'm sorry, birthday boy. The fact that this provider explicitly asked you about 'blocking off more time' was her subtle queue for extra cash. If she wanted to spend off-the-clock time with you, then she wouldn't have mentioned it at all. --z
Just because she didn't blurt out how much money that will cost you, does NOT mean she was offering her time for free. 
Example: I have a client who had a habit of running over his time..... after a couple of dates where this happened, I said to him, "wow, it seems like we should plan on at least 90min from now on!".
That was not an offer of additional time for my one hour rate. It was a subtle way of telling him he needs to book (and pay for) longer dates. He got it, and that's what he now does.
That being said, she really may have been offering a little extra time as a birthday present to you, but it depends on her exact wording.
As a general rule, don't ever assume you don't have to pay her for every minute. Expect to pay, and if she turns down the extra $$$, then you'll have a very nice surprise! 
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... Because more than likely she will ask for it. ha ha
if she's asks, she wants money.
if it was free, she'd just hang out a little longer.
either way give her the rate she charges. if it's a freebie on her part, it''s a tip on your part.
if you want to hedge your bets, pay her your regular amount but have the extra in your wallet in case she says "hey dude you owe me for the extra time!"
happy birthday
And was planning on the extra donation anyway.....
Does it matter if she was offing some free time and not being clear? Do you think you have a good connection with her?
If the answer to the second question is Yes (the first is really rhetorical) then take up the offer for more time and pay her the rate that would be appropriate for that length of appointment. It if is not needed make it a nice tip. In the end if there really is something there this will be a good discussion starting point. If not you've shown her you understand the relationship in this game and didn't make it an awkward situation for anyone and will likely enjoys some form of benefit in terms of the professional relationship you're having.
Posted By: scr5540
Donation. We have a unique bond for lack of a better word. Going to celebrate my birthday and long story short asked if I wanted to block off a little bit more time. How does one handle this? Up my donation to match the extra time based on her rates? Ask if she requires extra? Or leave it alone and considered it on the house?
She expects to be paid so be a gentleman and pay her.
I've done both for guys who were generous, lovable or both. Sorry you have not met anyone who wanted to do this for you.
Generous, lovable or both is the price they paid for their"free" lunch. To assert otherwise is just silly. I doubt you ever gave anything away for "free" in P4P just for the hell of it now have you? I've only met a few souls in this lifestyle who were "giving" people without any expectations of getting something ... anything, in return. Anyone who tips well, is kind, and giving , is kidding them self if they think that the OTC time wasn't paid for. It's just smart business for the provider. The tactic has a term in the business world. It's called "good will" and it ensures that customers feel special and valued so they keep coming back. The illusion that there is a "free lunch" is just that. An illusion. It makes the customer feel special. And customers who feel special keep coming back.
I'm sorry that you aren't able to grasp the concept. It's not exactly rocket science.
If you think being "lovable" is a "price." What you don't get is that people are, in the end, just people. Sometimes they just click. One guy I liked and insisted on paying for dinner. I paid for brunch with another and we hadn't even had a session. I just liked him because he makes me smile and has a fine mind.
Your peevish post makes it clear why you have never received such treatment, and never will.
It really must suck to be you, Drew. No wonder you stabbed Sasha in the back.
And this guy will gush over a waitress that gives him an extra portion at lunch. He won't think she has a motive for her kindness. Maybe that young lady is, in fact, the devil trying to steal your soul!!
Sheesh!!
Well after seeing her website.
It answer that question and more.
Posted By: Afro-desiac
If you think being "lovable" is a "price." What you don't get is that people are, in the end, just people. Sometimes they just click. One guy I liked and insisted on paying for dinner. I paid for brunch with another and we hadn't even had a session. I just liked him because he makes me smile and has a fine mind.
Your peevish post makes it clear why you have never received such treatment, and never will.
It really must suck to be you, Drew. No wonder you stabbed Sasha in the back.
Stupidest Poster Of All Time.
Everybody get a free 15 minutes on their birthday. They have to show proof of their birthday!!!!!
If you book only one hour, it's safe to say to pack extra cash for the extra time, according to her rate. Otherwise, just ask what would the extra fees be?
with my favorite for my birthday and out of the blue she offered to knock $50.00 an hour of her price for 4 hours. I told her thanks for the offer but you pay for the room and bring the devils marching powder. I'll bring the tequila and no discount necessary. Good times were had by all.
I don't know a guy on this board...or in life, for that matter...willing to work for his "friend" for free or discounted wage.
Same thing.
I've had a regular do a sleep over and only charge me for the hour I'd booked but that was convenient for us both, travel wise.
I over tip the valet, give the bartender extra when he/she goes the extra mile. I don't see this as any different.
I work for friends for free or discounted wages all the time, and I know a lot of people who do!
Based on your "post" I would say either pay the donation for the extra time.
Or ask....
I know the "ask" breaks the fantasy a bit. Sorry.
That said, she may return with "Nope, it's on me...Happy Birthday
A gal is flying into town, and I was to be her first client. The flight she ended up booking came in considerably earlier than she anticipated, and she texted me to ask if I would like to spend more time with her. Since we know each other very well (13 years) I could have interpreted that as an offer for free time, but instead I countered that my finances were a bit stretched, and as much as I would have loved to, I just couldn't swing it. She wrote back that she understood.
Subtle and polite communication is all that is needed
You mentioned you have a unique bond, so it should be very comfortable to just ask her directly. The way you have worded her suggestion of "blocking off extra time" does not possibly sound like she is giving you a little birthday gift since she could have easily said that. I have a few favored clients who have been weekly regular dates for a long time, or with whom I travel and they have been very generous with me and I adore their company. In those instances there is great chemistry and a level of friendship and I have made offers to them during the course of booking because spending time with them is fun and seamless. I always make the little bonus clear to them however so there is no confusion. I would never do that with someone whose company I did not enjoy. In a previous civilian job I had favorite business clients that I took care of because they paid their bills quickly, were a pleasure to interact with (and weren't a pain in the tuckus), were good people, and so I had no trouble packaging their overall services for billing as "efficiently" as possible.
I think this is true in many industries.
Hope you have fun on your birthday date whichever way it rolls!
ask me if I wanted to spend the night. I replied, "I hadn't planned on it financially". She said I could go to the ATM in the morning. I graciously declined her offer.
Another provider I had seen asked it we could switch the date since something came up. She offered an extra hour for my willingness to change the date. We had a marvelous time and yes, I will repeat. No, I will not expect an extra hour OTC.
She had seen me a bunch of times and offered extra time the next time we see each other as a kind of "buy back" like at a bar, you know, buy 3 drinks the 4th is on the bartender. So for 4 one hour sessions, the 5th would be a 2 hr for the price of 1 hr. It made me incredibly happy as she is pretty awesome. (Sorry guys she has a no review policy).
Posted By: scr5540
Donation. We have a unique bond for lack of a better word. Going to celebrate my birthday and long story short asked if I wanted to block off a little bit more time. How does one handle this? Up my donation to match the extra time based on her rates? Ask if she requires extra? Or leave it alone and considered it on the house?
