Ran into a gal I’ve seen several times at the local big box hardware store last weekend. Well sort of I saw her get out of her car which is a distinct vehicle that I’ve seen at her incall so I know it was her immediately. Then as fate would have it she ended up in front of me in the self checkout line. I was alone so no need to worry about my SO or anything but for the folks who don’t have much common sense here I want to relay how I handled the situation.
I did absolutely nothing!!! I stood in line and did all the shit I normally do look at the impulse buy shit and minded my own business, if she had turned around she would have recognized me we’ve met several times. Maybe she did see me, she seems to be a smart gal so acted just like I who consider myself a smart person did act normally and didn’t approach as neither of us would know who may be watching or whatever I just wanted to relay this story because I’ve seen it asked here how to handle this. So now ya know, lol
Of course there are exceptions to this, as I saw a close friend in a restaurant once and she was on a p4p date lol. I waited till she went to the bathroom and said hello, and she reacted with a laugh and big hug BUT...I knew her situation, her personality and knew what her reaction would be beforehand. That is DEF NOT the advice I would give to others. That was a very special relationship of a girl I knew very well over many years. . More to your point, there is a well known provider that I see often at the gym. I do not make any fuss over her at all when we see each other bc I don't know her that well. She smiles and says hi when we walk by each other and that is the extent of it. If she wanted to chit chat in the gym, she would initiate it. She does not so I do not. Boundaries need to be respected. . Good post!
I think a lot of mongers tend to believe that they have "very special relationship" with a provider. As such, they might take your advice to mean that they are "special" and therefore can approach a provider out in the wild.
In general, I agree that case's approach is the best. Treat them as you would any other stranger in the hardware store, gym, apartment complex, etc.
There really isn't any "one size fits all" approach. The truth is, some special relationships do exist in this lifestyle but they are rare, imo. My advice is, unless you are 100% sure of her reaction, as I was in that particular case, don't do it. I think anyone who does it based on my one and only time I did it, was going to do it anyway but I understand your concern as it's a valid point.
I think a lot of mongers tend to believe that they have "very special relationship" with a provider.
To be fair, fooling us into believing that is part of the GFE service. At least for the really really good ones.
The problem is the guys who can't treat it like a magic show: you were fooled, you enjoyed being fooled, it was great fun, but now the show's over. The woman in the box didn't really get cut in half, so please don't call an ambulance. Come back some other time and enjoy being fooled again.
And yeah, only acceptable behavior in pubilc is to treat her like anybody else you've never met before.
I saw her at least 5 times. Very large complex. I saw her several times by the pool. Usually hanging out with several guys. She seemed very popular. I always wondered if they knew. She'd look my way, smile and do a discrete wave. But we never chatted.
I agree that your behavior -- do nothing -- was the correct thing to do. . On the other hand, did you take notice of her purchase? I mean, the next time you meet with her (BCD), instead of bringing flowers or chocolate or jewelry, you can bring her an extra lithium battery or attachment for the brand of cordless tool she bought or a package of filters for the wet vac or ... whatever.
Posted By: case321
Ran into a gal I’ve seen several times at the local big box hardware store last weekend. Well sort of I saw her get out of her car which is a distinct vehicle that I’ve seen at her incall so I know it was her immediately. Then as fate would have it she ended up in front of me in the self checkout line. I was alone so no need to worry about my SO or anything but for the folks who don’t have much common sense here I want to relay how I handled the situation.
