Sometimes we get that connection and sometimes we don't. Such is the hobby. But I am ultimately perplexed as to why someone would schedule with me and then blab about their ATF for the entire session...

Guys, can you relate to blabbing and why would you do it?

Ladies, does this irritate or could you care less?  

I am not sure what to think since I know I was blatantly being compared to her, and, I now know details about her I really didn't want to know, all because he blabs. :-/



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Having cut back blabbing about the atf with other providers I can reasonably assume her replacement isnt out there, but I am sure as hell gonna keep looking.

He could have just talked about himself

At least this might be a bit more entertaining.

Sounds like you got off easy...or probably not at all in this case  

He paid you...right?

And you do know....guys lie, and tend to exaggerate.  Did he also insist on a Magnum?

.. that she has seen a good number of guys who blab about their ex GF or wife and never so much as touch her the entire time! They just whine.... go figure... easy money I guess.

But, if the guy is too dumb to realize that he is causing a distraction to a woman who is trying to pleasure him there really isn't much you can do other than take his money and say thank you and move on...

most men are blithering idiots.. i NEVER talk about an atf or anyone else when i with a new provider..it is tacky and insulting..i learned my lesson early on in this hobby..i was with a gorgeous new provider and happen to stupidly compare bbbj techniques to a previous provider..she then told me if i mentioned her name one more time ..she would 'bite my nuts off'..she might have been joking..but i took it at face value..i have kept my mouth shut ever since..

The one that liked biting that is?

Yea...I'm sure you don't babble to the gals anymore.  But somehow I doubt that is the truth as well  

to me that sounds just downright rude, we all slip a lil from time to time, but this guy sounds like a jerk, its not you sweety

one of the keys to hobbying drama free is to keep your mouth shut during a session especially when it comes to discussions about other providers and hobbyists. But some people just can't shut up and have to show off on how much they think they know.

IMHO that is VERY tacky. If you have a ATF, go see her, and if you cant, dont make the woman you are with feel undesired or inferior by comparing. If YOU MUST compare, so it silently.

That is as bad as talking about your boyfriend to a client or husband and how sexy, hot, and fit he is. How he makes you cum so hard, fucks you for hours and and hours.

Sheesh, think about how awful they would feel?

same thing

perfect example of the proverbial 'shoulder to cry on'..

...if I felt he was taking it too far I have no issue telling someone "I dunno how she'd appreciate you telling me all of this about her". Even he didn't get the hint with that then he's frickin' stupid. I dunno there's a line/difference in sharing because you're so happy & eager to connect and.....gossip.

I've had this happen a couple of times. Sometimes, he's just lacking tact. But I've also noticed that some of them do actually seem to feel bad about seeing another provider if they have a long time ATF, and I can't really blame them for having her on their mind, if that's how they're feeling. I don't necessarily like it, but I don't let it bother me either. Everyone likes what they like. Just because she's they're favorite doesn't have to mean she's better, just that we're different, and that's perfectly fine.

That said, I am extremely competitive, so I don't mind knowing some details. You can learn a lot about what type of client he is by what girls he sees, and the way he talks about them. I care more about that than what he may think of the other girl, so I take it and run with it. As far as I'm concerned, he's giving me direct advice on how to be his new ATF, all I need to do is use it.

I promise when we get together I don't have an atf

to STFU or leave.

I do not think one should blab about anATF by name out of respect to the ATF.  If one has reviewed her or used her as a reference, or if you  know the ladies are friends, some general comments seem fine.

If you really think it would be ok, ask your ATF first.  She might surprise you.

They are looking for surrogate girlfriend or wife. In their mid, their ATF is their Girlfriend or Wife. So, they gable. Doesn’t guys babble also about the girl friend who broke up on a first date!

It is hard for people to let go and they fuck every chance they get thinking about the past.

All that aside they forget the reason for to be in this hobby which is to have sex with as many hot women you can. These dumb fucks have misplaced sex priorities.

relating his experiences to you so that maybe he hopes you will take the cue or hint and try to be more like her?

The inability to be able to put one's self in the place of another person so as to realize when you are saying something that could be hurtful, or come across as boorish.

It's not that uncommon and I've run into several such people.

Often these people can be very friendly and even charitable at times, yet come across as having no tact.

