Had a session recently.  She's young.  Says 21, and could really be 21.  During chit-chat, she wanted to talk about her future and plans after this "crazy time in her life," but also wanted to talk about getting into the business.  i wasn't pushing it, but was interested, so didn't derail the conversation. She said she started working the second she could, having moved out right after high school, and had been fantasizing about it for a couple of years before that.  

I recall being very young and a bit wild , 15 maybe .
My parents brought me to a therapist because they thought I was not being a "good girl"
I saw this guy who my rents thought was brilliant , he was brilliant alrighty .
In therapy session I recall him getting into a discussion about 2 things I now feel were highly inappropriate.
The first was he asked me if I thought I was a lesbian or gay . I had never ever given this any thought at all , he asked me if I got wet when I was around my friends that were girls . I said no .
Another session he went into a discussion about what people do for a living when they grow up .  
He suggested that people were meant to do certain things .Like that he was meant to be a Dr . that someone else was meant to be a lawyer , he also mentioned some people are meant to be prostitutes . I believe there was a connection between my decision to do this and that convo which was a longtime ago . I find him repulsive now actually as I feel he was planting a seed and subliminally that seed grew . He is still practicing in NY . I should go see him , or maybe he should come see me . Kendall Lynn

get the impression that being a hooker is a posotive thing?

That's all pretty messed up, KL.  He really sounds like a rotten perv... and I say this as a guy that once paid a girl to wear a Santa's helper outfit and blow me.  

It has a stigma, but so does eating a lot of shrooms and following a jam band around the country for three years.  Doesn't mean young girls (and boys) avoid either.

What can I say?  On the one hand, that's the most unprofessional and inappropriate behavior I've heard of by a therapist.
On the other hand, if he really got you into this business (which I doubt), God bless him!  Put differently, I have no idea what brought you to this game, I'm just glad you're here.
And keep in mind that if you deconstruct the word "therapist" you get "the rapist." LOL!  You can be my therapist any time.  In fact, the sooner the better!

One more dumb comment in a long line of them.  If you don't think being a hooker is a positive thing then what are you doing here?  And I think you meant "stigma," not "stigmatism," unless you're referring to optics:
tigmatism
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See also: Astigmatism and Astigmatism (eye)
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In geometric optics, stigmatism refers to the image-formation property of an optical system which focuses a single point source in object space into a single point in image space. Two such points are called a stigmatic pair of the optical system. Many optical systems, even those exhibiting optical aberrations including astigmatism, have at least one stigmatic pair. Stigmatism is applicable only in the approximation provided by geometric optics. In reality, image formation is at best diffraction limited and point-like images are not possible.
Or if you put an "a" in front of it and you're an optician.
Thank you for once more doubling down on dumb.

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...and if you combine Analyst and Therapist?  ANALRAPIST!  

do not kid yourself..all these ladies have a " lifetime plan "...escorting is but a small part of it..they know their goals and how to achieve them..no one ever said these girls were dumb..

Posted By: Banking

Had a session recently.  She's young.  Says 21, and could really be 21.  During chit-chat, she wanted to talk about her future and plans after this "crazy time in her life," but also wanted to talk about getting into the business.  i wasn't pushing it, but was interested, so didn't derail the conversation. She said she started working the second she could, having moved out right after high school, and had been fantasizing about it for a couple of years before that.    
   
 Here's my point: people throw out "no kid ever wanted to grow up to be a hooker" a lot, but a least for a few girls, I think that they do.  It's a fantasy world.  Maybe not forever, but for a few years.  For what it's worth, I found the whole situation pretty hot, as it gave me a plausible reason to believe she was into what we were doing.  So yeah, maybe she's great at reading people and feeding me what i wanted to hear, but i didn't get that feeling.  I'm going with NSA nympho who had been fantasizing about this role for years.    
   
 Providers, any of you see it this way?  Is this more common than guys think?    
   
 

jerked off the minute I left the room . Miss K

Did you post this because you know our "Miss K" is a renowned Greek Tour Guide?  She is, in fact, highly skilled in this area.

I did not.  But now I may have to plan a trip to Chicago.

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Did I say, I thought being a hooker was a negative thing?   NO!

Or NY.  Whatever.  Not sure how I got Chicago stuck in my head.  Probably bc of Datecheck.  Still may visit!

