Like a couple of posts down where ATFs may know a lot about clients ... sometimes clients want to know a lot about their favorite ladies.

Unless I know a girl VERY well. Then at that point we are friends and friends share those sort of things.

The safest johns to trust with your personal information are the ones who will never ask for it.

the fantasy.......IMHO.  We all have our own likes/dislikes.  Some of us will rave about a spinner while others will choose someone with a bit more meat on her bones.........etc., etc.

I never asked a provider for her name usually they tell me when I see them on the 2nd 4th or 7th date when I'm still calling them Sally Daisy or anything else they will say call me Karen. If it's a fake name I could care less that's what you want me to call you that's what I'll call you.  I'm not miffed as you put it if the provider tells me nothing. I know every client provider relationship is different.  I would also like to say I think I'm smart enough to know that a lot of the woman in this world are single mothers.  

As it helps with the fantasy, or they feel it makes them "special" or any other such nonsense.

hopefully you don't need his business enough so you can dump him. The only explanation that you might want to give for not  disclosing info is: "Well here on planet Earth there are good reasons in the Hobby not to share, and I'm sure that after you have spent a bit more time here you will understand."

We've had this conversation several times as I know virtually EVERYTHING about her. She told me once that the reason she felt she could confide so much in me was not because I would "guard" it, but that because I was like most shallow pigs and I wouldn't even remember a word she said by the next day, much less have any desire to repeat it. lol

Its why I tell you so much. LOL

See, the problem is that I do have genuine fun and it shows. I enjoy sex and am nice. Many (probably most) feel chemistry with me, and I like them but I also love variety.  

Yes, I look at it as no matter how good our chemistry is, not hearing my working name in family court trumps all.  

I'm so bad with names, that I can't remember your stage name. If you told me your real name, I'd forget it within 10 minutes.

Hobbyists and hookers  shouldn't be talking about others hobbyists and hookers..Running mouth tricky stituation

Sounds about right...

I love most of the women I've seen, meaning I love the actress. I may not like the real person. Why ruin a good thing?

So I know a lot about my ATF, just not specifics.  For instance, I know which town she lives in, but not her street address.  I know that one of her brothers shares a birthday with me, and that her family knows what she does, but I don't know any of their names, nor have I seen any pictures of them.  She tells me a lot of hilarious stories about other clients, but I don't know who these clients are, or when the incidents happened.  She knows more about me than I do about her, and that's perfectly OK...she'll share stuff with me when she's comfortable doing so, and that's the way I like it.

I might ask, "what kind activities do you participate in", or "have you traveled anywhere good". Generic stuff which could jumpstart a good conversation.  

Non invasive, funny, adorable and Fido is no worse for the wear.

Do you just tell him or is it by implication?

If someone wants to know my name, or starts bragging about all of the ladies' who's names he knows, I will most likely cut him off completely.  

...but only after you know each other well.  I don't ever ask for personal info, even if we've become friends.  I have nothing to hide and tell them about my life but if she doesn't want to share, that's fine with me.  They usually do but I don't expect it nor do I pressure them for it.

..but I rarely ask and when I do I offer some of my own first.

...you expect her to share that info once you become friends.  What if she doesn't "delve into that area" when you become friends?  Will you be butt hurt and stop seeing her?

And that's to be expected. So it doesn't bother me at all. But usually if I see them on a few other occasion then they'll eventually get into that comfort zone with me and spill their beans. But I always leave it up to them. And they know my real name, not this hpygolky fellow.

So there are some guys who just want to feel special or feel entitled to your personal info. Then there are guys that you spend a lot of time with so eventually, you have to talk about something. The real problem comes in when these guys you spend a lot of time with start thinking lovey dovey thoughts. I had a client stalk me once and I had another client who actually asked me for my legal name. I obviously did not tell him but it can be a precarious situation. You want to cultivate a good relationship with good clients but you also have to protect yourself.

...or the short one? LOL

I'd rather keep things professional.  

and thus no need to ask.

To some, if they met one time they are friends. I am talking about meeting a woman 20, 30 or 50 times over years.

discretion, privacy, or that this game is "fantasy."

Just knowing what makes us feel good for an hour

for whatever reason, they keep sharing far more information about themselves personally than I want to know.  I do my best to forget it.  I am not paying Suzie Q Homemaker those benjamins - I am paying Suzanne De La Cruxe ... or whatever.  I REALLY don't want to become part of their drama pr homelife.  This is SUPPOSED to be fantasy - and I get to go home after - NSA.  This is what the benjies are for..

Just because I'm selfish, the more you want/need to know about me, the more I expect to learn about you in return.  But really, I don't feel the need to go digging through your purse, figuratively speaking, any more than you feel the need to go digging through my stuff.