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Question... How important is it
anon8894 1455 reads
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to have the money in an envelope?

Does it matter if it is put on the night stand, desk, or near by table?

Does it change after the first visit or a few visits?

A provider put the question on our local board a while back, thought I would ask a larger group.

Bostonguy57317 reads

Some ladies ask for an envelope and some don't. If they don't specify on their website I probably won't bother with it. As far as where to put it, "in plain site" is generally the accepted practice though again, some ladies may have a specific preference. In my opinion, she should be able to see the money, in an envelope or not, upon entering the room.

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charlie445451 reads

Just joking. I put it where they tell me to.

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Trygger509 reads

As a client, I really don't care how they want it as long as they don't want it delivered in the glovebox of a new Mercedes.

My mo is an envelope usually with a card placed on a convenient surface as they are watching me.  If they want it differently then they need to explicitly say so on their website.

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tmtlr27639 reads

All my gals prefer the white plain envelope in plain site. I always put it out first thing and there is never any conversation about it. I've seen one a number of times and the last time she got us a very upscale incall which I did ask how much more I needed to put in (after our time together) and she made my male ego feel great by saying "nothing hun, you were worth it!!" so needless to say that made my day, month, year!!

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HaleyOrlando582 reads

mention it in any way. No need to talk about how much or what a line there was at the ATM ;-)

Kisses Haley

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Barney.Fife420 reads

and pick up a big bunch of multi-color balloons... 2 dozen should do nicely... and then attach the envelope to the bottom of the ribbons.

Here's a tip...

Put 2 or 3 dollars worth of quarters in the envelope.  It adds a little weight and will keep the ballons from floating to the ceiling.

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CiaraPhx308 reads

I have it listed that way on my website because if I'm seeing someone new, then if I pick up the envelope I can say, "Oh, is this my birthday card?" Or, "Is this my Christmas card?" I say the appropriate card for the appropriate time of year. That way, if the guy is LE, I am not accepting cash in my hand.

After I see someone a few times, he could leave the donation in my ponytail for all I care, as long as he leaves it in plain sight and before the date. I have had a few guys forget to leave the donation afterward because we were both relaxed and didn't think about it. Now, I request the donation be placed upfront before the date, no matter how long I've known someone.

Hugs,
Ciara

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shudaknownbetter224 reads

I handle the donation however the lady wants (check her web site if she has one).

My ATF is old school...  my clothes are on a chair, my glasses are on the dresser next to it.  I always have the donation in my front pants pocket where I keep my keys.  As we dress, I put the naked donation on the dresser...  mind you we're both moving around to bathroom etc, mostly naked & having a good time...  before we're finished dressing, the donation is gone.  

If I ever forgot, I'd drive the hour to take it to her.  or any lady.  I'd not cheat them.  
skb

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CiaraPhx462 reads

I also hang the gentlemen's clothes up, glasses on the sidetable (unless he places them elsewhere), and never worried about the donation until afterward with a regular. However, lately, a few accidentally forgot to give me it. It was not intentional and I understood it. I went into the bedroom to look for it after the date and it wasn't there. Needless to say, some of them asked me if I could wait until the next time I saw them. I agreed somewhat reluctantly but I trusted these men so no big deal. I was going to deposit that donation in the bank that day. Darn it! What a disappointment. Hey! Accidents can happen sometimes and men live pretty far from me (which, granted, is no excuse), but I let it slide.

However, from this point forward, I'm getting the donation beforehand. It may seem tacky but I do not want to wait a month or two before I see it. Actually, it is a little unnerving for men to assume because they are regulars that suddenly they can leave the donation at the end of the date. My website clearly states what is to be done, yet many ignore it. It's actually more uncomfortable for me to wait for the donation afterward. I prefer if a man sets it on the counter before the date, then I don't feel taken advantage of, he doesn't forget afterward, and everyone is happy. :)

Hugs,
Ciara




-- Modified on 10/20/2008 9:22:34 AM

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marere4314 reads

This has happened with me too. I have done mostly outcalls, and if it isn't in plain site or the gent forgets to place it out, I have forgotten and left without it. Like you say, you are both relaxed after the session and may not think of it. Plus, if the gent forgets and the lady remembers, nothing is more awkward than having to ask- ruins the post-session glow and calls attention to money which should never otherwise be discussed. I have stated on my site that I will leave if the envelope is not sitting out within the first five minutes with a new client- never had to do it, but it's better to leave than bring it up in an unknown situation.

It is best to just have a routine and get it out of the way. I also don't like to leave it sitting out during a session, I feel it is more discreet and less distracting to handle it by putting it in my purse, or in an incall, in the dresser etc. Not that anyone is going to bust in, but you know, the one thing that separates a consensual, legal sexual encounter from one that could be perceived as "prostitution" is an envelope of cash. I say get that part out of the way and don't leave the envelope in plain site longer than necessary.

In response to the OP, I do think an envelope is important because I think it feel more tasteful and professional, and also because I think it is more discreet in a legal or personal context. By having the cash visible, you are acknowledging it more than should be done, even if you don't mention it aloud. Just my two cents, but I think the envelope is standard and should be used unless otherwise specified by an individual lady. The little protocols and procedures like this are necessary to keep the hobby safe and running smoothly in my eyes, for all parties. Rather than have ambiguous boundaries (i.e. Before or after the session? Envelope or no? Does this change on a first date vs. a new person?) I think it makes everything much easier if such things remain consistent.

Hope that helps.

-- Modified on 10/20/2008 5:47:17 PM

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BizzaroSuperdude274 reads

as in money gift... I've also been known to put it into a bag from a local store or two - as in a gift bag...

Worse case - was once i forgot the donation... and in 'mid-stroke' the lady asked where the donation was....  and further she stated that for her to have a good time, she needed to know that it was taken care of....  I stopped, got the envelop and placed it in plain sight...

to me that was not a problem... to some it might be... but I've always considered that if the business is taken care of - the session seems to go better - in general...

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mrfisher252 reads

The gal does want an empty envelope.

8o)

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followme166 reads

She need the envelope to mail a receipt back to the client.


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keystonekid189 reads

and put my keys and cell phone on top.  when I leave I pick up my keys and cell phone, kiss her good bye and I'm on my way.

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Ashlyn229 reads

Not really important. At least if it is out in the open I know that it's money and not paper

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