I'd gather that 99% of the ladies do this to pay for their other dreams and desires. Meaning, it's a job but not a career.

I don't know about you, but I'm not college educated. Not that that really matters anyway in our present situation as far as the job market cuz there's a shitload of people with college degrees in the unemployment line.

But the fact the ladies are trying to further themselves thru going to school and getting degrees to me says a lot about their character.

This whole fucking economy shit will turn around, and guess who will be at the forefront?

Providers are resilient and tenacious. Gotta respect that, at least.

But they can also be overbearing and show views that they hope would be respected in the mainstream as far as this 'hobby' is concerned.

It's a catch 22. They can be revered for their performance and making you and I feel like a man, but fuck them if they speak up and say what they think and try to aspire to being more than a whore.

It's fucking pathetic, the double standards. I'm guilty myself in some aspects.

The point I'm trying to make is, it isn't you. Shit happens.

If you were trying to make a date with Suzy-cums-alot on Central Avenue and she turned you down, yeah, you got a problem.

But the thing is, the ladies here don't usually make a habit of breaking dates here without a damn good reason. Or at least good enough for them.

You have to understand, you come into roadblocks yourself. Wifey all of a sudden wants to show you the attention you've been craving for so long. You gonna tell her no?

The ladies here have just as much romantic feelings as you or I. They could meet a guy tomorrow in the grocers and fall head over heels, it's that easy.

If I was you, I wouldn't get too hurt about it. If it's that important to you to get some strange, get into TER's database. That's what it's there for, for fuck sakes.

Find a new ATF. There's thousands of ladies here that'll pat you on the head when you go down on them and put a stranglehold on your dick with their kegel muscles....

just by watching there are many that have lasted the 6 or so years that I have been around some with good reps some that are still rippofffs. Of the ones I have seen only 1 is what I call a lifer.  1 other comes and goes.  The others seam to be doing what they have to to servive or get ahead.  I have met 1 that really likes it and is great at it but I don't know how long she will last.

It can be so lonely being a provider.  We meet all these successful, charming, rich men but at the end of the day, they go home to their loving wives and families, and we go home alone.

I also stopped dating when I became a provider (obviously).  You cant really have a normal relationship with a guy when you have a bunch of clients demaning all of your time.

And yes, as great as providing is financially, the appeal of getting a normal job that you dont have to hide from friends and family is something I think about everyday.

So, Im sorry to hear your ATFs keep retiring, but a girls career length really varies.  If she loves it, she may provide forever.  If she is only using it as a tool to get to the next point in life, she may only be around for a few years...

My ATF has been at it, off and on, since her early 20's...she is now in her mid 30's.  I have other favs who came and went in a matter of months.  I actually saw an amazing new gal last fall who had already decided to get out of the business before my review even went up.  On my local board I see ladies advertising who have been at it for as long as I've been on TER.

Some gals drift in and out as their real life jobs and personal situations dictate.  While I know some providers are married I've never been with a long-term fav who had an ongoing marriage or SO when she was working.  Working as an escort is, in essence, leading a double life.  No matter how much you love the freedom and the money it takes a toll on other parts of your life.

Some similar situations. An ATF I used to see a lot starts talking about her new male "friend". Before she tells me she's not dating. When I email her from time to time, she's always talking about how well her bf is doing or something. obviously turned me off , haven't seen her in over a year.
Another visiting provider from across the country was a favorite. I really didn't think of her as a favorite at first. But visiting every half year or so she always emails me up with a very nice email, and the session is always stellar. One day she disappears. I try to call her personal cell# she gave me one time, left a text message. She responds asking how I'm doing. I answer back, and never got a response. I try again , then again half a year later. Number still works. But nothing. Two years later, still nothing. I know her real name so I look her up on facebook and there she is with a bunch of guy friends as well. She seems to be doing something outside of the hobby but guess I'm not part of her social reach anymore... Which saddens me, because I realized my sessions with her with the best gf type I ever had. Haven't seen another provider come close.
Local ATF I still see occasionally is going to a career school in a certain field. Worried she's getting older, but I would still see her. Now I'm worried she'll just disappear when she moves on.. I'm nothing special to her and I know that..