I am still relatively new to the hobby but have been around enough to know that there is a huge difference in what I will refer to as the "social skills" of providers. At first, it was easy to chalk it up to immaturity but I no longer think that is true. I can hire an 18 year old in my business and have her performing the basic business functions on a proper business basis very quickly. It is not difficult to teach phone skills, office etiquette, basic business courtesies, etc. So, why does a 20-year-old provider think the proper greeting for a client is to say "hi" from across the room? Why is she wearing a sweat suit? Why is the bathroom a mess? Why is there no music? Why is the tv on? Why is she chewing gum? Get my drift? I really think it's a lack of training. Let's face it, someone brought the lady into the business. Doesn't she deserve a modicum of training (especially from an agency)? I'm not talking about sexual skills (although I'm sure they need to be taught, too).
Why can't a young lady be taught how to properly meet and greet a client? Shouldn't she know that she should be attired in something classy and alluring and what qualifies and what doesn't? A
bit of confidence in small talk to put the client at ease would be priceless. Knowing that the sheets should be neatly folded down and the bathroom should always be clean with a fresh towel available even if she's seen 8 clients that day would make her golden... and all these things would earn her tips and boost her ratings. I don't think they understand what they are lacking.
Obviously, some agencies have procedural codes. Their ladies are always dressed properly, they meet and greet easily, the bathroom is always clean, the bed is neat. It's a given (kudos to MC). Why there isn't more training and quality control I don't know but I would appreciate your thoughts.

I was not "brought" into the industry at all. In fact for me it started as a sexual contest between me and a friend. When I did decide to enter the business professionally I read as much as I could and read reviews myself to see what gentleman considered to be a quality experience.

I think it would beneficial if women who entered this industry were do a bit of research on how to be a proper hostess

I would venture to say that most civilians think that all a "women of the night" needs to be able to do is lay on her back and open her legs.
I mean there are factions of this industry where the sexual relations are held in a car or a back alley. So it shouldnt be too shocking to find that the location  some providers choose to host at is not of top quality.

This is why it's also a good idea for men to check reviews or communicate with the women in some fashion before hand to get a sense of her communication skills.

You can always ask what sort of environment she entertains in. When I had my escort site, I would always make a point to mention that I greet them in sexy lingerie not trashy lingerie (although i love (www.trashy.com), soft music would be playing, candles lit, and that the mood would be romantic. If I was doing outcall, i would dress in a conservative yet sexy dress and always greeted my clients with a warm hug.

I would suggest simply just talking to the providers and agencies and bringing them your concerns. They could get offended or they could appreciate the advice.

It was about two or three weeks ago on Escort Blogs.

Check it out.

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While I agree hygene, etc. are important, there can also be an attractive innocence to a girl who isn't trying to follow a playbook.

The one area that has really gotten my attention is table manners.  Seems like every escort that I have taken to dinner has the table manners of a goat; elbows on the table, hunched over their plate, and shoveling the food into their mouths as fast as possible. And these are escorts who advertise "dinner companion" as being one of their services.  Heaven help if I ever took one to a formal/business dinner.  

So my message here is; Indy's - if you are going to advertise going-out-to-dinner as one of your services, take some basic training in table manners.  

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!  Flame away...

There should be a website that shows a formal place setting.  Two forks on the left, knife and two spoons on the right, and a couple utensils above the plate.

The website should administer a test where you have to match each utensil to the course of the meal (salad, soup, entree, dessert, etc.).  Of course, the SP could know this and still display no etiquette, but it is at least a start.

I wonder if there is a correlation (or inverse relationship) between the knowledge of table manners and BJ skills.  

If you can't have both, then I'm for having a few bitches who eat with their hands but are all-world dick suckers.   LOL.

“……..Why there isn't more training and quality control…….”  

There actually is and hobbyists can help encourage that by using the power of their dollar. Using TER review’s to point out concerns with behavior and business practices (*ie: drug use, neighborhood, lack of privacy, ramifications to your personal life before & after appointment , etc etc*) would help other hobbyists distinguish the justified donations for established providers verse the newer less experienced ladies in the biz for a quick buck.

Just my thoughts...… but as one very well known madam once said upon an initial meeting with her...… Anyone can sux a dick it takes a professional to arrange to do it and leave with no questions asked and nothing damaging to the gentleman afterwards.

Another reason why I try to encourage hobbyists to:
Know your provider (*and her reputation*)
Kisses  ~Tori

Unfortunately since being a SP in our culture is illegal it attracts many otherwise "unemployable" women who possess little more than the requirement of gender.

A woman with poise, education, hygiene, business sense and social grace will naturally prosper in the “Biz”. The others thanks to the high exchange rate will none the less muttle on through.  


