Do "erectile dysfunction" drugs only work if the problem is physical ?  I have great difficulty in becoming aroused by my wife.  However, the problem is mental as I otherwise have no difficulties.  Would a Viagra-type drug help in this instance ---  I can become aroused for short periods of time and am hoping that in combination with something like Viagra I can perform with my wife ?

Thanks

Your doctor will have viagra six packs for free trial. Why don't you get one and see for your self

A good sustainable erection depends on a combination of factors: psychological, endocrine, vascular, neurological.  Any one of these can fail and prevent a satisfactory erection. It sounds like your are having trouble because of a combination of factors.  When the psychological stimulus is too weak, the rest doesn't work.  It's not like the old days when a glimpse of (dare I date myself) Jane Russell's tummy through a "racy" bathing suit would make my little pre teen penis jump for joy.  It is hard to say if one of these medications will work for you, but a boost of the arterial responsiveness to stimulation may really help.  A trial is the only way to tell for sure.  Do see a physician since these medications are no joke.  

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I don't think ed drugs are aphrodisiacs. That sounds like what you might need.

Will a little pharm help make the difference?  Hard to say...  with or without...  I humbly suggest you try to get your focus.  

First off, keep your hands off for a few days...  Mr P learns quickly to respond to intense direct stim so nuances of intercourse are missed.

Clear your mind.
Get away from distractions, noises, sights, sounds... so you can focus.  It is possible (do as I say, not as I do) to get so into her pleasure that you lose focus on your own.  One night be the "giver" & focus on her.  Next time, be the "taker" & focus on yourself.

Don't be so "performace minded"...  anything sexual IS sex.  Just enjoy all the feelings.  Your partner must be non-judgemental as it doesn't take much to break through the focus & spoil the mood.
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ED drugs enlarge the blood vessels and make it easier to achieve and maintain an erection. They do not GIVE you an erection, they simply make it easier. They can't do anything about the mental aspect of your relationship. I have used Viagra for two years with good results at home and amazing results with escorts.  Some nights at home, if I'm really just not into it, the little blue pill is a complete waste of money.

Thanks for your suggestion.  

We usually start off with me going down on her and there is no problem in that regard.  The problem is that when I am able to get an erection I cannot climax.  And we are trying to get pregnant (I really do want another child).  

I definitely do need to get my focus (pull some Jedi mind trick on myself).

Thanks again.

There is no question that everyone is right in saying that Viagra is not an aphrodisiac, but consider this: Mental factors stimulate sensors which lead to dilatation of arteries which leads to erection.  The stronger the stimulation the surer the response.  Your feelings (like all of ours) must be complicated not only because the lady is your wife but because you are trying to conceive,  This is not simple emotionally no matter how much you want another child. That is one reason why a provider, a new lady who is also an expert professional, is more quickly stimulating than the lady you love with whom you are trying to have another child. So the stimulation is not as strong as with a provider.  Here's where the meds might help: Viagra, Cialis, Levitra make your arteries more responsive to stimulation.  A less strong stimulation MAY then work on the vessels.  I am not sure this will help you, but it is worth a try if you want.  Obviously, the mental exercises, avoidance until really horny, etc can work.  Another thing that works is to cuddle and caress your wife while refraining from the final act no matter how excited you get for a week or so. Most of us have had similar experiences, but things generally work out. Good luck.  

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