Fucking "The Hammy" would probably work best for you

It would be well worth it for you to wait until we can get together LOL.

I thought all providers fake multiple gasms?

Coming at the same time would be ideal but it really doesn't matter all that much.  I may be the odd one though.  

I recently saw a girl who shook like she was having a seizure after I gave her some of my patented great Asian American hobbyist techniques   Not sure how she can fake that cuz it's a bit dramatic to be faking it but those type of gasms are the most interesting... fake or not.  Either way, It doesn't do anything for my own climaxing though so it's not really at the top of the priority list

And glad you're interested in your own pleasure, too.  I'll bet there's no single answer for your problem.  Ladyparts are freakin' complicated!  No two are the same and they all work differently.  Each time you take one for a test flight it's like flyin' a whole different aircraft.  But at least if you crash, you don't die (unless you really pissed her off with your sexual ineptitude, lol!).  A big gal like you could probably inflict some real damage if pissed off and horny.  Might be fun

and I hope I don't find out anytime soon either.

Nope - guys are completely different....

We ALWAYS want to fuck.  If we have just jacked off - we really want to get laid.  If we haven't jacked off in a while.... we still really want to get laid.

Don't know of a circumstance involving masturbation that actually would decrease my desire.  You have a VERY secure job....

certainly helps build up the anticipation.
That, and getting enough sleep, has me primed and ready for play.

My SO says a similar thing. Second Nicky that it's nice to see you posting.

you have too many days between sessions? Where do I apply?

How long do you hold off so it's gotten to the point you're not that horny?

If you rub it halfway out right before your date arrives but don't let yourself climax, that helps if you're not really horny. Or, maybe watch a little porn on your phone while you get ready.

If I don't get off during a date, my toys are in my ho bag anyway, so I just fuck myself after he leaves. HAHA