Okay, I need some advice here. I have had my eye on a provider for a while and contacted her to make a date. Went thru screening process then spoke by phone. Couldn't work out our schedules for that week so we discussed a later date. A few weeks later I contacted her again. This time we agreed on a day and time later in the week at her incall. We actually talked a for several minutes and seemed to click so I was very excited about our upcoming date. She told me that she would confirm and give me the location the day before our date. The day before arrives and I hadn't heard from her so I sent an email to try to confirm. Several hours later I haven't got a reply so I called her. No answer so I left a message. I tried one more call about an hour later with no luck. Next day (day of our scheduled date) I wait and hope she contacts me but I never hear from her. I did not try to contact her that day feeling I had done my part the day before and the ball was in her court now so to speak.
So my dilemma is what to do now. Should I try to contact her again? Should I wait to see if she contacts me with an explaination? Would you consider this a ncns? By the way she has fantastic reviews and is highly ranked on the national top 100 provider board.
No, it is not a NCNS. You did not go anywhere for her not to show up. Another thing. Just because a provider is highly ranked does not mean that she's not a flake. It just means that she ranks well when she shows up.
RIP Hank (nee Hiram) Williams Sr.
Never another like him.
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"She told me on Sunday she was checking me out" (checking my references)
"Along about Monday she was nowhere about"
(NCNS)![]()
be patient and try to communicate with her and reassure her that you are looking forward to a nice time and treating her well.
Fuck THEM! Get away from the bitch quickly. Thats why i don't give out screening info until the date/time are acceptable. They have no problem dictating to you what they expect; why should you continue to molly-coddle them?
Sorry to be so harsh; NOT!
"I'll beg for pussy, I'll pay for pussy, but I won't freakin' beg to pay for pussy".
So my dilemma is what to do now. Should I try to contact her again? Should I wait to see if she contacts me with an explaination? Would you consider this a ncns? By the way she has fantastic reviews and is highly ranked on the national top 100 provider board.
Maybe, I repeat maybe send one more e-mail saying sorry it didn't work out and then move on. I'd want to know what's up, but I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Move on and find another lady that will follow through. The only reason I say maybe send her that one last e-mail is crap happens and it may have happened to her. So I wouldn't close that door completely I just wouldn't knock again without hearing from her.
Nah, but seriously do what the other guys said. Move on. Unless she got hit by a bus, that's just plain fucking rude not getting back after everything was confirmed.
Yeah I know, me calling someone else rude. But still, the least she could've done was send a text or email saying she couldn't meet for whatever lame-ass reason even if it was a lie.
She flushed her cell phone down the toilet accidently and lost your number and hasn't got a new one yet.
or:
She forgot that she was scheduled to get her hair done that day and is too embarrassed to tell you.
or:
She is actually a foreign spy and has been picked up by the FBI.
or:
She is really an international smuggler and has been picked up by Interpol.
or:
She was ordered by ZXKRN to return to her home planet.
There could be other possibilites, but these are the most likely.
In other words: You'll never know and you shouldn't even bother trying to find out.
This shit happens all the time to everyone.
Her little sister broke her arm climbing on the Xmas tree and she had to take her to the Emergency Room where there is no cell phone service within a 10 block radius.
Her miniature poodle swallowed a chicken bone and she had to take her to the vet; the only vet in town where there is no cell phone service within half a mile.
She got a flat tire in a part of town with no cell phone service.
She got pulled over for a traffic violation and was so upset by it that she forgot the appointment and forgot to call you.
She left her cell phone at her friend's house and couldn't call you. She was going to email you about it from her laptop at Starbuck's, but she temporarily forgot her password.
The REAL reason? Quoting mrfisher, "You'll never know and you shouldn't even bother trying to find out. This shit happens all the time to everyone."
Better luck next year. Oh ... wait ... it IS next year! Have a Happy!
She was abducted by aliens and she's gang banging a bunch of little green men!
I think you should do what the guys on this board tell you to do, because you can't seem to make decisions on your own... ![]()
Would I consider this a NCNS... not technically but definitely a no call and a flake.
Would you consider this a ncns?
two tries is my limit. you could try again and maybe it will eventually work out. but seems she's just a typical flake and you'll spend more time chasing her than fucking her. and for what? plenty of other RELIABLE providers to see out there.
i once had similar flake-out issues with a provider i saw a few times but who occasionally would not follow through on confirmation communications. i made the serious mistake of assuming a level of professionalism and sending a gentle reminder when a communication didn't happened. this led to my being labeled as "demanding".
i should have moved on quickly and found someone with better business ethics to deal with.
I have an ongoing relationship with a provider that "fails to confirm" over 75% of the time. Knowing this, I make plans with her at least once a month on a Friday and am ready to see her if she confirms. I am also ready to do something else, like go to a strip club (one of several reasons I choose Fri evening) which I end up doing most of the time.
If a girl does not confirm, do not waste any time driving to her location. Be open to reschedule if she calls you back. Never pay anything up front for a hotel or any other bill you would be stuck with.
If she is as good as her reviews say, she may offer a little extra for your previous trouble.
My $0.02 based on experience.
A very well reviewed MILF who tours just North of my area. It is hard for me to get an opportunity to get to the city in between. I get the opportunity, make the booking, the night before we are all set. I was to call in the morning to see which hotel she's staying at. In the morning, she won't pick up. I tried a couple of times in case she was in the shower.
My guess is she could not get additional bookings in that location. I'd have appreciated a call or email, something! Just tell me NO! Really rude & she's not a newbie. This blew my rare opportunity & I would have booked with someone else. If she reads this she'll know who she is. I will NEVER give her a second chance. Fool me once...
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something could have happened to her to prevent her from calling.
You have put forth the effort to contact her and no response just wait for her response if you do receive one.
If not just move on there are many other ladies out there.
There is no way to know if something serious happened or if she is just a flake either way I am sure you can find another lady.
Sorry that happened to you!
This has happened to me with the same provider twice. Had appointments set up the day before and one the same day (3 hrs later). Both times no answer when it came time for the appointment. After the second one, I sent her an email politely letting her know that I didn't appreciate my time and opportunities to play being wasted. She told me she uses a phone service that she sometimes has trouble with and gave me her 'personal' number if I would like to try again. I know the excuse is bull and I really don't want to call again (so I can retain some level of self-respect!), but she would be absolutely perfect for me.
I forgot to add (see "Squirrel ate my homework", above):
I've been NCNS'd, late cancelled (world record: 1 minute early, as I was entering the lobby!), etc. and the manner of her follow up is very important.
The best of them: apologetic and generously made up for the spoiled opportunity. Secured the relationship and my repeat calls.
I was enroute when a sudden downpour made driving impossible. I tried, at great risk but the Interstate became a parking lot. I was actually in the high speed lane... stopped... as was everyone else in front & behind me... when I got through on the phone. I appologized & we were able to reschedule a few days later.
Another time, a long time Fav lady did not pickup when I was about to leave for a prebooked meeting & made the "on my way" call. I was annoyed. She eventually returned my call... she'd been called out of state when her sister passed away suddenly. (Sister, married with kids, was almost done chemo for breast cancer & doing well they thought... just died with no warning.) No, certain she was not making it up... something you just can't fake. Then I felt like a jerk. So leave a nice message, "hope she's ok" & see if you hear back.
I NEVER heard a word from "MS NO PICKUP" in my previous post.
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