A few years ago I saw a lady, had a great time, and wrote a great review of her.  For reasons not relevant here, I did not see her again for 3+ years.  I did keep up with her web site and reviews as she left a fond memory.  

Last week, I contacted her and set up another date.  My first 'alarm bell' was that she had an incall in a less-than very nice 'by the week' place.  I ignored that and kept the date.  When I saw her I was quite disappointed in the changes that had come over her in the time that had past.  To me, she no longer really looked like her pictures.  Gone was the fresh looking MILF with the great body padded with the SLIGHTEST amount of softness.  Instead she had a very hard look and feel to her and not in the 'Bo Derrik' really good, hard-body way.  Her face was drawn and hardly the pretty woman in her pictures and that I had enjoyed before, this could have been due to an over-aggressive face-lift but I doubt it.  I immediately became wary of her lifestyle and recreational habits.   Part of me wanted to just give her some money and leave but I stayed for a session that I kept control of and ensured nothing close to 'unsafe' happened.  

Here is the quandry, she is still getting rave reviews.   I'm dumbstruck that none of her reviewers have mentioned the differences between her pictures and what I encounterd.   This makes me wonder if her reviews are faked or if, not having seen her in the flesh 'back in the day', they don't know the difference.  I will never see her again, should I write an honest review or just let it be?

MM

A provider I use to enjoy seeing all the time, back in July of 2010, has changed so much. I use to see her a lot. But then last year, I notice she started to put on a lot of weight, and wasnt the slim built provider I was use to. Still a nice person, but over all to me went from a 9 to 7, which is still sexy.

Her newer reviews all said she looked stunning, and looked just like her pics, but being around her so much I noticed the change. She's still a sweet heart, and we talk from time to time, but I dont find her sexual attractive anymore.

That was my first thought.

-- Modified on 1/13/2012 8:45:02 PM

Yes, you can still submit reviews using an alias. You have to create the alias first, then select discussion board or reviews at the select bar. That way, you can be discreet about your identity.

If what you see concerns you, or is questionable. Then state that in your opinion. Its only your opinion. If you feel that it needs to be address, then do it under an alias review. It may benefit the next hobbyist, or, it may not affect the decision of other hobbyist to see her.

I've seen providers that score 2 and 3, and get new reviews every week despite her low scores. Anyways, write the review if you deem it necessary, and write it under an alias to protect your identify.

Because, the provider probably knows his TER handle. She can easily identify him. She may PM him or have someone PM him to confirm his identity. Yes, some will go that low. Your TER handle is your identify, some have build trustworthy relationships with their handle, and writing such a poor review may discourage others. For example, some providers might hesitate if she sees a poor written review, or a review that she deems inappropriate. There are plenty of other reasons, you can ask questions on the RO board.

Using an alias to review providers prevents these unwanted situations. Its quick, clean, and efficient.

Recently, I saw a very nice provider and had a very enjoyable time over the course of a multiple hour visit.  During the intermission period between sex sessions, we looked through TER and I shared some of my past reviews of ladies we both knew.  She was interested in her most recent reviews and we visited her TER site.  She saw some of her more recent scores from what she considered friends and went ballistic.  I will never, never, make that mistake again. She was very upset about receiving several "7's" for looks and swore that she would get back at those guys. Interestingly, she was not he slightest bit interest in reading the reviews.  She was only concerned with her new scores and how it would affect her "average".  
This gets me to my main point. Based on my relatively short "hobbyist" career of 1 year, I believe that for all the good that TER provides there is a major flaw in the system of reviews.  TER is great for finding ladies and reducing the risk of encountering LE, however, the scores for reviews seem to be inflated.  I am not exactly sure for the reason for this, but I suspect that it follows the old adage: "say what you want about a lady, but never insult her looks".  I do not agree with the "prevailing" view that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", since psychological studies have shown that men have similar perceptions of beauty and looks.  I suspect that the scores reflect he reluctance of men to tell it like it is for fear of backlash.  After all, our (a man's) ability to see new providers depends on references provided from past providers, some of whom we have reviewed.   Finally, I have found a great majority of providers to be honest and fair, but you never know when you will encounter or review an lady that takes offense at your scores.

this guy can contact her to discuss? I am torn between feeling bad for her and feeling for the truth of the review. Or better yet, contact one or to of the other reviewers, the ones that are the most recent (as long a they have some history) and ask what the deal is. See what their opinion is by expressing that you are REALLY concerned about her and are wondering whether that was an isolated thing. If you make her come across as a drug addict without at least trying to see if its isolated, its a little sad. I would ant to know, but maybe that's just me.
Worth a try.

