I had my first experience in the hobby last night and it was incredible.
However, there were definitely times when I felt some of the complimentary things the lady said about me were verging on, how should I say, insincere.
I'd love to hear from both the ladies and the guys on this one:
To providers: I know it's a fine line you walk. How do you decide how vocal, or not, to be with a client? Is it a matter of reading the situation, or do you find you act consistently from one guy to another? Are there certain things you always say?
To hobbyists: Does it bother you when you think someone is being overly complimentary? Does it remind you that she is providing a service or is it easy to lose yourself in the moment?
Or is it just me? Maybe I lack the confidence to accept a sincere compliment. My sample size is one, so I'm just asking the opinion of those willing to share.
All that being said, my experience was pretty damn positive. I'm looking forward to my next business trip.
(He is the developer of Bose speaker systems and a retired MIT professor of acoutics.)
What this means for us guys is that we should not be trying to attach a lie detector to the gal to judge if every moan and groan is the real thing or theatrics.
I'll tell you one thing: If you say or do anything to express doubt to the gal, you'll be invited to leave post haste and never darken her door again, just like poor George Castanza when he tried that crap.
I don't put effort into decoding everything that a provider says to me, but if something strikes me as obviously insincere then it takes away from my experience.
I compliment every woman I am with, but they are all sincere compliments. Everyone has something attractive about them. It is very easy to give a genuine compliment. For example, she may have less than perfect skin, but she may have beautiful eyes or attractive hair. I can honestly compliment her on those, and I prefer she do the same for me.
My cock is average with nice girth, so if a woman says "wow your cock is huge" then I just chuckle to myself and I don't believe her. She could simply say "I like the way your cock looks" and that way she is being sincere, and I enjoy that compliment much more.
If a provider gives me 2X or 3X the normal amount of compliments that I get from women I am dating, then my BS meter goes off and yes it does remind me that she is providing a service.
you might want to find a different lady for your next venture. Granted, you are a newbie so you will be relying on civie experience but it should work.
I think this is a little more subtle than I may have let on. I had a GREAT time. It's just that I KNOW I'm paying for this and I KNOW I couldn't go down to the bar and take my choice of girl back to my room.
I am SO pleased with the way things went last night and I don't think for one second that it wasn't worth it.
There was just a thing or two that rang a false note. And I sympathize with providers, who have so many different personalities to deal with. Human interaction is HARD.
I've had ladies say to me, "Wow, you've got some girth on you there, boy", and "You don't have an Irishman's cock", and "This is a little more than I'm used to". Well, I've always thought that I'm pretty average, so I'll just take it as a compliment and enjoy the moment.
I've also had ladies tell me that I'm cute, while others have told me that I look like Charles Manson. (three of them) Again, I think I'm pretty average, not a Brad Pitt look-alike, but I don't think I look like a lunatic either.
Take the compliments when they come, let your head swell a little, and enjoy the ride.
You kinda do. But since you don't act like him, it's all good. After all, our looks really aren't a main criterion. Probably not even in the league with safe, respectful and accurate in the envelope.
You know, I totally understand how you feel cuz from time to time, I have gents tell me, "Oh, I bet you say that to everyone." And, I politely respond ... "No, I don't cuz I believe in being genuine."
I believe in living in the moment and going with the flow. Sometimes, I can be more vocal than others, but it doesn't mean that I am not enjoying myself - quite the contrary.
In time, you will find those that should be nominated for emmy's and those that truly do enjoy the time that they share with you!
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