So I have a provider who somehow got a hold of my ID. She took a picture but is now threatening to doxx me live over the internet because she was acting like a spoiled entitled brat because I canceled my second appointment with her which was only in the prebook stage didn't even send a deposit yet.  

Exposing people isn't against the law.  But demanding something of value for silence is against the law.

Pay her cancellation fee and move along. You yourself just admitted to canceling with her after you made a booking.

What does she want to expose you for? What was the reason you canceled? You said you don't want to see her again because she became entitled and that you owe her something? Is she wanting you to pay a cancelation fee? We will be more than happy to help you bud but there seems to be some details missing.

He wrote that the second appointment was in the "prebook" stage and no deposit had been sent.  To me that means they were discussing a second appointment but no date and time had been set yet.  Unless there's a firm date and time, there's no need to send a deposit for the provider to hold open that date and time.

Really disappoints me to see situations like this arise. I’ll admit I’ve given my ID to providers before and luckily have never had issues so far (but who knows what the future holds), but I no longer am going to do that. OP did you use your real phone number when contacting her?

Yes but she has my Google Voice App number and contacts me through that. That's where we correspond.

And what pray-tell is a pre-booking discussion? All you really need to do is say "Hey, can we meet on such-and-such date at such-and-such time?" If she says yes, you should assume that there's a booking in place - otherwise, why even bother asking? It seems like a waste of time, and maybe that's why she got annoyed. Or maybe she thought there was a booking in place and then got let down when as he stated, he canceled. Or, he agreed to a time and never sent the deposit… essentially keeping her time in a choke hold and ruining her potential of financial gain elsewhere. Either way, the OP was taking up her time and energy without any real commitment. She has every right to be mad and expect some type of financial compensation for the time he consumed. I've learned the hard way myself that you either have to shit or get off the seat. Everyone's time is valuable, and it's important to recognize that.

I went in depth (much much greater detail) with a third post but the post has not been approved yet for whatever reason.

gave her enough real-life information, LIKE EMPLOYMENT, for her to use to get MORE information about your real life.  The way to prevent this from happening to someone else is to give them the step by step details of what information you gave her so they will know where to draw the line.  As others have said, there are a lot of details missing in your story, but if your reason for posting is to help others from getting themselves into this, then at least tell us all of the information you gave her to start with.  It's not really a case of "somehow, she got your information" by you showing up and saying, "Hi, my name is Dan" and she was able to find out everything about you, so how about the full story if you really want to help others.  Did you give her anything else during screening other than your employment information?  

What's the "preplanning" stage? Maybe I'm an anomaly but I only reach out to providers when I'm ready to book a solid date and time.

What is she asking for? Cancellation fee? Straight out blackmail?

did this happen?

I posted an in depth response yesterday. I am still waiting for TER moderators to approve my post. And I have one TER review and one PD review and she gave me good feedback on the PD one.

Most likely took a picture of my ID when I went to clean myself up in the bathroom after the session was over. I was in the bathroom cleaning up for maybe 3-4 minutes. She seemed honorable. But I learned my lesson. I definitely won't ever screen again if I need to give real life info. I have done that a few times in the past with a few highly reviewed providers before.  

Providers who want a selfie and real life information about clients is very risky, I do understand providers has to be safe, but what happened to the days when a couple of providers references was good enough, this got me paranoid and got me thinking maybe I just stick to the 5 or 6 providers I have seen before, it’s always nice to just send a text or email and the appointment is set, no hassle just good old fashioned fun!

Clearly the point of the OP is that even if you don't give that up in screening you are not safe.

If you’ve been able to post other answers after your in-depth post was submitted, your in-depth wasn’t approved. My guess you provided too much detail.

@cks175 I'm thinking thats what it was. But basically this provider hit me out of the blue for a second appointment. I basically told her I'll let her know this coming Tuesday when I get paid, if I am able to commit to the appointment for September 5th (when I would of been available) then I will pay half the deposit. The appointment was $800 for 60 minutes with VIP menu (GFE).  

I still can’t believe you haven’t named her. She’s threatening to doxx you. Do you want some other guys to face the dilemma you’re complaining about? Let’s have her name.

So if a provider doxxes you would you like me to suggest to you that you're complaining? Especially when this could potentially be severe and alter your life in an adverse way?  

After all, so far as we know all she's done is threaten. Perhaps she's holding back because she's afraid he might name her but would respond to being outed here with doxxing.
Most internet threats are never followed up on, even when simply ignored.

had included these important details in your OP.  We were left with thinking that you were not sure HOW she got a photo of your ID, but now you told us she admitted she went through your wallet while you were in the bathroom.  The fact that she is telling you in a mocking way that you should never take your ID into the incall (not to mention your wallet with your credit cards, social security card and other identifying information) should make it clear that this was a huge mistake.  

I wrote an in depth post shortly after I wrote the OP post to explain the details that were missing in the initial post but it didn't get approved most likely due to post length and details. But thanks for your post. I'm going to put your post to great use for now on. The whole not bringing your wallet with ID and all the other important stuff like credit cards etc, to an incall.  

Not unless she doxxes me publicly. Discretion is absolutely everything to me. Even if you did me dirty I wouldn't expose you.  

I would say that naming her working name isn't "exposing" her. After all, she went through your possessions - your wallet, took a picture of your ID, all without permission, and now has your real life info.  

of her stealing his ID during the first date, and blackmailing him with it over the second?

I don’t know how seriously you are taking this but I’d speak to a lawyer, he can probably send her a cease and desist letter or something? That’s just not right, sorry you had to deal with that.

...is appropriate punishment for a provider potentially losing the revenue of a single session.   Well, the net proceeds of the income that is...we know that there is so much fixed overhead involved that the gals just wouldn't have to invest in if it were not for the chosen vocation.  Shoes, nails, clothing, purses, spa treatments, tanning...   Sorry, that's prob going to touch the nerves of a few but that portion of the providers argument  has always been so silly.  

I disrobe in the bathroom before taking shower. This way I can keep an eye on everything.  

Or what the exact threat is she made. That doesn't even take a long-winded post to convey this info.

Pay her cancellation fee  consider it a tax it will take away the sting.  If she does continue to harass you after you've paid your fine, politely inform her that subsequent threats will be referred to the local FBI office for extortion  and that there is a payment trail

I so agree with this. When a client goes to use the bathroom but leaves their wallet laying out I tell them they should not ever do that. I am not going to go through it but another lady might. If you are coming to an incall bring your phone and keys. Leave everything else in the car.

Or maybe he is just saying all this because he wants everyone to be down on screening. Because if someone actually went thru your wallet , that's pretty criminal. But it had nothing to do with your screening. You say you didn't give her the info she stole it. So actually this supports screening. You went and saw someone who didn't ask for that info, and then stoled it. Which also makes no sense. If you are anti screening why would you bring your wallet in with you?  Sounds fishy. If it's made up that's why he isn't naming names.