I am sorry to hear you are being stalked. It is serious business, and while some will likely jump in and make light of it, it is not. There are some things I do not wish to post openly, but if you are comfortable enough to contact me via D-C (Old-T) I would be glad to talk.
I am being stalked by a violent and deranged person. Too many details to even post.
Has anyone encountered this situation? How do did you handle it?
I am sorry to hear you are being stalked. It is serious business, and while some will likely jump in and make light of it, it is not. There are some things I do not wish to post openly, but if you are comfortable enough to contact me via D-C (Old-T) I would be glad to talk.
call the police or the biggest meanest guy you know. It wont go away buy itself.
Most places have protective orders to keep people like this away from you. You can apply for one through the courts where you live and don't need a lawyer to get one. Call your local battered women's shelter or hot line and they can tell you how it is done and how to get it in your city.
That sucks. Good luck.
To obtain an Order of Protection or a No Contact Order (in my county) you must provide your stalker with your addresses (home, work, etc) so your stalker has been notified of where he/she cant go. Without that information, enforcement/prosecution of an offense is impossible as the stalker can say, "I didnt know".
Time to stalk your stalker... make it a full time job.
about the biggest guy you know
. Calling the police might not hurt either. Something has to be done to stop the creep.
The restraining order, while legal, is only a piece of paper. In the state I formally reside in, the restraining order is served to the person and then they get X amount of days to file their own version and counterfile. It is one paperwork mess but of no real protection. I have had one in my civie life and it truly was a joke. Unfortunately. Even if you call the police and tell them you have one, it typically isn't a priority to them. Hopefully you live in a place that takes them seriously.
Good luck and stay safe.....
This works both ways Miss Concerned_Provider.
A former ATF informed my wife that she "hoped your fucking husband dies". This after months of attempting to get me to come back to her(as a client).
Drugs must be expensive now i guess lol
Without any specifics though how am i to assess whether or not your serious or just attempting to soth your conscience about something you may have perpetrated?
Its a really bad feeling... But most providers have experienced this more than once. Luckily, as providers, we naturally have a lot of men around us who care and want to protect us. Tell all of the guys you are close to that you are having problems. Have them keep an eye out for you, check up on your wellbeing, etc.
I don't know what state you're in, but in Texas we like guns
Get one. Learn to use it.
Keep a log of all of his calls, texts, emails, visits to your house, etc. Set up a security camera outside of your house. Basically get evidence to be used against him if you have to file a restraining order.
All in all, its a bad deal. Im sorry this is happening and yes its an occupational hazard of what we do.
I was being stalked and harrassed both on and offline by a member of another popular adult website. This went on for two years and although I did not have the ability to move, I had to put my child in another school. I kept the site owner informed of all activity. Eventually, I was able to get a picture of the perp's plates and have an LE friend run them. By doing so, I was able to get all of the hobbyists personal information so I could file a proper restraining order. Knowing the hobbyist would print out a copy of my ad and bring it to court, I told the site owner that not only was I worried that seeing the perp in court might escalate his behavior but that by taking the matter to court it would drag the name of the adult website into a court of law - the site owner FINALLY told the deranged hobbyist to LEAVE me alone. I wasn't bluffing and it worked. I wish you all the best in this difficult situation. xo Summerrayne
and never heard from again. One might say they are serial killers but no one knows. Is this a person you have had to your location but not your home. Either way we usually find we have been followed when it's to late. Moving and starting over sometimes works which is what I did 20 years ago but it's harder to get lost these days with the computer age.
If you have info about this person do a background check on him. He has a past and if something bad is there you can use that to get the police to do their job. You know he will let them know you are an escort so your past if any might be uncomfortable for you. Don't let this stop you from getting protection and moving forward to stop this man.
Be sure you have people in the know who can follow your moves and be able to at least report you missing right away. Court orders are only good if the local police take them serious. Once the stalker is notified it might push him over the deepend. Be extra careful about who you see, where you go and screen, screen, screen. Use a body system when you go to dates or someone comes to you.
Please keep yourself safe
Kisses Haley
And I hate to say this but getting some protection may be an option. Just dont do it half heartedly. Other than that Marty has the best option. Some one that can just explain it to the guy would be very helpful. Maybe they could make him an offer he cant refuse.
I am really sorry to hear about your situation and wish you the best luck in getting rid of this person. Unfortunately, you are between a rock and a hard place. I would be reluctant, if I were a provider, to go to the police since it may put you on their radar if you divulge the details, especially if it relates to your profession. However, you may have several other options. First, I would document all encounters with this person in writing. I would suggest that you have a close friend or trusted person serve as a witness to your encounters, photos taken by this friend would not hurt either. If I were you, I would seek the help of a private detective. It will not be cheap, but you need someone on YOUR side. Find one that was a former police officer. Hire this detective to gather evidence and go to the police on your behalf. Since you are his/her client, he/she should not divulge sensitive info. to the police because of professional standards. Also, he/she can help you get a restraining order against the creep.
Next, I would purchase a firearm and learn how to use it (as another person suggested). I would keep the gun in your home and use it if the creep shows-up or breaks into your residence. Also, I would purchase some mace or defensive spray which you can use if you are out and cornered by this person. You could also hire someone to serve as a bodyguard (can't be too safe) or find a big friend to hangout with you when you are on the move.
