Often, when I see a beautiful woman, I don't just want to have sex with her.  I also want to worship her and "disconnect" whatever I do for her from what she would do for me by giving to her without any thought of what I might get back, even though I realize that such unilateralness isn't stable.  Maybe what I want most could be called "mutual unilateral generosity," which is significantly different, spiritually, from the business transaction that normally occurs.  Am I nuts or have I just described the difference between love and trading?