I looked over the photos on your site and can understand your lack of concern about score for looks.  It is obvious from the pics that you are very attractive and therefore you are probably very secure in your "looks" rating.  ( IMO, No one would give you anything below a "9" unless they are out of their mind).  However, most women are insecure about their looks and take offense at "low" "looks" scores.  Performance scores can be explained away by YMMV, she was having an "OFF" day, or "we didn't click", but low "looks" scores can only be interpreted as: "she is not attractive".   Getting back to my original thoughts, no one can really explain the fact that scores are inflated.  I can only offer my opinion based on a few observations.

I'm more attracted to her performance scores, and if I was in the midwest, I'd call her.

I saw an MP today who resembles that gal, and she got me to stand up and salute.

She launched my rockets like no tomorrow.

Now, for the record I like gals of all shapes and sizes but there are times I really want to see a voluptuous, or Rubenesque gal and today was one of those times.

the fact than an average can be agreed upon for certain attributes is understandable, what that average paragon might be is dependent upon the culture and fashion of the day. during the Baroque period rubensesque models were more in vogue. not my cup of tea, but that was the standard of the place and time and Peter Paul Rubens. it isn't mine.

the phrase "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" simply expresses that aside from the mean defined by collective response, there are individual responses that deviate from the mean. the psychological studies also show that such variances exist.

in order for the ratings to be standardized and made more objective there would have to be an operational definition of what each grade would mean.  the phrase "once in a lifetime" for instance is vague: does it mean once in a hobby lifetime or once in a civy lifetime? the fact is that the definitions are obviously humorous. "ok if you ar drunk" comes to mind. so they cannot be taken too seriously.

it seems that with such a humorous and loose definition, the rating standards cannot be taken too seriously. if all ratings are inflated, there is simply nothing to do but accept the fact and work from there. the proponents of "objective" ratings who rail at the fact.... are they going to go back and rerate all the inflated reviews? that way lies madness.

objectively, the average score for each provider is what it is. from that fundamental fact the sane way forward is to assign a rating based on that particular providers distribution of ratings and adjust it higher or lower depending on how i evaluate that provider's appearance versus my one in a lifetime civy experience.

that is how i have chosen to harmonize the ratings given for any particular lady and express my personal opinion in forming my ratings. my rating also reflects an average of how she looks with and without clothing since i like to unwrap the package and i also enjoy dinner encounters out.

so i do not take the provider's vanity into account at all, contrary to your hypothesis. i have my own method which tries to be as objective as possible without doing violence to the variance in my own taste. some folks find BBW women fascinating, i don't but i respect the right of those who do to rate by their own standards. it's all in fun and not to be taken too seriously.

now my personal standard of "once in a lifetime", no way to post a pic... but think a combination of Dita Von Tease and (from our community) Edrienne Cole. then eat your heart out because i didn't need an envelope. (this is directed generally, not at you dtero.)

that said, that is why i have a few 10s for appearance and why i will likely give more. i actually regret not giving a 10 to a lady i gave a 9 too..... OTOH one of the recipients of a 10 from me actually complained about it. shortly afterwards she retired and said that she would have preferred a lower score so that a new client could be pleasantly surprised. so "there are more things in heaven and earth", dtero, "than are dreamt of in your philosophy."

in penance for the previous pic

i offer a little luba

let me do my penance as a sop to those who find it unworthy by their lights and will get their knickers knotted unless mollified.

While I do favor the petite ladies, I have had pleasant rubensesque moments of my own.

One of the silly things about the ratings.... why shouldn't a rubensesque woman get a 10 like a petite spinner?

The way I see it they are completely different genres, like classic rock and jazz.