I did absolutely nothing!!! I stood in line and did all the shit I normally do look at the impulse buy shit and minded my own business, if she had turned around she would have recognized me we’ve met several times. Maybe she did see me, she seems to be a smart gal so acted just like I who consider myself a smart person did act normally and didn’t approach as neither of us would know who may be watching or whatever I just wanted to relay this story because I’ve seen it asked here how to handle this. So now ya know, lol
I've posted about when I lived in an apartment complex where I'd get home late at night and different cars would be parked in my parking space. I complained to management and it turns out that a girls were using one of the units as their incall (trick pad). They did not live there. It was their workplace. I saw them a couple of times (not bad looking but not head turners) coming and going but it was before I entered the TER world and I never approached them about their services. ... As I posted, there was plenty of short term(*) on-street parking for visitors and they should have told their visitors to park on the street and not to take reserved parking spaces. . (*) I don't want to worry about street cleaning or other problem in the morning. The visitors would be gone long before that would be an issue. I.e., it was a real inconvenience for me when I did not want to have to move my car around at 7 AM or 10 AM after getting home late and dead tired.
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Good job as far as it relates to you and this specific provider. However I would say every situation can end up quite differently based on your relationship with the provider. Recently, I ran into one of my long-term companions at a beach bar and as soon as she recognized me she got up and gave me a hug. She proceeded to introduce me to her girlfriend who was with her and we chatted a bit before I returned to my table where my SO was. No issues when I told my SO she was a contractor from work.
On one occasion I ran into a provider on the street, someone with whom I had been. She was with a couple of guys, walking down Seventh Avenue. the street. We waved in recognition but nothing more.
I was about to say an exception would be if she initiates the contact, normally true, but I did have one occasion when I was with a SO and a provider with whom I had been several times came runing up and tried to start a conversation. Very awkward and I got away with it by telling my SO that she was just someone I had met at work but a close call and very awkward.
Seriously, something like this gets posted every time a monger sees a hooker in the wild. Does everyone need a "hero" badge for being a normal person and not calling attention to the chick you paid for pussy?
I think of such posts as helpful reminders to Newbies not to go nuts if they see a Provider they know "in the wild" (I like that description). It's two-fold: (1) don't get excited and do something crazy to out her (2) do not get excited with worry that she is going to out you. . I also like the opportunity to remind hostesses to tell their incall visitors not to park in reserved parking spaces and to tell them where to park in a safe, legal, nearby place.
Posted By: gtfo
Re: Everyone wants a medal Seriously, something like this gets posted every time a monger sees a hooker in the wild. Does everyone need a "hero" badge for being a normal person and not calling attention to the chick you paid for pussy?
I see a client who booked me one time at the gym regularly and pretend not to notice unless he chooses to come up and say something! Hope he doesn’t take offense by it but I’d rather play by the rules and be known for my ability to maintain discretion. If he hasn’t said anything out of respect for me, all good because most of the time I’m not wearing makeup or fond of conversing while sweaty lol.
The first former provider I ran into at her civvie place of work (unbeknownst to me). She retired about six months prior and we had been together about 10 times. She stopped what she was doing, stepped over and gave me a nice hug. We chatted a bit and that was it.
The second, I saw her at her new civvie place of work. She had retired at least 5 years prior. I probably saw her 20-30 times when she was active. We exchanged birthday and holiday greetings via email over the years but never met in person as friends. I emailed that I had seen her and wanted to make sure she was comfortable with me patronizing the business location. She was fine with it. We ended up meeting a short time later to catch up and have remained friends.
I ran into (almost literally) the active provider at a grocery store. We were both surprised, but by the look in her eye, I knew she wasn't startled or concerned. After I left the store, I quickly texted her and we met in the parking lot to share the moment.
Years ago, I was a regular of a lady in the DC area. She told me once that she decided to use her real first name as her escort nom de plume. Her rationale was that she didn't want to be out in public with a family member or friend and have a client come up to her and say something like "Hi, Daphne!" when her real name was something like "Catherine". Interesting approach that was probably a good idea.
I would expect a token of appreciation if someone was to address me in public it’s unwarranted. What is already understood does not need to be explained. Any respectful person would not engage with a provider in public unless you’re on a booked date. If you spoke to me in front of anyone it’s disrespectful, unless we are real life friends & I do have a handful I know their first and last names because we’re friends.
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