I am a very very very low volume, low key, drama free provider. I also happen to be African American.

I saw a client recently who had all the best intentions in the world to make me feel comfortable. Because of his over compensation I immediately knew he had never dated an African American woman. We spent half our date with me trying to tell him women are women. Outside of some hair differences, and the obvious (for me) darker skin, we are the same. He will see me again this weekend.

I am not advocating anyone to test their preferences and see a woman of color. However here are some things that may help you if you are considering seeing a woman of color:

1. Please don't ask me about the anatomy of a black man....please  

2. Do not try to make a deal with me. There is no HOOK UP.

3. No "N" word slip ups else you will be told to leave IMMEDIATELY.

4. I don't mind if you touch my hair, braids are not going to come out in your hands. However, some of my sisters do not like their hair yanked on. (hey it cost a fortune to get a good weave) Speaking of hair, we change it all the time. It can be short today and hanging down to my knees tomorrow. No one is trying to switch and bait you...look at the photos very carefully. Again, please do your homework, pay attention to our photos, look for constants...hair is a variable for EVERY WOMAN, and ask questions.

5. Don't just assume things about us based on what the media has molded many minds to think. We are very diverse and would love to be appreciated as the sexy women we all are regardless of color.

6. Please don't say you have never seen a sister bc you fear being ripped off. If you have not done your homework, read reviews, asked questions, and paid attention to details..... That is not our fault, I have never ripped anyone off....not even close. I have long term goals, I love return clients, and stealing is just wrong. It is not polite to think that my color means I am going to rip you off. Stealing is not exclusive to any race of people.

I think that is it for today.

Thank you for your time.

Allure`

I remember my first time. I had asked a girl who I'd seen before to bring her friend and to my surprise it was a very good looking black girl. Me being the polite gentleman I am I just dove right in and found out there is absolutely no difference. The only thing I've noticed is they all seam to want to do dogie. Ruff Ruff

They always want to do doggie with you because they dont want to look at your white ass

what exactly do u mean by #2?  Price haggling? What does that have to do with being a sister? Or am I missing something (probably)....?

you gotta put up with all sorts of types. But a lot of stuff you mention is just plain tacky. I can't believe guys would pull this stuff in the company of a beautiful woman who's about the f**k them.

Personally, I'm like Stephen Colbert, in the hobby I don't notice race. It's true my virginity was taken eons ago by a young, hot woman of color so I guess I was acculturated early. But really race is not a factor.

One of my favorite oldy but goodies is Marvin Gaye's "I Want You" but I've always thought the woman moaning in the background was just plain fake. But I was recently with a young, insanely hot African American provider who moaned exactly like that while I plowed her mish and doggie. Marvin would have been happy. I know I was.

Thats exactly what I thought.

Race and ethnicity are at the bottom of my list. Personality, compatibility, physical appearance, hygiene, sexual skills, and most of all she is really into what she does are all far more important than the color of her skin.  Everyone has a unique personality but I have yet been able to connect a particular type of personality to a specific race. Some black women are sweethearts and some are bitches, just like everyone else.

am a slight racist.   Nothing against black, yellow or white.  

But I don't do Green people.  Nope...Martians, etc......if you are green I ain't gettint anywhere near you!

So Kermit doesn't have to worry about me doing his lady.

No green people.  Forget it.

What kind of nob goes to see a beautiful lady and asks about other guys' dicks? Tell him if he wants to know about black dicks, he should go to the nearest gay bar and suck on one.

And, what kind of sick fuck calls a lady the "n" word during a session?

...exceedingly interested in who partakes in my service, specifically "how many white guys see you?"

Being that in two years time I can count on probably two hands how many black clients I've had in total (don't laugh but the running joke in an agency that I once worked for was "opposites attract"- the white girls had all the black clients and I had all the white clients with Asian/Eastern Indian, etc. falling somewhere in between) the guys who ask are nearly always floored when I say:

"Almost all of my clients are white"

That isn't by design, we can't help who rings the line, but some who have asked have behaved patently offended at the answer and THEY take to asking questions about how other men size up in terms of dick size and prowess.

So before we remind our non-black friends with racial hangups/ideas to mind their manners...
Lets remind EVERYONE to just mind their manners and not ask racial questions RE: business.

This is about one on one fun and save for the guys who really get off on knowing what I do with other people, I am not the least bit interested in telling anyone how they "size up" or about the color of skin of who partakes in my service.

I don't want to be perceived as a provider basher. Hopefully my post is not being taken as such.

Please understand these incidents really happened to me. It has been my experience that most hobbyists are very polite, very friendly, and we have never had an issue.

There are those who are just sooooo nervous bc of my color it gets in the way of us both having a good time.

Allure`

Remember, this hobby is also about fantasy, so many hobbyist will see providers that are of a different race/culture. I am AA, and have yet to see an AA provider (Still a newbie, less than one year), but have been able to connect with the great diversity that make up providers.

The main goal is, for me, for both parties to have a wonderful time.

Kermits lady is Miss Piggy and is not green!

I understand that this is a business of fantasy and I don't take it personally that I haven't seen many black men nor do I second think it.
I just prefer that when black men see me they don't get all militant about who else I'm spending time with (non-black) which I have encountered on several occasions.

thanks for putting this post out here on TER, Allure. though i don't agree with all of the points made (just a matter of personality differences/preferences), it should be known that many non-black hobbyists have many anxieties, stereotypes, and an odd level of curiousity when it comes to black women. quite a few obviously have had no real interaction socially with black women or perhaps black people period, and so they come into this hobby many times to realize a "taboo" and to have all of these preconceived ideas on race addressed.

i have been asked, and told:

"is your hair real" (a common belief is that all or most black women wear weaves...i do not and never have or will)

"do black men really have big dicks?"

"black women just seem so much more sensual"

"black women seem so much more aggressive" (especially hilarious as i'm about the most timid, shy and submissive girl a person could ever meet)

"you smell so sweet. i always thought black women would smell different"

and those are just a few gems, lol.

but as long as someone is respectful and courteous, i have absolutely no problem with answering any questions or addressing any concerns, no matter how silly or ignorant. at least after seeing me, these men will go out into the world a bit more informed and knowledgeable.

also one way i likely differ from many black providers, i do allow SELECT gents to enact their fantasies of racial degradation with me. i recognize it for the psychological release that it is, therefore it does not cause me any offense or discomfort. so use of the "n" word is permitted with me, under those circumstances.

a simple way to describe racial degradation would be to say that it is the "putting down" of another based solely on their racial differences. it is not anything that i "play" with, it is a very real and honest playing out of deep-seated inhibitions and prejudices that is always bubbling within a gent who has this particular interest.