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Face it... kids grow up watching reality programming as a substitute for family life. Behavioral training, otherwise known as social skill, is so bad that large corporations have remedial social skill classes. Really rich kids go to etiquette camps held in french chateaux. Middling rich kids go to etiquette classes where they teach them not to drink soup out of the bowl, eat peas with their knives, or elbow their neighbors while reaching across the table for the breadstix. Obviously the rich, the successful, or the soon to be rich and successful have gotten the message loud and clear... heck, my ATF turned girlfriend turned lifetime soulmate was raised with a strong european emphasis on appropriate public behavior... I have to be on my toes to meet her standards when dining out.. and she has wildly horrid tales of "gentlemen" who would take her out on dinner dates... especially of the Hollywood Producer of Film and Television subspecies, deranged egomanic cheapskates who would go to some tacky Italian place and pretend it was a grand ocassion while guzzling bottle after bottle of Valpolicella and gnawing on a veal chop... it was so romantic.

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Hmmm...I'm not sure "training" will cut it.  I believe it comes from upbringing...I mean if a girl, regardless of her age was raised in say...a trailer park...well...you know what to expect!!  Some have NO clue...some DO!  Some of us were raised to always have manners, cleanliness and class...at all times!  Sheesh! Even if one is "trained" will it really seem natural.  It's like training a dog to be a cat!  It never turns out quite right!  People either have a social clue OR they are socially retarded!  One should be able to spot the difference.

it's not college or prep school it's learning how to be polite just basic upbringing. Thank you, your welcome, I'm sorry, smile just the basics is all it takes.

I think this has less to do with "Provider Training" and more to do with "Life Training".  

First, when a gentleman is communicating with a basement bargain provider over email and she is emailing like a 15 year old with MySpace page, chances are she's not going to be a fantastic dinner companion or the type of woman to bring to the company holiday party.  Likely, she's not necessarily sophisticated or a gracious host.  However, she might be hot and great in bed.  

It all boils down to using your head.  If class, intelligence and sophistication are important to you, it's time to look past the T&A and pay attention to more than the pretty pictures.  It drives me insane to see/hear complaints and bad reviews about providers whose less-than-charming personality and lack of prfessionalism is evident in her website and board postings.  

Point being, there are very simple ways to avoid the type of people you don't want to spend your time with or your money on.  

Best,

Kate

yes your 100% right on that,, many girls  out there dont have any type of training what so ever , most agency dont invest time or funds into the girls when it comes to training couse many of the girl wont be aruond 2 weeks later, the  most girls are very unrelaible-dishonest & very good liers &  agencys have noticed most clients just want a young  beautifull girl givng them a ( fast happy ending ) thats it & most will be satisfied......

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Are we just on semester break ?

Thank You

Happy New Year

I was made aware of a new performance called “ZUMANITY” that is presently being performed in Vegas. I would love to see the performance but I am concerned that my manners might be an embarassement to a few of the pratrons in the crowd. (*I normally have no problem being out in public and haven’t had any complaints as of recent*)…..however, a few years back, when I was 8 years old, I was directed by an usher at a similar event to quiet down. It wasn’t exactly Zumanity, it was actually when I very first visited the Chapel in Vatican City for the first time. I just couldn’t see to stop whispering. I was never actually asked to leave and I wasn’t really noticed by other visitors,  but I remember being shhhhhh’ed. So... you can understand my concerns with embarrassing myself and those around me....… After the shhhhh-ing incident

After glancing over your offer, I was reminded of “THAT shhhhing incident”. I think I better take you up on that offer of a class or two of social graces....… Let me know your schedule and I’ll be sure to arrange my travel and my plans accordingly. At present, my first two weekends in January have some flexibility so either one would work for me.

I really think you should have class on location, right there in the theater built for Zumanity so you may need to plan a little travel time in connection to the classes (*I should be ok with my behavior on the plane as I travel often, so I can probably just take notes while I am en route to our location and we can compare my notes and you could comment on what I observed once I arrive at our tutoring site*)...… You might want to brush me up on Casino graces as well as table manners too, so go ahead and plan an evening or two of hanging out in and around the larger casinos, possibly one or two dinners and of course those boutique shops, I never know how to behave in those places! That way, you will have ample environment to observe my behavior in different situations and assist me with any recommendations you might have for improved mannerisms.

Oh and one more area that I am really challenged in, that whole SPA place. You might need to plan me at least 3 or 4 visits their as I have really been challenged in those type places.

You can just send the itinerary to my email account once you have it finalized and I’ll be sure to get to the Airport with at least an hour to spare as I would hate to miss this opportunity to improve on my social graces.

Thanks again for volunteering your services. I’m looking forward to the class and your instruction…..  Kisses ~Tori

Not rocket science to do the basics at $40.  Taking the sex from the blow up doll level or the "I better get my rocks off quick cause she gets on my nerves level" is what is being discussed here.

Of course, you could always pay $200 for $40 worth of sex on the principle that it isn't rocket science.