Hookers and their boyfriends/Husbands:

I had a long time thing (once a month for 2.5 years) with a girl who was married and the husband knew about it. He was totally a pot head who sponged off and blew the wife's money.  The only reason she stuck with him was because they had kids together.  Now he liked the cuckold thing as well.  I would be fucking her silly and she would pull out her phone, shoot a short video clip, text it to him and tell him "he's fucking me better than you ever could..." so that one worked for them...

She got in my car and her husband stayed in their car.  He was parked a few spaces over while she did me BBBJ.  
They had been married many years, and probably still are.

It is interesting to see somewhat taboo subjects getting brought up.  On this note, I've actually had a few "touring couples" -- basically a married couple (guy & girl) PM me and ask me if I was interested in seeing them.  Quite frankly, I'm definitely not there and find that odd.  Maybe other people are into that stuff, but I couldn't imagine doing that.  

She and her husband have a part time live in girlfriend that they both play with. They have a fairly successful other legitimate business.  
She does this for the extra funds and she loves having more sex.  
I always send a thank you message to her husband for sharing her. She's so much fun, I go back pretty regularly.  
Others I know don't have boyfriends or husbands because not that many people know how to be open to the challenges of jealousy or theist dogma crap.  
It takes all kinds. I don't think you can generalize the people involved in this.  
There is a big cross section of humanity involved in p4p.

There are quite a few in some "open marriage" situation. I prefer when they do it behind their boyfriend's back. We can exchange cheating techniques.

She met her husband at the strip club where she worked and turned tricks.  He knows she's continued to fuck for money since their marriage.  I don't know if he cares or not.  He's wealthy so she doesn't need the money and blows it on lavish parties and cruises she takes her family on.  One time after we were done fucking she brought her boyfriend in to meet me.  I saw him again with her at a party she threw.  Takes all kinds, I guess, but people like her are one reason why I love this world.

but very few of the gals I see have steady boyfriends or husbands.  Some of these gals I have known for decades.  They do date someone on occasion, but it never lasts long.

I think that greatly reduces the chance of expanding the relationship beyond p4p.

Same here.  I have a totally different observation.  I have never met a lady who told me she is married.  They are either single or divorced.  And I have never met a lady who told me she has a steady boyfriend either.   Few said they want a relationship and they stopped providing, and returned back once they broke up with their boyfriends.  I think ladies who are married or have steady boyfriends are minorities.  I might be wrong because I never know if they told me truth or not.    Fabrication is very very common in this field.

When I visit a hooker there are no thoughts of other guys. Not her husband, boyfriend, or other clients. They don't exist, only me and her.  

You are that dorky guy that hot girls LOVE. But I know you've found your dream girl.

I have don't ask don't tell policy.  I could careless and don't ask.  None of my business

whatever she does after or did before, or on any other day, doesn't matter.

That's a pretty high number considering most providers I know including myself are single.  I would say it's more like 40-60%

I've been the "boyfriend" on several occasions, and other than an occasional gift from my hooker-girlfriend du jour, I have never seen a dime of the money they brought in.  They always kept it separate and me in the dark about how much it was.  On the other hand, I rarely pay for anything I wouldn't pay for if I had a civvie girlfriend instead, so maybe I'm still doing it a little bit right?

Why ask?  Why create any unnecessary drama?

Aren't you in control of whether it expands beyond p4p?  

...about their relationship status, whether they have one with an SO or not.

I never said 90% were married. I only said 90% had a boyfriend. You can be single and have a boyfriend.

Although there may be no BSC behavior, it could mean I'd have to stop seeing a great provider.

and I'm not grungy, a loser, unemployable, or an artist,  and not that bad looking I'm told, LOL.  Nor am I a cuckhold, however she wanted me to participate in a threesome with her cuckhold client on one occasion.  I was willing, but it never panned out.

I much prefer to bang civies with husbands or boyfriends, especially if the husbands or boyfriends DON'T know about it.  I never had the experience of a cuck husband, but I think that would lessen the spicey aspect of it, back to the same as a single gal.

Agree Breanna!

I don't think you are single if you have a boyfriend...

Well, I always thought single meant "unmarried." From my observation only 25-33% are actually married or living with a guy but that does not mean they don't have relationships outside of hookering.  

I was including those with boyfriends in my guestimation.  Yeah we go out and date and might have a fling for a few months but that's completely different than a long term relationship.  Who the fuck is going to quit for someone they've only been dating for a couple of months?  Been there, done that and you're damned if you're honest and you're damned if you lie.  Much better to remain single in this biz.

A fling only becomes a boyfriend when the relationship turns into a long term one.  A fling is pretty much a fuck buddy you hang out with.

