I have this incredible desire to be taken hard and rough, have my clothes ripped off, and to be tied up, and taken in every hole, is this a strange fantasy?
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sasha

I think it's one of the most common female fantasies... and one of my all time favorites... oh the things I think about!!!!!! I do however, like to live my fantasies out, whenever I can do so safely!

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Nicole

I started writing about this stuff when I was a teenager ( for my eyez only). In my fantasies ( as well as my stories) I am a voyeur watching it happen. For me fantasy and reality are very different from one another. There's a post above of a 2 guy Menage a trois. I have also had fantasies of this ( both myself or watching others), but in reality, especially through this business, I would never entertain the idea. I am afraid the kind of guys who are into rape or gang banging would be the kind of guys that are in my fantasy...and they are not nice Now I'm revealing how twisted my mind is LOL!!!

Obviously you're not condoning actual rape--but I'm courting a somewhat-shy gal here in town and am taking my time about it in order to be respectful, etc. Or does she actually want me to rip her clothes off?

I would NOT recommend pulling this particular trick out of your hat for someone you don't know very well, who seems shy, and is probably not quite as at home with her sexuality as someone like ME, is!  Baaaaaaaaaad idea! No no no... noooooooo.  There are ways that this can be experienced that are consensual and safe, but it takes lots of planning.  Most of the time though, rape fantasy is just that, *fantasy* only, and of course our fantasies are nothing like what actually happens when some poor girl is actually raped!  Once you get to know her much better, a little rough sex can be fun, but play it by ear and make SURE she feels comfy!

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Nicole

Rape is a horrific violent attack on a woman and saying you fantasize about being raped makes as much sense as saying you fantasize about being mugged.   I think you fantasy is about passion and dominance but please let's keep the word "rape" out of it.  Some men would see that as an invitation to hurt you.

And I KNOW no woman really fanstasizes about being raped unless she is mentally ill.


Being passionately ravished is not the same as rape.

Talisa there's an ongoing debate about this within the BDSM world because soooooooo many women do indeed have this fantasy. But of course in their fantasy they LIKE it, thus it is *consensual*, thus it is not in fact *rape.*  But I think most people are well aware that there is a huge difference between having a rape fantasy and real rape, because it is impossible to want to be really raped by definition (ie: if you want it, it's NEVER rape).  So I think most intelligent adults who are not psychotic or insanely stupid do know the difference... but I thank you for bringing up the point for the sake of clarity!

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Nicole

they can see this an invitation for rape.   Its not rape when its consensual.  Its simply passionate sex.  Why does the word "rape" have to be attached to it?  I have _never_ fantasized about being raped.  I _have_ fantasized about Brad Pitt pusing me up against wall like he did Gena Davis in Thelma and Louise and ravishing me and making love to me in a hot passionate way that made me climax over and over.  But rape?
NO WAY!   Just wanted to make the difference clear and ask if we could eliminate the word "rape"?  I am sure anyone who has ever been the  victim of a rape would be too.

Actually... you know I am an adult webmaster and for a long time I refused to put links up to sites that run rape fantasy type websites, for the very reason you state. I did have a very long interesting convo with someone one day tho (actually a few someones) who basically pointed out to me that most forms of pornography are a form of *release* vs a form of building up to go ACT on a fantasy or desire. The arguement you are using has been used against every form of pornography out there, and I am not here with stats and figures to tell you which are correct or whatever, but basically...

If someone is a psycho, I'd worry about 'em regardless of if they ever hear the term rape fantasy or not... I don't really think it would make a difference if someone was about to kill me, that they'd ever heard that term or not... that's my bottom line!

And btw I have rape fantasies all the time, and yes I HAVE been raped, many years ago, most women have I believe... *different than you* does not mean *wrong* altho it can mean *wrong for you.*  


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Nicole

I have a wide variety of sexual fantasies.  Of course an early one was to physically capture a beautiful woman and "ravish" her. In the real world it must be consensual and a couple of girl friends along the way had the equal and opposite fantasy.  We did it. (Today I think it is called role play- with the specialty being "play rape".  Yes, rape has a nasty connotation- maybe it should be called "sensual ravishing" .....)Ok the scene was similar with each woman, but refined each time. We planned the scene. I roughly (not very) wrestled her to the bed and tied her spread eagle and sexually teased her and tormented her. I mean DATY, feather treatment, nibble the nipples, ice cubes, blindfold, running my cock over her mouth, vibrator to her clit.  When she was shaking all over in that plateau of arosal, I would just keep her there longer... finally I grabbed her hips and ass and initiated a very hot missionary.  We both enjoyed it but it never quite fullfilled the fantasy.  The mind is of course the best sex organ.
My latest is being taken/kidnapped by a beautiful woman who puts ME in inescapable bondage and proceeds to sexually torment me in every conceivable way-much BDSM experimenting- concluding with cowgirl.  I have done this several times over the last 3 years with my SO and providers.  It is very powerful and is an incredible physical and mind fuck.  It gets better everytime and my fantasy gets reshaped and then played out.
I would love to hear from providers who specialize in either or both of these kinds of role play in the SF area. Important would be that you truely enjoy these scenes.

I'll hafta visit San Fran sometime!
Isn't the Folsom Street Fair out there??? I'd LOVE to go to that finally!
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Nicole

SF is a hotbed for the wild sex experiences.  Folsom Street Fair and The Exotic Erotic Ball among many other kinky places events and people.