Very true, & this is where "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" comes into play. While studies may show that men find certain attributes make a women attractive, everyone has different tastes. Some like spinners, some athletic, some thin, some BBW... what one man may find attractive, as that is what he seeks, another may find not at all, as his "type" is completely different, so of course their grading scale of the same lady will differ.

And in all honesty, a '7' for looks is attractive... what is wrong with that??

but i think those pics of yours with the purple horizontal triped leggings and minuscule skirt would certainly promise better than that...

at one time, a C was considered an honorable "gentlemen's grade."

I had an English professor once who was a visiting professor from Oxford and he reviewed a paper I wrote and congratulated me for getting a C.

But that's what happenes when not everyone sees the scale in the same way.

Grade inflation, like monetary inflation, is the way of the universe, or so it seems.

meth = anorexic looking not fat where have you been?

her before & knowing how beautiful she was before, this gave u such a let down that destroyed your image of her because u had a different impression of her....
She may have earned her reviews giving others a really enjoyeable time who were less concerned with how unperfect her face was, or her hotel choice maybe only for that week or a couple, the girls change around alot.
Also, she could have had a really bad face day......I deal with this & I don't do meth or any of those other hard things shit or even drink for that matter, but some days I have gotten up & looked in the mirror and said wow who is that?! especially if I didn't get sleep, infact as crazy as it is, I used to work somewhere came in everyday then all of a sudden came in one day & one of my co-workers looked at me & said wow u look great what's changed about you, & really all it was I had just gotten a really great nights sleep & it made a huge difference in my face features....So your girl cud be experiencing these female cchanges which start happening in our late 30's.....
but one main thing applies, you have seen her 3 years prior & have an old impression of her which at that time she could have looked just the same but how u were feeling about her at the time u met an then grew to know her accepting her as she was...then not seeing her for 3 years it's a big different in how you feel, cuz that's how you percieve her----through your eyes, & the others percieve her through their eyes & don't know her as anything different....
You probably should avoid a review of her al together due to your personal feelings of being let down from how you remember her past performances....cuz her past performances could have been the same....your experience is only of your perception of how u feel & how your are accepting of her. & it sounds u aren't accepting of her at this time....so its unfair to give her a bad review....Guys seem to forget about that, if they are in a negative mood they will perceive their session as negative even when it wasn't (or I've had a guy bring down my mood due to his negativity & not being able to snap him out of it cuz he was tooo strong a force), or a guy sits down to write the review a few days later but hes in a negative mood even though he left the session happy or vice versa it was a so so time but hes in a happy mood when he writes the review...
Maybe see her again, but remember your impression is bias & not accepting that 3 years time has passed and people change as you yourself have changed.
this is just my 2 cents but I really feel it should be brought to your attention. Theres just no need to hurt someone livelyhood to make money, these review weigh in alot sometimes & it effects us personally as well....we get upset when we haven't pleased someone cuz we want the guy to be very happy....

just information that shouldn't be put out there.  (and le reads this stuff, maybe even her mom, brother, etc....)
That's something personal, I have clients that smoke 420 (although I ask those to not do it right before the session cuz the smell bothers me) drink, & do other drugs but all this is none of my business, as in return it isn't their business if I go to a bar for a drank if the occassion arises I'm sure they wouldn't want me talking about their personal choices like that or sharing that they hobby for that matter....
and for the hotel, we as girls have to change locations often and we have to accept to go where we feel comfortable to get away with what we are doing during the day and some hotels don't alow or give problems so sometimes we have to choose a less desirable location for a week or two....but as in my case I make sure there's not going to be any drama that would effect my clients in any way, but sometimes we have to choose a hotel just because....
Again it seems your issues aren't with the service but your thoughts on other things & that you feel should be a higher standard but also keep in mind when you are rating her.....was she advertised on ter charging a high enough fee $250 -$400 to expect to be in a nice hotel, or was she advertising on bp (which is different standards than ter) & charging a lesser fee like $100- $150...... Bp girls should be rated on different standards as they are considerably less expensive, if u want them in nicer hotels then expect to pay a higher donation....I'm just saying.