However, if I found out she had a husband who she was hiding it from, I'd probably stop seeing her.  I'm big on consent.

If you re-read his OP he plainly included both "husbands AND boyfriends"  

Hell, maybe it's 87.6%. This group sure likes to hold people to a legal standard. At least we agree that it's the vast majority.

So no projection here. I freely admit to being an asshole, just not a misogynistic asshole.  

I call them pimps.  Pimp = anyone who collects or lives off the earnings of a prostitute.  Doesn't matter how you do it.  

I like to post satire. Satire includes posting sarcasm about the dupes who believe everything a hooker tells them. It includes posting about guys who believe in things from the Masters degrees to the 14 orgasms they believe hookers have per session.  

I had almost forgotten about H+T, I like her "most of the time" she was really starting to show all the signs of burnout before she left. Just like it's painfully obvious you neither like, nor respect the hookers you see, it was just as obvious that was how she was feeling about the johns she was seeing.

I have been the boyfriend of several different hookers over the years, and unless you include letting them buy dinner every once in a while, I never profited a penny off of their hard work, and neither has Scoed, Fish, CDL or any of the many other mongers here I know  who have had or do have a hooker GF/Wife, so you might want to put away that broad brush you are painting with.

I must have missed her last posts.

You have a good point but he questioned if boyfriends/husbands would be considered to be cuckolds if they have us for an SO.  I don't really think that includes casual dating when both partners are likely to not be monogamous anyways.  I personally haven't dated someone for longer than a couple of months while being in this profession and there was never an agreement on being exclusive.

Even clients I saw regularly before, during and later. No offence but it's not of your damn business. I don't ask clients about their private lives. They sometimes tell me if they choose to but I have some things I am comfortbale sharing with a client and some I will lie/not discuss with gents, even regulars.  
I wouldn't ordinarily even openly say I HAVE been married except that some of the comments on the thread make me bloody sick and angry.
This is my JOB. No one expects to poke their noses into the private business of their accountant or even a hairdresser yet it's open season on us.
I'd just like to say bugger off. Whether aim married or not, or have a boyfriend or not is not any clients business just because he books to see me for one hour or ten.....

Also, while I disagree a LOT with OTM, I don't think he's a troll in the same way as the guys you cite were.  OTM is just a cranky, jaded old fuck. Yes, he does say some things to get a rise out of people but so do I.

For Christ's Sakes lady, they usually tell me and much of what I saw was my own observation long before I was mongering.  I'm in the USA so you say Fuck off not bugger off.

... was with a married provider.  Something strange was going on in her life, and I was the victim or the fortunate guy, depending on how you look at it.

I am personally not married or dating at all right now in my personal life; however, in the past I did work this job while married with my husband's knowledge and consent. He was by no means bad looking, unemployable, artistic, grungy, a dreg of society, nor a cuckold!  My husband and I at the time enjoyed a swinging lifestyle and had a lot of fun doing it.  This job just let me bring extra money into our home in a similar and fun fashion.

I threw my usual sarcasm into the OP but some of the best hookers I've known were in "open marriages." Even the ones who did it behind their SO's back did just fine.

Did you let her keep the shirt?

Having previously been in "the lifestyle", many husbands don't mind letting their life/girlfriend play around as long as they reap the benefits.  Met many CEO's and what not.  It happens at all levels of society and yes some wives of wealthy people do it.

Which is hilarious coming from the sources. I'd say married, cheaters aren't the ones who should be saying anything about our private lives. Lol. It is entirely possible to be in this business and have a happy, healthy marriage.  Personally, not at all sure how one could be in this business and hide it from their spouse....for me honesty is the best policy in any relationship. I am a non monogamous and there are men who can totally handle that, love it and be sexy, intelligent and have a career. Not every man who dates or marries an escort is a Pimp or  a cuckold. That is huge generalization ...sad one at that. A a good relationship no matter what careers one has...should lift each other up and help one succeed not take away from. Some are just super kinky and tabboo compared to traditional sense so others have no way of understanding.  
One thing I've noticed is I don't ever discuss my [romatic]personal life but it's surprising how many clients ask about mine.

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Your pimp would be proud.

My primary partner and I started off with a polyamorous relationship so we already had the openness, less jealousy, and communication that comes with being poly. And he was supportive of me finally doing this after months of us talking it over.  

That's awesome! I agree poly relationships make so much more sense in most cases. Always thought I was a kinkster until I learned more about poly and that fits me better. I think it is great you found someone who makes you happy and supports you. Feels good right!?

I don't think you describe a good marriage with that last paragraph.  A good marriage is a partnership, with roles that change over time, give and takes, etc.  

It's the same as a guy looking at marriage as being a "trick"