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Re: Great idea!
Believe it was just a youth temporary infatuation. In the begin she also truly believe she is in love and maybe was but afterwards when it is gone... she is not getting money from you and cannot "earn" them elsewhere, because she committed to you. So she finds out that story easily back out still innocent and with a good girl image in your eyes.
She can't tell you straight to your eyes - hey baby i got bored with you and wish you start paying me again if not sorry i have to go... She afraid the same questions "so what was that... you lied to me all that time this doesn't mean nothing and bla bla bla shit....
P.S she showed you to her parents so they now know from where those expensive gifts money and ability to pay for studies... good alibi for now and for a future..... what can i say... clever student
Warning: This will be quite a long story. I'll try to trim it down as much as possible, but if you have some time while you sip your morning coffee, feel free to read on. I would love to hear your thoughts, advice, encouragement, or whatever.
First off, let me just start by saying I have no idea why I'm posting this here. I guess it's because no one knew the true details of how our relationship started, and given the nature of this community - it's probably the only place I feel comfortable venting, letting off steam, and divulging most of the details. I won't give all the details since I'm a little paranoid this will somehow find its way into the wrong hands. I'm not a regular poster on these boards but I just came up with the idea of posting this here, as weird as that sounds. Let me also say that this girl is NOT an escort, and I did not see any escorts while with her. I was 100% faithful. Anyways, here goes.
Over this past summer, I started posting ads on craigslist looking for a "sugar daddy" type of relationship. I was looking to have casual fun with no strings attached - but given my young age (I'm just gonna say 28, +/- a few years for security reasons), it was highly unusual. At that time, I had been single for about a year, coming off a 5 year relationship. It was after that 5 year relationship that I started seeing escorts to (1) feed my sexual needs and (2) temporarily fill some sort of lonely hole in me. I had heard about these sugar daddy relationships somewhere online and thought I'd explore it and see where it went. One thing led to another and I was fully involved in this scene.. I saw a few girls, and it was ok. I was having a good, although expensive, time. However, I still felt lonely.
I signed up for an online dating site, and to my delight, I was messaged by a cute girl. As soon as we started dating, I called things off with the "sugar babies" I had seen. We went on two dates. I thought things had been progressing well, but things pretty much ended after the 2nd date. I went back to craigslist to post another sugar daddy ad. My heart wanted a real relationship, as I was still lonely, but I decided this would make do until I found another girl to date. I'm not gonna lie... some weird part of me wondered if I could actually find a girlfriend this way, as highly unusual and unlikely as that would be.
Eventually, another cute girl responded to my sugar daddy ad. Let's just call her Mary. She liked what was posted in my ad. I seemed down to earth, normal, and I offered friendship as well. I guess that was my lonely side speaking. This girl was young, a college student, and she needed help with tuition. She had never done anything like this before, and decided to explore it because she learned about it from a friend and was desperate for financial help. She actually did want someone normal and who could be a friend, not just someone who was "all about sex", as she said. Although I admit I just wanted sex at that time, not knowing a relationship was possible, I played along.
We actually texted for quite a while before meeting up. And we would text almost non-stop, like a new couple. We were hitting it off really well. The very first time we met up, we simply hung out, kissed, and cuddled. It was a little unusual for her, doing that with someone who she hadn't even been on a date with yet, but she was okay with it. After that, we would continue to talk, and the subject of sex was brought up. I didn't want to push her into it, as I was really starting to kinda like this girl, but I was wondering when our "arrangement" would go into effect. One day, we talked about having sex that week, but she was still unsure. I got a little frustrated and said "forget it, we're not doing it tonight. You don't seem ready." I picked her up from a party later that night, and brought her to my place just to hang out for a bit. She ended up choosing to have sex with me, and it was pretty magical.
It's that night that she says she realized she loved me, and it scared her. Fast forward about a month later. Our relationship was really growing, but we were still technically in an arrangement, although we were friends. She told me she loved me. I asked her to be with me as my girlfriend, and she was hesitant. She was afraid of the label due to a bad experience with her ex boyfriend. That should have been a red flag. I didn't understand, as she just told me she loved me. After a little bit of talking and meeting face to face, she got over her hesitancy and agreed to be my girlfriend.
Things were going very well. Money wasn't an issue anymore, as after I had given her enough to help cover her semesters tuition, she said I could stop the arrangement part of our relationship. We were seemingly extremely happy together. However, there were some red flags... she would get upset at random things sometimes that reminded her of her ex. I decided to overlook these things, and hope that with time, it would pass. Fast forward a little more, and she starts telling me that her ex is beginning to drunk text her, trying to win her back. She promises me she won't respond to him and will ignore it.
The texts don't stop however, and eventually, she tells me she may still be in love with her ex and that she needs to break up with me to sort things out, as it wouldn't be fair to be with me if she's not 100% committed. I fight for her for a while, but eventually she realizes that she's really still in love with her ex, and that I can't wait for her anymore. So here I am, writing this story of how we met. I don't really know why, to be honest, as this last part has no relation whatsoever to TER, but whatever. We talked things out, and we're still on good terms. Even though I know I have to move on, part of me will always want to be with her. We were incredibly happy together. She's very sorry about what happened, and never intended for a relationship to start out of this, but she did love me, and always will care for me. However, because of her ex, she was never truly IN LOVE with me. She also says she could definitely see herself back with me if things don't work out with her ex, and that the potential to be IN LOVE with me, hypothetically, exists if things don't work out with her ex. We remain friends, and even hang out still once in a while. I do still love her though... and I hope her relationship fails so that one day we might end up back together again. However, I have no regrets and wouldn't change a thing. I guess the moral of the story is... crazy shit like this actually does happen.
