emails I can live with, but I send them to spam.
When I get a text or a call I tell them to loose my number.
Bad enough women are chasing me in real life, I don't need to be chased down by providers.

Yeah, I'll bet that's a huge problem for you! *snort*

Ever have a provider call you to set up a visit?

I wasn't planning on seeing her at the time but how could I say no when she's the one that wanted it.

Usually I get pic txt when ladies are in town, especialy if you have money or they think you do. Some times I get the I miss you phone call, Classy way of saying in need some cash, I can respect that. Assuming this is prior acquaintance as I have never signed up as a client on any site, I would feel obligated to see all who may contact me.

My primary role as a provider is to guarantee you TOTAL discretion. Initiating contact is an absolute "NO, NO" She could be putting you in a very compromising position. BAD GIRL!

A provider should never contact me unless I tell her it is OK to do so. Discretion is important in this hobby.

Now if I tell her it is OK, no problem. If it has been two months since I seen her, I don't have anther lady lined up that week, she was worth repeating, and I was in the mood I would set something up. But if she didn't have permission to contact me she would find herself on my DNS ever list real quick. Like many things it is about respect.

I keep a database and ask clients if they mind being contacted. My assistant fills them in after every appointment (in case I forget) because many men in this industry are married and that is disrespectful. I only contact if given approval.

"NO, I will call you when it is a better time for me. Please do not call me" See how easy that was.. Seriously, She should not be calling you for a visit. If the two of you are Very, very, very good friends and she wants to check on you and see if all is well in your world That is a very different thing..

Please do not allow her to continue to get away with that..

I might contact a guy when I am in a certain area convenient to him. It's not a definite like "I want to see you", more like a "I am here if you are available." Always done via e-mail and after asking him if he wants to be on my mailing list.

So was it more like that or was it like "Hey Tony, how about we get together Wednesday afternoon?"

Kisses

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is whether there was an OK given; can't tell from the original post.

I agree with you, if I had told her it's OK to call/write, that's fine and I enjoy hearing from those providers.  If I haven't, I would not like it.

That's why I have 2 e-mails I only use for this.  One is for all first contacts.  If I want to keep a dialogue open and have her write whenever she wants to, I then give out my "real" e-mail address.  It's worked well for me so far.

to your estate.  And you thought you were an unknown who just liked to get his dick wet.  LE is watching.

Over the years, ladies that I have seen regularly have let me know of their availability from time to time. Locals may have unanticipated time available. Travelers may be letting me know that they are planning a visit. Usually this was with my permission. When the calls came without prior permission, I stopped seeing them.

that is a recipe for disaster.  I know Most all providers probably do but that is not what I want to hear.  I know you're seeing many more clients than I see providers but a data base.?  What kind of info do you imput? I have told providers to let me know when they hit town but I have a "stripper /hooker phone" that is a throw away if needed. Jeese maybe I should start a stripper data base so I remeber who is not worth it.  As I can remeber all the providers I have seen it is not needed there.

when I have an incall available. They know I don't have a permanent one. Since neither they nor I see each other on a regular "once a week" or "once a month" situation, they want to know when I have time. I make time if they call / email me, of course, but if I have an open appointment, they've told me to call.

That's the ONLY time I call them first.

I am discreet and would never contact a gentleman to say I am available.The only time is if the gentleman initiated the contact first.You never know who might pick up a person's cell phone or checking their email if you are a single person and this does not affect you fine.But,you never know a person's situation so better safe than sorry.

By data base it means that every number I save in my phone I mark whether they want to be emailed/called by me. Some do and want to get newsletters from my site. It isn't a recipe for disaster if you are dealing with an individual who remembers what you tell her. I put name/phone number/whether they want contact/and if they agreed to review me/email address for those who cannot get calls. I do that so I know who promised me reviews so I can follow up. Works a lot better than trying to cheat the system, and I never contact anyone who cannot be contacted. And I have never had anyone upset. It is an issue of the provider. If she is a good one, your discretion is always respected. Sorry if you have had bad experiences.....

Similar to my "data base" which certain people do not like. Well I think it is organized and respectful and never contact anyone without their permission. It seems you and I have a lot of policies and procedures that are similar. Are you looking for anyone to work with? If so pm me. I will be traveling in the near future.

I have a few that call/text me and I'm under no illusion to as to why they do. They are doing this to make $$$ and since they have seen me before I'm sure they would rather see a "safe" client before seeing someone new. Most of the time its just them letting me know that they're on my side of town if interested. I doesn't bother me since I'm single and live by myself.