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The fact is they are not. After all I'm using an alias.

and I am only using an alias because using your real name is frowned on around here, not to mention fucking hookers, just like smoking weed or not fastening your seatbelt happens to be against the law. Of the three, the most dangerous happens to be not fastening your seatbelt, but I still don't need Big Brother telling me (forcing me) to do it.

So have you gone back to being "enigmatic" or just plain stupid and argumentative?

Are you ashamed of paying prostitutes for sex?

Yeah, I pieced that together a bit too late.  Post is in the queue, apparently they don't trust  me here yet.  Wanna meet in Chicago?

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I wish I had a dollar for everytime someone used the term "dumb hooker"

and I really don't know which is worse, the misogynists that think all hookers, actually all women are stupid, or the equally idiotic manginas who think all hookers are rocket scientists in training with a heart of gold?

if a high school chick is pondering being a hooker, she is not a little girl. that is what most mean when making the statement 'no little girl ever dreams of being a hooker.' a "little girl" does not know the reality of what being a hooker would involve, so she can't dream about it. after 14 many women today have already had sex. some even younger than that. i don't know any 8 year olds who have dreamed of being escorts. most are talking about the time in a kid's life when they are saying things like i want to be a movie star, a rock star, or an astronaut. that's too young of an age to know what this business is about.  

I find that incredibly hard to believe...so many put that accomplishment on their websites.

No silly boy I have never been to Chicago . I do go to ct sometimes though and I am in NY all the time Let me now if you ever get this far east Miss K

Hah.  I actually get to NY fairly regularly.  Will look you up, doll.  You sound like fun, weirdo pervy way-back-when shrink aside.

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No silly boy I have never been to Chicago . I do go to ct sometimes though and I am in NY all the time Let me now if you ever get this far east Miss K

I knew you'd try to weasel out of a judgmental comment like that.  As someone pointed out above, this is a fuckboard, where hookers and johns congregate, so talking about "stigmatism" here is pretty stupid.
And thanks for your definitions.  Are you trying to say you actually intended to use "stagmatism" instead of "stigma?"
Sorry, vern, but this clip applies directly to you.

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I think the whole idea of being a hooker in this country is finally changing.  I recent years the whole stigma of being a porn star has changed and in many circles it's become chic.  I believe this is in the process of changing regarding hookers as well, viz. the new Internet series "Blue," among many others.  I hope I'm right, not that everyone will start aspiring to becoming a hooker.  Then again, I never aspired to become a doctor or a lawyer, lol!

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movie star, or rock star or even astronaut would really entail either.

Good point re: age.  Totally agree.  No 10 year old boy wants to be a dancer at "Thunder Down Under" either.  It's just not part of the world yet.  But you miss the point re what is a turn on for me.  I love the "I'm gonna be a scientist!" stuff too.  It's both sweet, and in some cases, real.  I awesome either way.  I love it.  But I'm not talking about that.

Watching 'Pretty Woman' when I was 9 (I know, how cliche) and wanting to be a hooker. But I didn't understand what a hooker really did, or why men really desired a pretty woman. In short, I didn't get that Richard Gere was supposed to stick it to her. My friend tried to explain that she 'sold her body' but I just thought that she 'sold' it to men to spend time with them and let them look at her  

Even at 19 or 20, it’s easy to have an overly romanticized view of life, acting on impulse without comprehending the ramifications of our actions. Maturity, combined with the unvarnished stark truth of reality can lay bare just how foolish our choices can be. But life does not come with do-overs. We make our deal with Satan, and like countless young souls before us, naively think we were getting the better end of the bargain.

What you claim to be judgement call, is the consensus opinion of mainstream America. I came to this conclusion by reading posts on this very board, it's been said by many on here.

That's the only time I've seen the  portrayal of a hooker in a postive manner.

but I suppose that at 2 credits a year, they can probably milk it until they are in their seventies.

I guess when I was young I never planned on being a divorced (happily I might add), half drunk (ok, fully drunk a lot of the time), gambling, quite immature whore monger in my fifties, but WTF I love my life and I wouldn't trade it for anyone else's that I know. Go figure. lol

I am hoping to enroll for classes this fall.  I have always been bothered by my lack of formal education. Even though there is no economic I plan on finally going to collage .

y dad got his GED at 40, I went back to school at 40... I'm even thinking about going back to school again, but I might wait until I'm 70... keep learning, keep living..

