, I just refuse to be taken advantage of, and learned from my mistakes.  

There's a gal that I've been seeing since 2010.  I haven't kept count of how many times I've seen her, but I can assure you it's closer to 200 than it is to 50.

I think it's sad that guys double or triple my age find it fun to bully girls on here. It's my business and I was replying to the OP. If people think I'm such a bitch with crazy "demands" then don't book me. There's thousands of beautiful girls and Im not begging anyone to see me...and still my business is better than its ever been.  There are apps for that, and yes I have had people pay the fee, and usually when they are back in town I provide 2 hours instead of one so the fee cancels out. My policy is basically to get rid of timewasters...and it worked! So, I'm happy.

I love poor attitudes.  Right up my alley as we always have plenty in common and would make for great pillow talk after the saucy stuff.  Health concerns, no problem!  I feel it was right down my provider alley to hobnob with those knocking on death's door.  I find them to be the most generous...(cha Ching)! AND least demanding in bed.

Thank you, makes sense. I haven't thought about the last part and now I will.
I appreciate you not jumping on the bullying bandwagon here. If more people conversed this way instead of going for low blows, this industry would run a lot more smoothly, and my site would look a lot different. lol.  

"Hahaha you dumb hooker, just try to collect a dime on a no call no show, a last minute bs cancellation, etc.  You can't because you're involved in a legally murky business and as a female provider you have shockingly little recourse! Lol clients have all the money and you should sit back, smile, and be grateful we even glanced your way because you would be destitute if you lost us as customers!"  

I have a DNS list, but the gals on there only have a 1% chance of getting off it, if some miracle occurred, but you are the very FIRST chick on my FOREVER do not see list.

Men's Rights! Yesssss!

Good. I attract clients that intend to treat ladies nicely, actually read their site, and have no problem with a simple cancellation policy. Those guys look at all these bullying posts in disgust and agree with me. My post was not bad at ALL.  People just seem to have a problem with my cancellation policy. I don't hate men, I hate little boys that try to bullshit me. Too bad for them that I see right through all the games at this point and end it quick. The only people offended by my post, or calling me a bitch, are guys that agree with that kind of behavior I talked about in my post... Guys I wouldn't see anyways. So, thank you.  

i hope y ou know i was laughing with you, not at you.  we all make mistakes and i was just bustin' yer chops.

ooooh!!!! misandry!  misandry!  boo hoo boo hoo!!!!

And I honor my contacts I enter. But I can't see myself ever booking even if she was local. Her site makes her look bitter and angry, and I really don't want to pay to be with someone who is bitter and angry. There is nothing other than attractive photos on her sitem that would make me want to see her. She has two whole pages of rules and complaints. Two whole pages.

and I most certainly agree she comes off VERY angry and bitter, and most definitely NOT a person I would pay to spend time with, but I have to concede, a deal is a deal and I suppose I too would feel obligated to pay up. if I went into a session with her with my eyes wide open. At that point I would be my fault not hers if were unhappy once I got there.  

Rules, yes. Complaints, no. I have a cancellation policy and I refuse to deal with drunks, guys offering me cocaine, or guys trying to get more time for nothing...Yeah, what a damn whiner I am! How dare I have any boundaries or expectations! Because no other provider has that,  right? Wrong.  I have to put things in bold and state them over and over and over again like a broken record. After years of dealing with flakes and "you avail" texts at 2 a.m. my site looks like it does for a reason. I have rules and I have standards. Hell, I can't even list my phone number anymore. You think anyone wants to write all that and hide their phone number as well because so many idiots can't read or control theirselves? Of course not. I'm not the only provider that does any of this, take a look at girls twitter. Guys need to be told to take a shower on our sites as well...You think anyone really wants this crap on their site? NO. But, it's necessary. I just don't sugarcoat anything and MOST men appreciate that.  The last thing I am is bitter. I'm real.  

but she had the good sense to post from behind an alias, and she at least was funny and fun to talk to. That is until she gave into the anger and bitterness too and all that was left of her was the MHB

I don't need to hide behind anything. A handful of guys on TER hate me. Big deal. Its not costing me any business, although you seem to think so. My site has looked this way for months and I'm doing great. My clients love me and I love making them happy. I love my job, I just expect to be treated right. If that's bitter, then yep, I am a bitter bitch. Funny how many messages I received from guys today telling me how so many girls have left this board because of bullies and to just ignore you all because I've done nothing wrong and my site isn't offensive. I agree. You don't know me, and with your reputation on here I couldn't care less what you or people like you think of me.  I'm not reading anymore of this crap and will take their advice. Think what you want. Goodbye.  

eom

First off I don't hate you, I don't even know you.