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First off, let me just start by saying I have no idea why I'm posting this here. I guess it's because no one knew the true details of how our relationship started, and given the nature of this community - it's probably the only place I feel comfortable venting, letting off steam, and divulging most of the details. I won't give all the details since I'm a little paranoid this will somehow find its way into the wrong hands. I'm not a regular poster on these boards but I just came up with the idea of posting this here, as weird as that sounds. Let me also say that this girl is NOT an escort, and I did not see any escorts while with her. I was 100% faithful. Anyways, here goes.
Over this past summer, I started posting ads on craigslist looking for a "sugar daddy" type of relationship. I was looking to have casual fun with no strings attached - but given my young age (I'm just gonna say 28, +/- a few years for security reasons), it was highly unusual. At that time, I had been single for about a year, coming off a 5 year relationship. It was after that 5 year relationship that I started seeing escorts to (1) feed my sexual needs and (2) temporarily fill some sort of lonely hole in me. I had heard about these sugar daddy relationships somewhere online and thought I'd explore it and see where it went. One thing led to another and I was fully involved in this scene.. I saw a few girls, and it was ok. I was having a good, although expensive, time. However, I still felt lonely.
I signed up for an online dating site, and to my delight, I was messaged by a cute girl. As soon as we started dating, I called things off with the "sugar babies" I had seen. We went on two dates. I thought things had been progressing well, but things pretty much ended after the 2nd date. I went back to craigslist to post another sugar daddy ad. My heart wanted a real relationship, as I was still lonely, but I decided this would make do until I found another girl to date. I'm not gonna lie... some weird part of me wondered if I could actually find a girlfriend this way, as highly unusual and unlikely as that would be.
Eventually, another cute girl responded to my sugar daddy ad. Let's just call her Mary. She liked what was posted in my ad. I seemed down to earth, normal, and I offered friendship as well. I guess that was my lonely side speaking. This girl was young, a college student, and she needed help with tuition. She had never done anything like this before, and decided to explore it because she learned about it from a friend and was desperate for financial help. She actually did want someone normal and who could be a friend, not just someone who was "all about sex", as she said. Although I admit I just wanted sex at that time, not knowing a relationship was possible, I played along.
We actually texted for quite a while before meeting up. And we would text almost non-stop, like a new couple. We were hitting it off really well. The very first time we met up, we simply hung out, kissed, and cuddled. It was a little unusual for her, doing that with someone who she hadn't even been on a date with yet, but she was okay with it. After that, we would continue to talk, and the subject of sex was brought up. I didn't want to push her into it, as I was really starting to kinda like this girl, but I was wondering when our "arrangement" would go into effect. One day, we talked about having sex that week, but she was still unsure. I got a little frustrated and said "forget it, we're not doing it tonight. You don't seem ready." I picked her up from a party later that night, and brought her to my place just to hang out for a bit. She ended up choosing to have sex with me, and it was pretty magical.
It's that night that she says she realized she loved me, and it scared her. Fast forward about a month later. Our relationship was really growing, but we were still technically in an arrangement, although we were friends. She told me she loved me. I asked her to be with me as my girlfriend, and she was hesitant. She was afraid of the label due to a bad experience with her ex boyfriend. That should have been a red flag. I didn't understand, as she just told me she loved me. After a little bit of talking and meeting face to face, she got over her hesitancy and agreed to be my girlfriend.
Things were going very well. Money wasn't an issue anymore, as after I had given her enough to help cover her semesters tuition, she said I could stop the arrangement part of our relationship. We were seemingly extremely happy together. However, there were some red flags... she would get upset at random things sometimes that reminded her of her ex. I decided to overlook these things, and hope that with time, it would pass. Fast forward a little more, and she starts telling me that her ex is beginning to drunk text her, trying to win her back. She promises me she won't respond to him and will ignore it.
The texts don't stop however, and eventually, she tells me she may still be in love with her ex and that she needs to break up with me to sort things out, as it wouldn't be fair to be with me if she's not 100% committed. I fight for her for a while, but eventually she realizes that she's really still in love with her ex, and that I can't wait for her anymore. So here I am, writing this story of how we met. I don't really know why, to be honest, as this last part has no relation whatsoever to TER, but whatever. We talked things out, and we're still on good terms. Even though I know I have to move on, part of me will always want to be with her. We were incredibly happy together. She's very sorry about what happened, and never intended for a relationship to start out of this, but she did love me, and always will care for me. However, because of her ex, she was never truly IN LOVE with me. She also says she could definitely see herself back with me if things don't work out with her ex, and that the potential to be IN LOVE with me, hypothetically, exists if things don't work out with her ex. We remain friends, and even hang out still once in a while. I do still love her though... and I hope her relationship fails so that one day we might end up back together again. However, I have no regrets and wouldn't change a thing. I guess the moral of the story is... crazy shit like this actually does happen.
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