Irma La Douce, Two Mules for Sister Sarah, Klute....

he ever increasing cost of education, plus the desire for financial independence, plus many, many other reasons that are none of our business, probably mean that more women are considering work as a provider.

I have the dubious honor of being both a high school, and college dropout, and I am fine with it. Actually, because of what I do, most people assume that I have a degree. I never lie about it, but I don't go out of my way to advertise it either. Truth be told it's just not that important to me. I've hired and fired dozens of Ivy league grads and really don't feel like I missed anything by my lack of a degree.

That said, if it is what you truly want and it makes you feel good, by all means go back to school. Maybe I will do the same, just as an excuse to meet some hotties. lol

In all seriousness though, knowledge is the only thing that cannot be taken away from you. I am a firm believer that if everything I have was taken away from me tomorrow that within a few short years I could do it all over again because of what I have learned along the way. Education is similar in that way, it can't ever be taken away from you. So, good luck this fall.

Aside from the unlimited liquor parties let's not forget that the young women are all hot to trot as well.

The third paragraph of this posting in fact includes a nice list of the skills development that women in this line of work can achieve —and while "sex worker" might not be a plus on a resume, these are excellent entrepreneurial skills.  The issue of a resume is almost irrelevant here.  Someone with the independence to be an escort would very likely not be happy in the kind of work for which one submits one.

Until you get to graduate level, there is almost nothing you learn in your first few years in college that you can't teach yourself. I've read a few college texts and found myself just as fluent in the subject matter as anyone who actually took the class.

Now once you get past the "general studies" or into higher math and science things get a little tougher, but I still maintain that most literate people can still teach themselves almost everything they need to know without attending the typical four year undergrad college.

You can't get this kind of shit reading some textbooks  LOL

Don't you wish it could have gone on forever?  LOL

Is that anything like having a BS degree?  

Kind of reminds me of my last three years in the ninth grade. lol

Women who do this successfully are very much entrepreneurs. I could never work for some corporation or any type of traditional office job. Blech!! But starting a business, do real estate, etc are things that would appeal more to me. But passive income is the most appealing of all.

Much of "higher" (not getting high...or drunk  LOL) education is about intestinal fortitude.  I would suspect that no matter how poorly someone did in high school...there's a college that will accept them.  And if that person simply is intent on getting a college degree in something...that will indeed happen.

Fortunately I haven't had a job in decades nor do I expect to ever have one again. I am much the same in person as I am here, Who in their right mind would ever hire me??? lol

On a different note, speaking of games. The good news is that it's a certainty that both of the Chicago Baseball teams will NOT lose today. As for your hockey team goes, I can't make that guarantee, but I am rooting for you, with my wallet.

THIS is The Stig.  The Stig Rules

Shoot...I have classmates who are in their 40's and 50's...I'm 32 and just decided to go back at 30, just graduated with my Associates last month and just finished my first class working towards my Bachelor's. So, it is possible to be still a college student and be any age, lol.  

Thanks for both comments.

maybe they can be listed as part of an entrepreneurial "project" one has done- she could easily make it up. Consultant, life coach, etc... all these can be listed on a resume.  

Most often the girl "actually being into" NSA, is because they have problems keeping relationships in their personal lives. So this is a good way to have sex and get paid. I would bet that given the opportunity to be able to have a healthy relationship, they would choose the route of happiness with someone they know will be there for them. If not right now, they will before long.

That's like saying Socrates was a bartender.

"70lbs overweight with braces and a terrible acne problem?"  My how things have changed!

Not so much a stretch. Most arts appeal to senses like sight and hearing. The courtesan (and what provider here is not one of those?) appeals to many senses, especially touch, and does it in sequence, as a musician would. As for bartenders, what about the one who said,

I meant in the sense of the amount of dedication to detail, honing of innate ability, study of idiom in context & the history. The entry qualifications as dictated by society's whim are far more forgiving for one versus the other. I'm skewing to the qualitative definition.

this is about a career choice. fyi, not all women want a relationship either. there are women who don't want to be tied down to anyone or anything.

I'm NOT toofuckingstupid to know I've had this conversation before.

why the hostility. you are the one who started talking about relationships in a thread about the fucking hobby. no one said anything about a woman having to choose between the two. many providers have boyfriends and husbands and do this. many don't.

I'm not forcing my opinions on anyone. This is just a game, a fantasy world, the people here are not  the same in real life. Right?