Kramer on Seinfeld was a classic case of this.

Here's a link to a site with descriptions of Asperger's in adults.

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is just not cool.  Don't do it.

that couldn't talk for 5 minutes without telling me something about her other clients, or take jabs at other providers.   I found this annoying and very tiresome.

I just don't talk about about what I do with others,  I don't want to hear about what a provider does with others,  and I don't want to talk about "the business".  

I am trying to focus on having a good time with the person I am with, and making the time enjoyable for both of us.  Spending time and energy talking about others is a distraction to that for me.

So I have no idea why someone would schedule with you and talk about someone else.  It seems counter productive, and violates every principle I know about how to treat someone that you are trying (and even paying ) to like you.

I wouldnt be quick to judge he has it, he could just be uncouth...

My son who is 13.5 has aspergers.... so I am quite familiar with it

In that case, the nicest way to respond to that is

" wow, seems like you two really have a great connection, I am flattered you came to try me and try someone who is a bit different. I do hope we can create our own unique connection and memories also.  I appreciate you telling me all about how she makes you feel good, but every one is different, and I bet I can make you feel just as good in my OWN special way, but different than her.... Care to try and let me take on that challenge? "

agree It ruins the mood unless your gonna call her over and let me play with her too!

exactly! IT ruins the fantasy!

Tell her read your reviews and she will figure it out lol

Re: He could have just talked about himself

Oh no not in that way. He just told me more things about her than I cared to know, more personal in regards to her life and her business. I guess that's what I am uneasy about. Other conversation did take place in between his two pops. He didn't have any problem getting those out! LOL!

Hey MF!

Appreciate your info, but no, he's not that far gone I don't think! LOL! I have met people with Asperger's and possibly have a family member with some of those tendencies, but this guy might have been a certifiable dooche. I think that is the extent of his malfunction. Doochebag syndrome.

I am just surprised by what some people let come out of their mouth. Especially between the ladies and gents. First of all, show some discretion, not everything is appropriate. The hobby is what we have in common yes, but I don't blab about Bill and Tom when with John... Him telling me about her and what she does seemed a little like he felt guilty but I guess I am defending him! LOL! He could also be a little stalkerish too. IDK.

LOL! You are a smart man! I agree, too much talking going on. And I don't talk when my mouth is full so...

I feel you on that. I have had personal situations where I know a guy is with someone else and it's my agenda to be "better" than her, by any means necessary! In my deepest kink, I even like hearing the details of how she did what and how did he feel, because it turns me on more and then I really let it loose and go wild to trump whatever she did. The challenge is fun, but does get tiresome and it's never great always being second string, so I usually go find someone else to play with. But...

The chances of becoming his ATF? None. First impressions are everything, and if you come to me to rat out your current ATF, well it's the last time I'm seeing you buddy. Seems kind of reckless and not the kind of company I would enjoy keeping. Besides, what would he say about me? And could it b potentially damaginf if shared to the wrong person? Too risky.

Oh NO! Nuts are too precious! They need kisses, licks, suckling, and slight tugs... NO trauma to the nuts whatsoever!

LOL! Misplaced sex priorities! So what would be the best way for them to get their sex priorities in check? Obviously getting new chicks isn't helping. I don't mind giving my all for a great experience, but when you're messing up the flow, you're ruining it for yourself and then it gets to the point where there is nothing I can do to salvage your lack of a good time. Maybe such a thing as hobby baggage? LOL!

But do wonder what the heck he is doing with me. If he wants to spend the time chatting about how wonderful so-and-so is, who am I to tell to shut it. It's his time. If he is comparing, again, don't care, as I have zero control over what he thinks.

Guys or providers who share personal info about others they see is counterproductive to the discretion we all want/talk about.

they are paying, and I certainly won't deal with the reference drama either. When a guy tells me he can't give me x's name because he does not want her finding out he is seeing another hooker, I tell him to buy her a ring and lose my email. It is really hilarious how creepy some can get even with p4p.

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the bottom line iss to have fun and also teat others as u want to be treated, gents be gents and ladies please rock my world, but at the same time we all need to be nice, theres enough shitty people in this world

Contrary to popular belief, the sex is NOT the hardest part of this job lol. Playing mommy and shrink are up there.