I would also consider moving to a new place and change all contact info. Finally, if all else fails, get a really big, tough boyfriend; like MMA (mixed martial arts) fighter and have him beat the living shit out of this asshole.
Get a pit bull. They are loving gentle and loyal. I have owned several and purchased them for my daughter and two nieces when they were single. You will always be protected...and loved. Get a male. They attach themselves to women totally. Go to a pit bull rescue and just look around with an open mind. Good luck. Ps get legal advice about the potential legal consequences, if any, of conducting an illegal business with a weapon on the premises. This is not intended as legal advice.
Ps. I am a former marine, comfortable with firearms, knew my women were safer with the dogs than guns.
....paper they are written on. While he/she can be arrested for violating it, if the person in question is that psychotic, it will not stop them from causing harm. They might even look at it, as sign that you care enough about them to go through the trouble of getting one, instead of ignoring him/her.
I have been there, and I wish you all the best.
Hugs and Kisses
I had no choice but to go to the police station. I was granted an order of protection. I know it's not worth the paper it's written on.He has already broken it.
Thanks for all the advice. Love TER...when I get back on the radar in time....I will be back!
He had a references as I screened him well. Just an FYI Ter did ban him and took the matter very seriously as did 99.9% of the other places. I have yet to get a reply from the "other" board.
My mistake was and hopefully newbies can learn from it.... I drove my own car and he got the plate. Ran it and knew EVERYTHING about me!
please feel free to pm me if you have the ability - if not, maybe we can figure out another way to connect. I have helped girls on two separate occasions with similar situations.
Didnt you have to give him your address and such to obtain an order? Thats the one reason I will never seek one for my hater/stalker...you have to tell them where to stay away from and by doing so have to disclose your whereabouts. Cops/Courts cant enforce an No Contact order if the offender was never notified where he couldnt be.
I have other methods of handling such people...a much more direct approach. I dont fear...
or illegal drugs or anything else which can be tacked onto a prostitution charge.
If tis is serious, you should change your contact information or create another layer. The old one goes on ads. The new one is your "private line". And then there is your civie phone.
I'm going to differ. I think you need a lawyer AND a PI. A lawyer that works domestic cases would likely have someone he uses. Atty / Client privledges would apply though he would not need details of your work.
You should relocate your incall. You should have the best locks & alarms at your incall & residence. A couple of security cameras might not be a bad idea. The costs of these high tech items is coming down while the quality is going up. You should not use the same routes or time habitually. Never let in anyone you have not verified, check though the window on arrival & peep hole.
After the PI figures out who this stalker is, the atty sends him a letter promising further action if he persits. Sometimes stalkers back off when they loose the initiative... when the atty lets them know that he knows who they are & is willing to go to LE if necessary.
This is not going to be cheap. How much is your life worth?
Oh, yes, do not respond to anything stalker sends. BLOCK, BLOCK, BLOCK
I dont think anyone suggested she keep a firearm at her incall. She may not even have an incall. Providers, at any given time, may also be at home, in their car, etc.
No need to scare women from exercising their constitutional right to bear arms, if done responsibly, legally, and with proper training.
If tis is serious, you should change your contact information or create another layer. The old one goes on ads. The new one is your "private line". And then there is your civie phone.
I'm going to differ. I think you need a lawyer AND a PI. A lawyer that works domestic cases would likely have someone he uses. Atty / Client privledges would apply though he would not need details of your work.
You should relocate your incall. You should have the best locks & alarms at your incall & residence. A couple of security cameras might not be a bad idea. The costs of these high tech items is coming down while the quality is going up. You should not use the same routes or time habitually. Never let in anyone you have not verified, check though the window on arrival & peep hole.
After the PI figures out who this stalker is, the atty sends him a letter promising further action if he persits. Sometimes stalkers back off when they loose the initiative... when the atty lets them know that he knows who they are & is willing to go to LE if necessary.
This is not going to be cheap. How much is your life worth?
a real good pimp to do. That was keep his girls' safe.
Only from clients and other pimps. He of course, could abuse them however and whenever he chose.
It's an awful feeling to have when you're being stalked. It's not even the act but the emotional distress it causes is so painful.
I am 100% glad that you reported this monster.
Who I have never met
Who has sent my info to LE
Harassed me on boards and forums
Set up a fake twitter account on me
Sent my personal info to a site that attacks ter members
Spread rumors and gossip to members of the community
Sends me rude and sicko emails
She has managed to collect a circle of friends who also carry out her dirty work
She has posted sick comments in my blog
She is obsessed with me
What she has done to me is extreme
Just because everything she does is on the net does not mean she is any less dangerous.
She is deranged too
Who has sent my info to LE
Harassed me on boards and forums
Set up a fake twitter account on me
Sent my personal info to a site that attacks ter members
Spread rumors and gossip to members of the community
Sends me rude and sicko emails
She has managed to collect a circle of friends who also carry out her dirty work
She has posted sick comments in my blog
She is obsessed with me
What she has done to me is extreme
Just because everything she does is on the net does not mean she is any less dangerous.
She is deranged too
I ended up having to go UTR, as this guy had no life and LOTS of time to dedicate to me. So I got a new # for my regs and let them know I was going UTR. This "gentleman" wound up focusing his stupidity on a different lady in the area. Best of luck, sorry you have a loser stalking you.