I'm brand new to the community and have mainly been working out of a different escort mall...there are a few clients I have had that don't belong to any mall or discussion board like TER so I knew that they would not really be able to help me out review-wise unless they joined, which I was not going to ask them to do as I know they don't plan to see any other escort besides myself (these men are not really in the community, more like they just wanted to date and couldn't take no for an answer)...however, there is one that I have had an appointment with (that IMO went well) who is on a popular mall site and his review could very much help me out if he made one. As we all know, for indy providers it can be difficult to get your foot in the door with even verification sites if you don't have a review or two or another provider vouch for you (which I don't know any others so have not been able to manage either) so if this gentleman were to review me, it would be very very helpful from my end.

My question is this...is it bad manner or tacky to ask him to or how does one deal with such a situation?
How would hobbyists out there feel if they were asked such a thing? (keeping in mind you knew you were seeing someone brand new when you booked her.)

My first instinct is that it would be tacky so I have not done it but yet...can't help but wonder....

Thanks to all for your replys and insight into this matter.

xoxo

Estella Ayrs

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Sometimes I'm not sure that the girl really wants me to review her.  So I as if she wants me to, before I do.  In the same sense, you may want to present the question to him by saying, "I don't mind if you write a review for me..." or something of the sort.  That way he is not put on the spot to answer immediately, but knows that it is OK to do so.

It would not bother me at all. I like to help out good providers. However, I can imagine it may be difficult or uncomfortable to ask. Maybe you should kind of tiptoe around the subject and ask in an indirect way. Maybe casually bring up TER and mention that you dont have any reviews. I am sure most members would be happy to help if they had a good time with you. Good luck!

In general, I think as a provider, you can feel whether the session went well.  If there was some chemistry and both parties had fun, I wouldn't mind writing a good review for the provider if she politely asked.  After all, this is a community and we're here to help each other.  Gentlemen need references and ladies need reviews.  

however, it is extremely tacky and classless to then brow-beat and berate the person who did give you a review that didn't meet your "expectations", until they change it, i.e. an 8 instead of a 9, for example.

You call it "tacky and classless"?!?
When your own favorite "prom date" is FAMOUS for engaging in this behavior? When you have actually helped her do this?!?

Man. You are WAY more messed up than everyone says you are. And that's saying something!!

You rarely disappoint in your predictable nature and lack of character.
We know all about you.

that I am so well known and loved.......LOL

Just because your accusor is posting with an alias, doesn't make him wrong. and it certainly doesn't make you right.

I generally ask the lady for permission to review her. Interestingly I have had a few tell me they would prefer I didn't.  I honored their request naturally.  I also email the lady a copy of the review before posting.  In one case I had made a statement about her two call system that, unknown to me, identified her location.  I removed that reference before posting.  

In short, if you're going to kiss and tell, be a gentleman about it.

Thank you all so much for the feedback! You have given me the confidence needed to ask politely if he wouldn't mind doing so. Hopefully it goes well.

Again, thanks for the responses!

Estella Ayrs

BTW, in order for someone to leave you a review, it helps if you have a website and/or an active ad somewhere. Sometimes it is hard to get a review approved, especially your first one. I actually helped a provider set up a web site once so I could get her review approved.

and there is no reason not to ask for them. Not every man does kiss and tell nor is every review approved. Never let the promise of a review be a reason to do anything more than you would do without that promise. But do ask after your time is over with a gentlemen and your saying good-byes

Never, never , never

offer a discount or a freebie to get someone to write a review. It can bit you in the ass and make you feel taken.

Good Luck and stay active on your local board, newbie board and here. The more people see you here the more comfortable they might be to see you.

Kisses Haley

It would be beyond tacky to write his review for him!  LOL

But , no, simply asking is not at all tacky. Reviews are a positive business tool for ladies who do good work; and asking for one hurts nothing IMO.

...as when a hobbyist asks a provider for a reference to another lady. Assuming that, as a hobbyist, I've done my research, connected with the right lady and we've had a good session, the topic of "So how did you find me?" usually comes up. Sometimes the topic comes up before the session in a "getting to know you" conversation and TER comes up. So if we're both "comfy" with one another, I've asked a lady to provide a reference for me to another lady (or a referral service such as DateCheck) and I've had a lady ask whether I might provide her with a review. At no point has there been any pressure, just a professional level of camaraderie, similar to providing a referral to a friend about any professional with whom you've had a good experience.

But it all comes down to doing your research, finding the right woman and (hopefully) having some sort of connection that allows the both of you to feel good about the encounter -- and then feel good about "sharing the wealth" with the other members of this community.

Without that connection, good things don't flow from the encounter. So if all the planets align and things feel right, I see no harm in asking.

.....threating to "OUT" him (the reviewer)  if he doesn't change those 8's to 9's?

I get so few reviews I kind of HAVE to ask for them if I want any at all; most of my clients just don't write them, or won't write one if they aren't 100% sure it's okay.

I usually mention that I'd like to have a review *if he wants to write one* in my follow up email; he's under no obligation to, but it would be nice if he did.

I think it's perfectly OK and you just have to read the guy and the situation and hope for the best. Some possible missed messages:

"I wouldn't mind if you posted a review." Crap! She's asking me to write a review! She expects me to write a review!

"Feel free to use me as a reference. And feel free to write a review." Crap! If I don't write a great review, she won't refer me!

"If you have the time, I'd appreciate a review." Oh, sure, OK.

My only unusual experience is when someone spoke to me just before leaving. "I want to ask you something very important." [close talking] Oh crap, she wants a loan or extra money or something. "I would really like your help." Oh no - she want's one of my kidneys! "Will you please write a review?" Whew! At that time, I wasn't writing reviews but I told her she was great (and she was). She was disappointed but otherwise OK. Some of you might know who it is, and my review would have been 9-9. Maybe I'll see her again and write a review.

I don't think it's tacky to ask for a review.   If the person doesn't want to give one....then that's that....but giving a review is being helpful and supportive to you and to the "hobby".....

I've been asked a few times, and as I've grown to rely increasingly on TER in selecting providers, so I value the reviews and have no problems writing them. In fact I would worry about someone who didn't want to be reviewed, although I would leave out a phone # or email (although number is how I  check reviews).

I would disagree with the post about asking before you post. I personally think the cards are stacked in favor of the providers in terms of not discussing details in advance, but donations still being paid up front, as well as the B&S that we've all dealt with at some point, usually more than once. I mean really - it's a business after all, and the members on here are the fairly hard core market.  That said, I think clients owe to the client community to review good and bad, just be fair, consistent, and recognize where it didn't click through no-one's fault, you should have or didn't ask for something that you wanted, or where you legitimately feel that YMMV.

offered him a discount (in less $ or a longer session for $) for writing a review, then that is considered crossing the line.

Hi all! New here, haven't been with a provider before. But this thread made me come forth from the depths of lurkville.

It's all about free market principles. The market is men, whom for one reason or another, need the companionship of a woman. The collector is the woman, whom apparently, is willing to put a price on her companionship.

Just take it a step further. If you two know you had a good time/chemistry/whatever, then why not offer the gentlemen a discount rate on the next visit if he writes an accurate review. Maybe some will offer a discount but at the cost of the man writing a "great" review, but again, it's the free market, people will find out and you will be avoided.

You both have a good time, you get increased business due to his review, he gets a discount rate on his next visit for giving the review, everybody wins.

What does walmart/pepboys/target do when they give you a receipt and want you to rate your experience, they offer you a gift card, or a chance to win 5,000 dollars, etc...

This is the same situation, go with what works.

Peace.