Sorry! SinsoftheFlesh got me thinking about gum! However, I find my pleasure and fun increases if yours does also. And, I have no problem receiving and following instructions, but please don't try to fake it if I fail. I don't need for you to orgasm, but rather just hoping you're at least enjoying yourself.

I love to watch a woman have an orgasm. I think part of it has to do w/ a mans ego. Like, yah man I still got it!! Picture King Kong pounding his chest..

hey boys
looking for some feedback here.
and maybe a laugh or two

so i am of the opinion, that my clients generally care about whether or not i get off.
so i make it a point to do so when i am on a 'date'

this sometimes means giving a little instruction, or otherwise leading the session in a way that will work for me.
i tend towards thinking, that men genuinely want this, and faking it isn't going to cut it. people are more perceptive then they let on...and you do intuitively know the difference between a toe curling orgasm and the faked kind, right?

im i naive to think you guys prefer this? or perhaps a little selfish wanting to also get my rocks off too? lol

id love to hear your perspectives. and stories.

kisses, (and toe curling orgasms) maya

And I take instructions well!
Can I tell if it's faked?- Sometimes, but not always.
Can I tell if you got off?- Same answer.
Either way, I'm happy to try my best.

A couple of days ago.  Interesting discussion followed....

I want the lady to have fun too. Yes, I want to know what she likes. I'll always give it my best shot. ( Didn't mean to pun, but I'll take it) I don't mind direction. I'll usually ask.  No, I can't say I would always know the difference. I enjoy it more when the lady gets off too.

We're ok with that.  But sometimes I may flip you over and do other stuff you've never dreamed of.  So it's ok to be open to suggestions too.

I do not expect it! I love when it happens...

But I just consider it a bonus

The more fun had by all, the better a time is had by all --  that's been my experience, anyway.

It can be difficult to discern whether her reactions are 100% genuine, but when things get to convulsively shaking for 60-90 seconds, her skin is flush and her breathing might be heard out in the hallway -- all good indicators that she truly has reached her peak.

Of Course.. getting you off is my primary function..

Hell .. I can always get myself off!!!

Some of my favorite moments having been watching my ATF have a shattering, screaming, squirting, Orgasm.  First of all it's like seeing an act of nature, like a lightening bolt or a tsunami.  Second, I can sit back and think, "Yeah!  Look what I did!"  I mean, I actually know from her many reviews she does this for almost anyone, but don't I get some of the credit?

I know the O is well faked in the Provider world...I had an ATF tell me that she has learned to fake believably by studying how her body moves and quivers while she's having a real O, so she is able to fake it without the Hobbyist knowing if it was real or not.  I sort of felt deflated after hearing that because we had some greatly timed mutual orgasms (or so I thought).  I'd prefer her to tell me that she's close or keep doing it just like that.  I much rather she verbally direct me because I enjoy giving her pleasure and feeling her body quiver in ecstasy -- at least half the reason I'm there.

I want to pleasure her.  It's part of my experience with her, and I get turned off when I can tell she's going through the motions for my benefit -- and, I don't repeat.

The squirters are much easier to tell, and I do love that...too bad it's hard to find them. But, I would say, I'm not exactly a Giver, but I'd appreciate the direction rather than the fake O.

I want the provider to enjoy her time with me and get her "rocks off" if possible. I hate fake orgasms because of the way they make me feel and I can often tell. Every lady is a bit different in what works best for them so I love it when they tell me what they need to make it happen. So keep on giving instruction a little selfishness as long as you remember who is paying is a good thing.